To be worried in case our troops end up at war?

[CarriedAWayy]

We are a military family. I met DH when I was 19, some nearly 20 years ago now. DH has done some operational tours in that time but we now have two children and I am more fearful of war now than ever. I know this is part and parcel of being married to a soldier, but it doesn’t change the worry and fear.

As it happens, my husband is currently deployed and contact is minimal, so I can’t talk to him about my fears. I can’t really ask anyone in my circle, because I don’t want to push my worries onto my friends who are in the same position.

What do people think the likelihood is of our soldiers ending up at war again?

YABU - it’s unlikely to happen
YANBU - it’s likely to happen

How on earth does that help??

Fortunate for whom?

What's wrong with marriage?

I'm betraying my age but I remember Colin Powell's powerpoint presentation to the UN security council with "Iraqi weapons of mass destruction" and Tony Blair's "Iraq is 40 mins away from hitting our bases in Cyprus" claim. But every 20-30 years a new generation grows up that is oblivious of recent past and does not possess critical thinking skills

Ah yes I'm sure there are always perfectly good reasons why the children of those who start "wars of choice" never have to participate in them. I'm obviously not talking about wholesale conflagrations such as WWI and WWII.

On a similar note, Pink Floyd's "Corporal Clegg".

I think it’s a bit dd to join the military and think it’s adventure. It’s clearly not. It means everyone worries but it’s a known possible consequence.

It doesn't matter what people's reasons are for joining. We all need the military, just the same as we need teachers and bin men.

But it doesn't mean people shouldn't worry about them in a war situation.
Politicians need to be cautious on how they are deployed too.

The military does a lot beside go to war, although everyone who joins knows its a possibility, it doesnt mean its any less worrying for their families. Threads like this make me hopeful conscription comes back so the risk will be shared out more evenly.

I kind of hope the rest of NATO tells America that seeing as America has said it's not going to help anyone else and everyone 'needs to stand on their own two feet' militarily, that America can do the same and finish this mess with only Israel.

Doubt they will though.

While I agree the military does a lot more than go to war.
I don't think anyone wants to see subscription and young people half trained being put into a war situation.

I was 19. Bit young to be married

Bit young to have a child too 🤷‍♀️.

Yeah well it happens

If you wanted the benefits of being married, you could have just done it though.

I don’t think there will be boots on the ground unless they are peacekeeping.
Everything is A.I. and drones nowadays.

As mother to a teen son, I absolutely dread any possibility of conscription.

Respect to the military. I couldn't do it.

but each event could be true, new enemies new ideas same weapons tech etc so all could be true , as a question if they were stopped under powell, does that mean all groups or individuals will not acquire nukes or other fission materials etc ? they only need to be sucessful once,

Yeah, I agree. I'd quite like Keir Starmer to have said, 'this is what happens when you piss off your allies' when refusing military help to Trump. Hypothetically. Obviously it would be a diplomatic disaster if he did say it.

Lol. Seriously. Irrelevant to the thread . And it's not the case nowadays anyway so obviously the forces have moved into more modern times.

It still wouldn't have affected the fact he was away fighting when my daughter was born would it. Even military WIVES don't go to the battlefield

Op I understand your worries. I’m not military, but I do completely understand it. We are in limbo, so you’re filled with questions and worries. And no one can answer them.

not sure why some people are being knobs. But I get it. I’m sure there used to be a military section on here somewhere

Netanyahu has been warning that the threat of an Iranian nuclear bomb is 'imminent' for over 30 years now. Hmmmm.

It's the case still in the US army. I'm aware that military wives don't go to battle, as I am one lol.

Well I'm not likely to ever be involved with the US army am I?

So you agree being married doesn't make any difference when the men are away so why are you picking

Agree, it's such a dickish response.

My sister is a 999 call handler. I cannot imagine anyone telling her "stop being upset about listening in to that suicide, you knew what you were signing up for"