To be snubbed?

[YourTicklishOchreBiscuit]

I've exchanged hundreds of messages with a mum friend who goes to the same nursery who I meet via a mutual friend. We've gone to events together a few times etc and friendship has been about 2 years.

She's just told me I'm not invited to her son's birthday party. She's having a couple of parties, some with nursery buddies but she said he's not invited. She stated her child is having a party and x,y,z from nursery but not my child.

Told her I thought we were closer and they are in the same room at nursery.

She's not responded.

Aibu

I wouldn't respond to that either

Why did you do that?

Because that's how I felt. I'm sorry but we've exchanged thousands of messages so is she a mum friend or not....children in the same nursery

Have a good think op. Have you said or done anything that may have caused offence without realising?

Nope. And if I did why message me about a birthday party and tell me I'm not invited? Because that's why she's done.

I can't see why she would text to let you know your son is not invited. On the face of it, it seems odd. Unless you kept o about it of course.

No she just posted a cake and I said "happy b day" and then she goes on to describe all the parties etc

Maybe the kids aren’t friends? Don’t play together? It’s the child’s party. I don’t invite my friends to my kid’s birthday parties, I invite their friends who they play with and want there. I don’t invite the kids of my friends unless they are also good friends with my kid. Parties get out of hand otherwise, and it should be about the birthday person.

You’re offended over nothing.

Op maybe make other friends people are either friends or not 'mum friends' dont exist

Maybe it is best to move on and get a life outside your child/ren?

Er what

She's a single mum by choice and she wants help and to network. So it's a bit of a weird way to do it.

She says they do play together. We also meet 1on1.

I guess people on this thread don't like people expressing heir opinion.

But thankfully the thousands of messages won't be any more.

You’re obviously not the friends you thought you were but we’re taking about nursery aged kids so I’d get over it. Your kid shouldn’t know and prob won’t care.

sounds like it's YOU who's not invited, and your child is suffering the consequences

The only thing I found rather odd was this...

"She's just told me I'm not invited to her son's birthday party."

Don't you mean your child?

Surely the main focus of anything to do with that nursery is your child?

Either way, I've let her know.

And I think its bizarre to constantly message someone if you don't like them.

My child isn't suffering anything. I've done nothing wrong but help her

Yeah I think it's bizarre to list all these birthdays you are having and who's coming and not invited someone who you are close with, and children know each other.

This is why you don't list birthday parties and who's coming.

Yeah I think my point whooshed you to be fair.

Why are you more worried about the fact YOU haven't been invited, rather than your child?

It would be the adult who would be coming with the child. It's a stay and play type thing.

It's a real snub imo. No need to go into great deal abit who you are inviting, imo and yes it feels like a snub.

She's disabled and I've offered help numerous times, to which I don't even get an acknowledgement. She sends hundreds of messages every month. Etc and we've meet yo 121.

So bizarre tbh

It would have been kind to invite your child, it’s their loss don’t dwell on it

Yeah I get what you mean. I also feel like I've been snubbed and rubbed it in my face..our kids hang out

Yes and thankfully I don't have to speak to her again as she's made no amends to heal the relationship.

maybe she doesn't dislike you as such , but you are too full on, and frankly a pain in the neck in a group, and other people breath better when you and your opinions are not there.

Not the case.

Me and my opinions? Weird

She can also stop messaging me then

You seem very overinvested.

It’s a party. Your kid is unlikely to realise they haven’t been invited.

You might want to get a bit of perspective before school starts.