To find "Mrs" in a work email signature a bit cringe

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Just that really, is this a new thing or I'm just noticing it more nowadays that some female colleagues have Mrs first name last name on their email signatures where the norm is just names + job title etc. I've never seen a male colleague's email signature be "Mr X" and i'd find that equally odd to be honest. Unless it's a professional title like Dr or Professor AIBU to think putting your personal title in an email signature a bit cringe ?

I wouldn't personally. I dislike the term Mrs. Why do women need a term which identifies them as married?

I never use one, unless it’s relevant at work, and it’s my ‘Dr’ (PhD) title. I work in a university, and that’s kind of standard.
The only person I notice who uses a ‘Mr’, as it happens, is a colleague with a Russian name which we might see as being female here (Sasha). It’s the only time I can really see it being relevant.

Anyway, I just don’t really ‘get’ the way women change title when they marry. It’s not like any other life event changes it - and more importantly, men don’t! I hate having to put a title, and when forced, I use ‘Ms’. Unless I’m feeling particularly arsey, when I insist on my ‘Dr’! 🤣

@1000StrawberryLollies I suppose by cringe I just mean I find it overly formal for internal emails of it's not a professional title related to your role

I always just used my name.

If addressing women I use Ms

I agree with this.

I think of emails a bit closer to a text, and I'd cringe if people wanted me to refer to them as "Mrs X" over text

I can recall a new male colleague telephonng me and intriducing himself as Mr Joe Bloggs the (job title). I said congradulations. When he asked what I meant I told him that it sounded so pretentious to announce himself in this way and "Hello, Im Joe Bloggs the new (job title)" would have sounded so much more professional. Since all men are addressed as Mr the title was entirely redundant.

I agree. I briefly worked for a very old-fashioned organisation where people did this and I found it utterly cringeworthy.

Your marital status isn't going to be relevant in a professional context (unless you're a hostess or something). It can only be people who want to telegraph that they are married because they think it gives them some sort of special social status. It's a bit pathetic.

I don’t find it odd that it means enough to her to make the distinction. Not what I do but I don’t give my pronouns either.

Does it matter OP. Can't you just live and let live. I mean, using cringe like you have makes you sound about 12.

It's just a way of putting these women down for their personal choices.

I find it odd that you find it odd that the OP thinks it’s cringe

Ha ha. Yes!

I have seen it a few times. I do think it’s a bit odd, like they somehow think you care that they’re married.

But then I think there should only be one universal title (other than professional titles) for women, the same as for men.

Considering there are so many types of work signatures now, with pronouns etc, I wouldn't bat an eyelid at this.

Never changed mine when I married and if forced to use one on a form will use Ms but that's generally where something insists on a title, I'd never use one otherwise. Professional titles really helpful and relevant to the content of an email and I usually use someone's professional title when corresponding if we're strangers at first. If this was older women then I'd think maybe they've just always written their name that way but these are young women.

You earnt that Dr title with a lot of hard work, not arsey at all to insist on it!

I've seen it once or twice when someone has a gender neutral name, presumably to clarify gender. In other circumstances I would find it odd.

For some reason I would picture someone age 50+ doing it!

I think cringe is the right word! Similarly still stating their name then "nee (maiden name)", several years after getting married.

Is it making you cringe 😂 live and let live right?

I think it’s weird.

Blimey.
It all comes round again.
I am late 50s and was seen as quite radical as refusing to use Mrs. Some people would address me as Ms, but rapidly just first name, last name. Mind you when I started work, managers were always called Mr so and so.

I've occasionally done this as my name is predominantly male.

A former colleague of mine did this…but only after her divorce! 😄

I havent seen this since the eighties!

It is seen occasionally in my sector (academic) as Dr, Prof etc are used so those without use Mr, Mrs, Ms followed by their quals but even then it is pretty uncommon.

eg on our structure chart I am Ms X Fancycatslave MBA, PG Dip, BSc (Hons) and our Dean is Prof Jane Blahblah…..