@90sTrifle
I wasn’t being vicious or ageist, I am simply seeing it from a child’s point of view. Many children do get embarrassed when their school friends accidentally say, your nan’s here to collect you, or is that your grandad?. It’s embarrassing for them that’s all.
But that could just as easily apply the other way around. In my social circle it was fairly unusual for people to have children under the age of 30. If a very young mum had come to the school gates to pick their kid up at my daughter's primary school some people could have thought she was an older sister. So what? Why should your entire approach to fertility be shaped by other narrow-minded people's views? Anyway we're talking about people in their 40s, not 60s.
Also, I know a couple whereby they have two teenagers and the mum has been pushing the dad around in a wheelchair since having a serious stroke at the age of 60. These teenagers have for obvious reasons had their childhood restricted in what the family are capable of doing together. It also hasn’t been nice for them to watch their parents suffering for the past decade.
But people can become seriously ill at any age. I've had friends sadly die in their 20s and 30s.
My point is, as an older parent, there’s a lot to consider on behalf of an unborn child before taking the plunge to have that child. It’s just selfish otherwise
Of course but again you can turn that argument on its head and say it's selfish to have children before you've established yourself and have a career and a source of income because they are much more likely to have less money and therefore fewer opportunities.
Both positions are ignorant and don't tell the whole truth.
And anyway, people don't always have control over their fertility. So factoring in the opinions of small-minded stickybeaks about when you had children should be very far down the list of priorities for parents.