Rude Neighbour

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Next door neighbour had their second child in December.

When I saw my neighbour I congratulated her and said let me know when I can pop round we’ve got a present for you.

didn’t hear anything so next time I seen her I mentioned it again.

We did hear anything so I mentioned this to our neighbours on the other said, they said the same happened to them so they just past the present over.

It is now March and still nothing, neighbour thinks we should pass the present over like they did, I think parents are being rude.

AIBU to return the gift and get my money back?

Regardless of whether they have children or not some peole just want to be private and keep themselves to themselves. Its not rud eor spiteful. Just a preference. I would hand over the present briefly with a card and then leave the neighbour for a bit. Dont push things.

Do they have your number, or are you expecting them to knock on the door and say you can bring your present over now? Its a bit awkward.

She's probably exhausted, and not particularly fussed about either a visit from a neighbour or a baby gift. It's weird to build up the delivery like this - just knock on the door and drop it off, or leave it in the porch. You don't need an appointment, it's just another thing for a tired parent to have to think about.

I think the spirit of a new baby gift is to welcome the baby and let the family know you're happy for them. It shouldn't be thought of as a way of gaining access to the house at what can be a very tiring and difficult time for the new parents.

Ick to expecting entry to the house.

Just drop the gift at the door and leave them in peace.

Did you live in Ireland by any chance?

I'd feel super rude saying "can I have my present now?" Just go round fgs

😄 no, but just across the water in rural Wales! We have a lot of friends in Ireland and there are definitely some similarities, it's usually the back/side door too, never, ever the front door 😄

Ireland here... and yes I often have close friends arrive in the door 😂

You sound very entitled OP. It’s lovely that you were thoughtful and bought a gift for the baby as that is a very kind gesture.
However, getting pissy that you’ve not been able to pop round to give it is not right.
The last thing I wanted to do with my newborn is to have an immaculately clean house and be available for random visitors.
I wanted to have a nap, express breast milk, have a shower, have uninterrupted cuddle time with my baby and chill out.
Leave the gift on the doorstep with a card but don’t automatically expect that you will be invited in.

Bloody hell are you always this rude to other people? What on earth has OP done to you?

I don't understand what you want. You saw her - surely the normal thing to have done is say 'can you hang on there a sec, I've got a present for you' and nip and get it and hand it over.

If you're expecting to be invited into a relative stranger's house, and presumably made a cup of tea or whatever, thats a bit of an imposition.

If you want a chat over tea and biscuits, invite her to you!