To wonder to what extent second shift/mental load/wifework is caused by men being more likely to work full-time and overtime?

[Carla786]

Obviously if someone does work overtime/full time, they should still do whatever they can to ease their partner's load and be an involved parent. But if a couple has one person (of either sex) working part time, and one working full-time/more often overtime, it makes sense the first person would do more housework etc, at least to some degree.
But I'm wondering how much of a factor it is in the issues of the second shift/mental load etc Studies show men tending to overestimate how much housework they do- but do couples who both work full-time or both work part-time have more equality in who does housework & childcare?
I think that is the most informative comparison, since if a couple has one person working full-time/often overtime it doesn't mean they should leave everything else to their partner who works part-time, but it does play into the issue.

Why do some men prefer to be at thr office or out for work drinks? Do they feel under pressure from work?

Some jobs are demanding and need long hours, especially in sectors/businesses where there are a lot of demands and not a lot of people. In some jobs if tasks don't get done there are real consequences; if the housework doesn't get done for a day or two then so what?

Good point, I agree mainly.

Time with kids is more important than housework though. But sometimes you have to be out late if you have that kind of job, I agree.