School trip to NYC this Friday.......

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AIBU ti think School should be contacting parents to advise of the current situation....

Our 15 yo DD is due to travel to NYC this Friday with School for 5 days, given the current state and everything going on involving the US I imagine the threat to the US and certainly places such as NYC will be on extreme high alert.

As it stands I'm not 100% comfortable with her going now and I know I will be a nervous wreck the entire time she is there (if it goes ahead). this is the first trip of this sort I've any experience with, does anyone have any advice on what measures etc School will be putting in place or if this is a risk School will likely even take by allowing the trip to go ahead?

so far we have heard nothing at all from School not even an text or email to state they are looking into it etc.

Just cancel your DD's trip. You can't cope. You're sounding panicky, lacking in perspective, hysterical. The benefits will not outweigh the costs if you are talking like this at this stage, plus you'll make the school's life hellish. And you risk infecting your child with your mentality.

Just pull out now. New York will always be here, she can go another time.

Yours, a MN-er who's just dropped her kids off at school in....NYC 🙄

thank you :)

I think its perfectly natural to worry about your child if they are far away from you (a trip to NY would count as far away if you are in the UK!) I am sure the talk of mass flight cancellations (even though they are not in that region) and the idea of someone as unhinged as Trump being in charge of the country your child is travelling to would make any parent take a deep breath. So...take a deep breath! The school will have so many risk assessments for this trip that, in the unlikely event they think it is unsafe, they will tell you.

It was Severe for 16 years, and Substantial for the last four. Are you suggesting that tourists to the UK should have reconsidered over all that time?

Thanks for the replies some have been really helpful and have put my mind at ease a little...... Heard from DD the kids have spoken with staff this morning and the trip is currently going ahead as planned. DD is a little worried but I have told her she will be fine and in safe hands with Teachers....despite me still being a nervous wreck lol!

Many of you totally jumped at me and tried to make me look and feel stupid. I am well aware of where the "trouble" is currently but I am also well aware of the repercussions that can and I would likely predict will come of all this. In addition I am also aware of the already hostile environments in parts of the US and this is what my worries were based on.

I suggest you think 9/11! I can understand OP’s concern as though Iran’s missiles can’t hit the US, there are plenty of insurgents who will want to retaliate! Trump is now a marked man in the eyes of the radicals and who knows what may happen. Would I go to the US currently, probably not!

I don't think you're stupid. However, there is a far greater risk in the US from domestic terrorism than from any retaliatory attacks. You weren't worried at all about domestic terrorists prior to the US attacking Iran, were you?

I don't think you should feel stupid. It's just a bit of a take a deep breath and try to think rationally situation.

I can also assure you that while you're absolutely correct about already hostile environments in parts of the US, that isn't the case in NYC.

Have you ever been? I think people who haven't tend to have an image of it as some kind of teeming monolith, when, in fact, it's a city of fabulously vibrant neighbourhoods and great diversity and attractions.

I'm sure she'll have a fab time!

“These people”

…… I presume you mean trump?

there was a distant concern of course there was but yes as you can imagine this has all made it a little more concerning. She has never travelled this far without us either and has been so excited for the trip as we have been for her.

School will be doing a risk assessment, no doubt whatsoever.

It could all end by Thursday - the world or the war or both!

Personally I'd have been concerned when booking this trip a year ago, not just this week. (But not just for safety reasons)

If you pull your daughter out you'll loose the lot.

If the Home Office say trips are out (unlikely) then she won't go, you should get your money back(?)

These posts are exactly what I’d expect from MN…the minds were lost a long time ago.

I would be wary too - the US is at war with Iran, and I'd worry about terrorist attacks in New York.

No advice, but I'm surprised that so many pps are saying that you're unreasonable to worry.

What is school going to advise you of?

Because even with the heightened risk of a terror attack OPs daughter is more likely to die in a car crash on the way to the airport than she does being caught up in a terror attack.
The actual risk to an individual person of being caught up in a terror attack is less than 1 in a million.
To put that into perspective a healthy 16 year old has a 1 in 50,000 chance of dying suddenly of natural causes.
The risk to any one person as an individual of being caught up in a terror attack really is vanishingly small.
People need to relearn how to risk assess and look at actual data rather than panicking on social media because the daily mirror says tbe world is ending.

Having read your latest posts, you are taking the right approach in reassuring your daughter and hiding your fears. Operating on the assumption that we might be around the same age, do you remember the 2005 London attacks? I was 18 at the time and was due to go to London the week after. My family were absolutely hysterical about it, luckily I was influenced by a friend's mum who said that this was the safest time to be going to London as there would be increased security at the major tourist sites. Ultimately I'm thankful that I did go as I think staying at home would have reinforced the idea that London was this big scary place to be avoided.

In US. OP, your fears aren't unfounded. In US some people are concerned about strikes here. But at this point no one is changing their plans or not going to US cities. Frankly NYC is not on the list of prime military targets. The primary targets would be highly stocked military bases. I would go to NYC this weekend and I would allow my kids to go.

Get over yourself OP, expecting everything sorted by a Monday lunchtime, when they've only just returned after half-term.🙄🙄🙄
SO glad I'm no longer in teaching and having to deal with daft parents like you.

I live not far away from NYC and I will tell you that no one has changed anything about how they live their lives. Honestly, this country has been in such turmoil since the despicable moron has become president that the end of the world could be on our doorsteps and we would never notice.

What is there to look into? You know what's going on. You have to make this decision for yourself.

I don't blame you OP. We've had a few years without terrorism incidents and this is highly likely to change now.

However, I'd be letting her go and trying not to let my fears affect her.

YANBU to worry at all.

I think people jumped on you because you talked about the school doing a vague something about it . The school can not and should not be expected to allay the fears of individual parents . What could they possibly state in an email . I hope you can rationalise your concerns and try to be positive and encouraging to your DD . The only thing she needs to be afraid of is how freezing cold it can be . Dress warmly 🗽

Obviously

Irans
missiles can’t reach the US Terrorism is a possibility but I’d say slim but not to say it wont happen over the next few years.

Iran does have ballistic missiles that can hit London so that’s more concerning tbh.