To find "Mrs" in a work email signature a bit cringe

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Just that really, is this a new thing or I'm just noticing it more nowadays that some female colleagues have Mrs first name last name on their email signatures where the norm is just names + job title etc. I've never seen a male colleague's email signature be "Mr X" and i'd find that equally odd to be honest. Unless it's a professional title like Dr or Professor AIBU to think putting your personal title in an email signature a bit cringe ?

find it odd that you find it odd that the OP thinks it’s cringe
I find it odd that you find it odd that I find it odd that the OP thinks its a bit cringe to be honest! 🤷‍♀️

To me a cringe is going "..okay?" at something a bit embarrassing rather than anything thats upset me but I think it's clear who on this thread may have Mrs in their email title as they're quite easily upset by some of us finding it cringe.

Sorry. Thread has moved on since I posted this.

It makes me laugh. I know someone whose professional work email address is "[email protected]

I also know people who put their standard qualifications eg Mrs Jane Smith BA Eng when it has nothing to do with their job. I know they are proud of it but it's a bit daft.

The qualifications part affects me not one jot so I gently roll my eyes and move on.

The Mrs affects all women. I've just changed all my documents to Ms.

I see that a few times on MN, but I never see anyone using "Ms" in real life, either at work or privately. I know it exits, but it's not as common as people make it to be.

Is it normal in your industry to address your colleagues as Miss/Mrs/Mr Smith, then? I don't think that's common in most workplaces.

I haven't seen it. I don't really know anyone who uses Mrs. If they were trying to signify that they are female, why not use Ms? Do they really want people in work to know they are married? Odd.

I do. I know lots of people who do.

Do the unmarried women you know use Miss?

Now you’re being ridiculous.

It’s unprofessional. First name, surname and job title is sufficient.

Never seen this but would be very annoyed!

How weird. I've not seen that. If I did I'd assume they were from another country/culture and first language was not English.

I thought we were moving away from needing to prefix names with Mr/s etc. I used Ms if forced by drop down lists etc but would rather just use my first and last name. The first bit seems unnecessary.

I dislike 'Miss/Mrs' anyway as it feels like women needing to show if they are single or not when it's private and of nobody's concern.

You're putting women down for their personal choices with your use of the word 'cringe'.

I'm not sure why you'd think no-one can see that?

Do you think we're all stupid?

I think of emails a bit closer to a text, and I'd cringe if people wanted me to refer to them as "Mrs X" over text
I dont find them comparable to texts.
Texts , to me are more informal.

My DS works in a shop where the managers are still known as Mr/Mrs. It seems so old fashioned. At my DD school the teachers are known by their first names that weirds me out. 🤣

Women I know all use Ms, married or not. I'd assume someone was a child if I saw Miss.

@BauhausOfEliott I get contacted from people outside my actual workplace via email, from people who don’t know me. Most will address me by my first name but if people are being more formal then default does seem to be Ms (which I don’t use)

Oh god I've only seen this once and made me equally cringe. Not really relevant that you've got a BA in fashion design and if anything is just highlighting to me that you're not using your qualification as you're emailing from the customer service team...this is what makes me think people are using it to "match" those with titles.kr qualifications relevant to their job role in their signature.

I think most use Mrs too.

I can't remember what I used before getting married, but certainly not Miss. I probably used Mrs too.

Exactly! Miss or Mrs is weird to me, v old school

I do use my professional title (RGN) on occasion, but after my name. I only do this as I work in a very professionally diverse team and it makes it easier for external stakeholders. And as I say, I don't do it routinely, it is context-specific.

A 50 yo friend is emphatic about using "Miss", which I find terribly odd. I wouldn't dream of using "Mrs" in any context at all.

I sometimes put (Mrs) after my first name+surname as I have a first name that’s very commonly used by both males and females - helps avoid getting referred to as Mr subsequently or getting phone calls asking to speak to Mr Cortex.

Huh? The unmarried women you know use Mrs??? Why?

come on, be consistent.

If it's unprofessional, then so are wedding rings.

Since when is a title "unprofessional"? First name, surname and job title is sufficient. In your opinion.

Not everyone has a first name obviously male or female, and not everyone only works in a little office in the UK. Titles can be useful.

Nah, you earned that Dr title. I’d use that on everything! 🤝

Far less "cringe" than she/her, which really annoys me. We've had a perfectly good system forever using Mr, Ms, Miss, Mrs.