Rude Neighbour

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Next door neighbour had their second child in December.

When I saw my neighbour I congratulated her and said let me know when I can pop round we’ve got a present for you.

didn’t hear anything so next time I seen her I mentioned it again.

We did hear anything so I mentioned this to our neighbours on the other said, they said the same happened to them so they just past the present over.

It is now March and still nothing, neighbour thinks we should pass the present over like they did, I think parents are being rude.

AIBU to return the gift and get my money back?

Your being weird and intrusive.

You are the one that's rude inviting yourself over!

Yabu

I said let me know when I can pop round we’ve got a present for you

Ugh I’d hate it if someone left it to me to initiate receiving a gift.

‘ Hi neighbour, we’re ready to receive your gift now ‘ would be way to weird of a text for me to send.

Surely normal neighbourly exchange would be to call to the door, congratulate, hand over gift and wish them a good day.

Some people don't want to be on more than nodding terms with their neighbours. They certainly don't want them traipsing through their house. I suspect yours is one of them.

Exactly!

Jeez, this really sounds like overthinking. Are you trying to test their manners in some way? Just take it round!

Well to be honest to be honest if it's next door neighbour and you've got a present for them I'd have gone round by now to give them it. What's the worst they can say? Sorry now's not a good time to come in? In which case you don't go in. I can't see a reason why you wouldn't drop a present round that you've got!

You’re the one being the rude neighbour by trying to force your way into their house.

What a weird situation. When I had my babies, people I knew very well and people I knew vaguely would just drop in, knock on the door, and come and say hi, all sorts of randoms and their kids popped by (where I live people you know very well literally just walk in the house sometimes without waiting for the door to be answered!).

I imagine she's exhausted, her house might be a tip and the thought of inviting someone over and therefore having to tidy up properly prepare tea and snacks is just something she can't manage. If she's already a friend, you could knock on the door, acknowledge this and offer to pop in and make her a cup of tea, cuddle the baby while she has a nap. But it's quite weird to expect her to give you an official invite for you to present her with a present!

Don't go giving the OP ideas now! 🤣

I can imagine her knocking on the neighbour's door, hiding behind a large plant pot, and then elbowing her way in armed with a pack of baby vests with the days of the week on them 👀😁

Just drop the gift off in the porch. Stop making this about you coming round for a visit to bathe in the gift glory.

Leave it on her door and pat yourself on the back of how good a person you are to buy a present for the sake of it and not expect one single thing back in return.

Let's hope the present isn't a homemade lasagne 😬😁

Yes, that's the other thing too, she's probably got a million things on her sleep deprived mind right now and her neighbour is now expecting her to negotiate a strange social interaction and be the one to initiate a weird present giving session!

I know your coming from a good place but I would hate my neighbours in my house 🙈
I would just give them a knock and pass it over.

It would be rude and weird of her to bang the wall/stand outside and shout 'give me the gift!'.
You shouldn't have asked repeatedly for an invitation into her house.

If you had actually intended it as a gift, you would have handed it over there and then, or rung the doorbell and handed it over.

Instead, you are demanding to go into their home.

You are correct that there is a Rude Neighbour in this story.

Can you call around and give us our pressie please? Cop yourself on and leave it on the doorstep. You can't invite yourself to someone's house. You are the rude one.

When mine were babies, my house was a tip, I was a state and spent most of my time with a boob hanging out and puke stains down my clothes. I flippin HATED people coming to my house apart from close friends and family. The thought of someone coming in would have meant a full house tidy which is the last thing you want with a baby!

You’ve been expecting your neighbour to contact you and tell you ‘I’m ready to receive your present now’? You’re being weird! She is probably thinking, ‘how odd of them to tell me they’ve bought my baby a present and then not give us it?’
Anyone else would have just handed over the present during the initial interaction, or popped over, knocked and said ‘congrats here’s a present from us’. Ffs

Why are you being so nosey and intrusive? Weird as fuck.

Yes you are indeed a rude neighbour

Why didn’t you just give her the present there and then?

Insisting that she contacts you in order to arrange a time for you to bring your gift round is weird and intrusive. It implies the gift is conditional on an invitation.

You are being odd and intrusive expecting to be invited in to hand over the gift. Do it on the doorstep and don't be bothering them.