This happened a few years ago now but it was recently brought up again by someone so it’s back in my mind again.
About 8 years ago I went to Ibiza with a friend “M”. She was desperate to go as she’d been a single mum for years and finally her son’s dad was taking him away for a week so she wanted to book Ibiza for a long weekend. I personally considered myself a bit “old” (38) and knackered for Ibiza clubbing but agreed to go. The first two nights were great fun! Out until the early hours etc! The final night we’d been to a bar/club place and it was closing so we were starting to walk back to the hotel (it was about 4am).
About half way back we came across a group of 6 “lads”. All much younger than us. They looked about 20-25 (but everyone looks young to me so could have been a bit older). They started chatting to us and ended up inviting us back to their hotel. They said it was quite a distance away but they had cars and there was space in them for us. I immediately said no but my friend started saying come on let’s go it’ll be fun! I told her there wasn’t a chance I was getting in a car with random blokes who had likely been drinking and going god knows where. The lads started calling me boring etc and my friend was agreeing with them. They were all hugging her saying yeah this one is fun ignore your crap friend etc. I tried to pull her to the side and told her this was a bad idea. We don’t know them. There’s 6 of them. They aren’t “interested” in us in a good way - we’re likely 10-15 years older than them at least. And I am not going to put myself in danger. Her reply was “so you’re going to leave me?? You’re seriously going to leave me in the middle of Ibiza by myself?? Some friend you are!” Etc. The blokes who had gathered around again were agreeing again with her. I told her I was going back to the hotel and I really thought she should come. This went on for a good 10 mins back and forth. Long story short she went with them and I went back to the hotel.
Thankfully she was fine and came back to the hotel around 11am. We were flying home that evening. She did not speak to me the entire day and changed her seat on the plane away from me. She told all mutual friends how I “left her” on holiday. (It’s probably split 50/50 between friends who is on who’s “side” but no one has fallen out with either of us). I sent her a text once asking her why it’s me leaving her? Why was it not her leaving me? We were both walking to the hotel and she changed the plan. So she technically left me. I told her at the end of the day she’s an adult and responsible for herself. But she said I should have “made sure she was safe”.
Anyway was I unreasonable to “leave” her that night? I doubt we’ll ever rekindle the friendship now anyway but as I said it was just brought up again by a mutual friend at the weekend.