To find "Mrs" in a work email signature a bit cringe

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Just that really, is this a new thing or I'm just noticing it more nowadays that some female colleagues have Mrs first name last name on their email signatures where the norm is just names + job title etc. I've never seen a male colleague's email signature be "Mr X" and i'd find that equally odd to be honest. Unless it's a professional title like Dr or Professor AIBU to think putting your personal title in an email signature a bit cringe ?

It is cringe.

Quite common in education / schools

When so many people these days are so easily offended by being misgendered, even when it's accidental, I don't understand why you're so triggered by somebody making it clear how they would like to be addressed.

Tbh, if anybody attempts to call me Mrs X I find it "cringe"!!! Yuck!

It's not about being "triggered", Not every interaction needs to invoke the language of psychiatry. It's just a Mumsnet thread.

But you're not being addressed that what is the point? Unless you expect people to respond to your email calling you Mrs X?

@Bikergran also find anyone using triggered in that way quite cringe

I work in academia and sometimes in meeting minutes etc they put me as Mrs, but I'm the only one on the team who isn't a Dr or a Professor so maybe that is why.
I'd never do it myself.

Is there a push in your team to use pronouns? Easier to just put Miss, Ms or Mrs.

This.

I once worked with someone who put it in brackets, which I found even weirder.

Jane Smith (Mrs)
Job Title
Company

It definitely wasn't "a thing" at our workplace so I'm not sure why she felt it was necessary.

*Frugalgal · Today 17:40
notacooldad · Today 16:03
*Ive seen it and i really dont care.(
I find it odd that you think its 'cringe
It is cringe.

Whether something is cringe is just an opinion.

I dont have feelings towards it one way or another.
If people want to refer to themselves by a title that's up to them.

People usually have their own reasons why they want to be referred to in a certain way. I respect their decision to do so. It makes no difference to myself.
However it is very judgemental to refer to their decisions as 'cringe'

30+ years ago in the Civil Service it was incredibly common. But also, nobody put their given names, so John Smith would just be J Smith. Therefore, to indicate that she was female, Jane Smith would sign as J Smith (Mrs) or (Miss).
I did it before & after marriage.... I wouldn't do it now, but it was the norm then, so I didn't question it.
(Obviously, this was for letters, as emails didn't exist.
Files would have Mr Smith, Mrs Jones etc written in the front for next recipient).

I've never seen a male colleague's email signature be "Mr X"

Can you really not figure out why?

In a formal setting all correspondence should begin title surname.

It's better than the pronouns bullshit at least

It provides information should the need arise to send a formal letter rather than an email. This does occasionally happen, even in this day and age.

I’ve never seen this and yeah I’d find it incredibly weird unless you’re like a dinner lady or something

In 2026?

I work in a secondary school - I always email parents as Mr, Mrs (or whatever the title is) last name.

My email signature is just Firstname Lastname as are many colleagues but equally (and it appears nothing to do with age, sex or marital status) many use Title Initial Lastname.

When parents email me back some put Dear firstname and other Dear Mrs Lastname.

i don’t see peoples personal preferences as being anything to find cringe or get worked up about!

I like to know whether the sender is male or female .
It's not always obvious with non-English forenames, or Chris, Les etc.

The problem is that the tone of your original email and your use of the word cringe did sound melodramatic and it did sound as though you were putting people down regarding their personal choices, very judgemental. What was wrong with simply asking why some people use Mrs Firstname Surname?

yup

I do find it hilarious that those who claim to be feminists, berate other women for their choices. I’m a Mrs, not a Ms. I like using it. I don’t care what other women chose to do, they should be comfortable with their choices.

I really, really don’t care how women want to address themselves