How would you rate your life?

[SlipperyGhost]

I’ve just done a “life audit” and entered it into Chat GPT 🙈 Chat GPT wouldn’t rate my life out of 10 but Gemini AI gave me 7.5 out of 10 (scoring lower due to going through a separation/divorce which hasn’t been amicable and lots of difficulties around co-parenting. Sandwich generation too so elderly parents and children to care for, plus one disabled child)

So things like -
Money
Work
Relationships
Friendships
Health
Hobbies
Travel
Home
Children etc
Family
Personal progression and studies

How would you rate your life?

I am 45, slim, healthy, I have a nice home and a job I enjoy, I have friends to do fun stuff with, my personal life is a car crash though 🙈

About an 8.

My ds is 17, happy and flourishing.
My house will be paid for in a couple of months.
I'm 62 and could retire fairly soon
I've almost finished renovating our home.
I live in a nice place with friends and good neighbours
My pension is adequate.
I'm healthy

Finances could always be better and I have no partner but no major stresses.

God, that's a tough one.

Mine is a lot less stable than most women my age I think.

But I have had, and continue to have, some amazing adventures. Also huge career satisfaction, and a great relationship with my only child.

It's so hard to make an overall judgement. Surely we all choose our poison, in the end.....

I personally would rate mine probably a 9, but well aware that it would probably be someone else’s 1😂

2 under 2 but I love it, healthy, an amazing husband and relationship, great friends, amazing family, no current health issues for anyone other than some cervical cell issues for me which are in the process of being dealt with, no financial worries, currently on mat leave but love my job although it can be intense and stressful it suits me well, we have lots of trips and holidays booked this year starting next week, own our lovely home although mortgage not paid off but very manageable and we love it here. Yes life can be chaotic with a young family but I am really so happy, my -1 is for being tired with two young children😂

Mines very good now except a health blip but I’m almost 60, and you can’t deny genetic flaws, no one can diet and exercise their way out of genetics completley.

If my DD hadn’t died 12 years ago I would have rated it absolutely top tier.

I retired at 54, have a 30 year relationship with a man that still interests me and makes me laugh. Enjoyed my careers. Have a DS who did very well academically and had his degree paid for by his employer so has zero debt, he has a lovely hardworking GF who has a great family.

We live in a very nice road, have zero money worries, have lots of friends, great neighbours.

I have done a lot in my life, retrained totally in my mid twenties, have tried huge amounts of hobbies, travelled a fair amount, met a lot of politicians of various colours. Was involved with the equal pay for work of equal value campaign when I was very young and campaigning for women’s rights.

I had to have an emergency operation when I was 40. My sister in her own way tried to help by saying well if you die you will still have done more than most do in a lifetime and I must say as a fellow practical realist she was totally correct.

4
mentally ill child
nice job crap money
marriage a bit rocky
nice friends
healthy and fit

1. 9 only minus is a genetically acquired health problem which is under control.

43, in a relationship (not married), have one 13 year old son (would have liked another but it wasn't to be), still renting (got deposit just waiting for solicitors to sort out the legals of a deceased family estate to bump that deposit up so will be looking to buy soon), have a very small circle of friends compared to my 20s but time changes and people move on, I play netball and swim so exercise twice a week, ds is doing ok at school and has lots of friends and sports clubs and is generally a happy and confident and has so far been quite an easy child, I finally have a job which I enjoy and am valued, don't have a great pension at the moment just the workplace pension, holidayed to 8 countries.

I'll give myself a 7. Will be 8 when we finally buy a house.

Money - enough for a good life, not enough to save
Work - love my job
Relationships - rocky
Friendships - im terrible at keeping in touch, as such don't have anyone to discuss the rocky marriage with who would be independent
Health - mid 40s so a few things going awry here
Hobbies - have strong passions but no space or time to pursue them
Travel - have a holiday booked for this year
Home - secure home but needs some work
Children - adore my DC
Family - not good, very fractured
Personal progression and studies - have so many things I'd like to do, no time to do them

So I guess 5-6?

Oooooh good question.

On paper, I don't think maybe all that amazing, but I really am happy.

I'm 42 and not slim....but not huge either. I feel ok about it although yes, I'd love to be slim. I am trying to eat healthily and reducing UPFs a lot and going to the gym at least four times a week.

Despite a very decent degree from a very fancy university, my career is distinctly unimpressive, but I really love my job.

I have been going to the gym a lot recently but have buggered my back, so that is suboptimal.

Dh has generalised anxiety disorder and can get quite depressed but he is trying bless him. We own our house, (well it is mortgaged, but we could theoretically pay it off today - it would leave us with no savings though).

My dad is a bit preoccupied and my mum is dead. My brother was seriously unwell recently. My sister is great but lives far away. I don't see good friends very often.

Some of this sounds a bit crap, but I must be incredibly low maintenance as i would score my life a solid 8.5 😂😂.

We have very, very cute and lovely kids which helps, and I consider myself really lucky to live near London where we can access so much culture and diversity. The friends I do see are amazing, although I don't see them as often as I would like. My brother seems to be on the mend 🤞 and I think the health problems he had might actually be a good warning for him as he was drinking too much.

So all of that is where the 8.5 score comes from.

Seriously, how the fuck do you think a large language model like Gemini can judge your life? What do you think it is? How can you grant it any power to determine how your perceived your life. It's not a prediction machine, it's an accumulation of average answers. It doesn't know.

Difficult one but interesting!

Relationships - 25 years of abusive marriage, divorce, now lovely dh although by no means perfect.

Money - a worry all my adult life and continues to be. Earning power trashed by health problems as well as Self employed and can't afford to take more than a week off a year. Compounded by an accident 18m ago where a lorry hit me and fucked up my lovely old car, succession of unreliable shit buckets since.

Travel - never have holidays. Would love to have some time off/options but not in foreseeable future.

Home - have lived in some wonderful places (albeit with exh...). Currently in renovation project no 14. Proud of it altho will never be finished and might give up and go to a small modern house soon.

Family - very lucky. Two dds who are fab, one ND one NT. Parents and wider family are quite far away but no major issues. Lovely in laws.

Friendships - lots of friends, a few close ones. Several menopausal blips in old friendships in recent years have upset me greatly but overall am lucky with friends.

Weight - big problem. Total lack of headspace/time or resources left for myself.

ETA Work - love my teaching although find it tiring. Dislike my other job (work for exh's business to fit in with teaching hours and stay flexible for dcs needs over the years).

Currently I'd give it a 5 but on paper for some it would be a 9, for others a 1.

I have a suspicion it’s so good because the lack of a partner. You’re doing great!

About 8.5 or 9 I think.

I love my job and have a great work life balance. Two adult DC thriving.

I live alone and will have paid off my mortgage in two years. I am very happy single and have very good friends who I socialise with. I go on holiday about 5 times a year and have hobbies I enjoy.

I marked myself down 1 point because I would like more of a financial cushion so I could treat DC more. And I marked myself down 0.5 because I have arthritis which is very painful and sometimes causes mobility issues.

Overall my life is blessed and I feel very fortunate.

Thanks everyone!

Here is mine ☺️

Money - Not rich but enough to be able to afford the odd treat, nice holiday and meals out.

Work - I enjoy my job, I have a close group of colleagues and find the work fulfilling.

Relationships - I’m separated from my nasty, narcissistic ex and probably heading for divorce, it’s messy and hard to see things will feel better but I know logically they will.

Friendships - I have a number of lovely close friends, a close group of colleagues and a group of female friends to do activities with.

Health - I am in excellent health, I am slim and robust and rarely ill. I do have ADHD.

Hobbies - I am creative and have a number of hobbies that I enjoy plus one I have been very successful in and won competitions/been published etc.

Travel - I am lucky to be able to enjoy a couple of holidays per year, nothing hugely exotic but nice city breaks and I’ve got a cruise planned for this year.

Home - I have a lovely new build home in a safe, family friendly area, my home is fairly new and doesn’t need any work doing to it.

Children - Two children who are lovely and both healthy, one is autistic and I’m a carer for him.

Family - I still have my parents who are elderly, I have a disabled brother who struggles a lot with life in general.

Personal progression and studies - I will be doing a masters degree via distance learning soon related to my profession.

Pets - I will be fostering cats soon and have just been offered a lovely little kitty to look after! 💕

I dont need an app to rate my life, I can tell you.

My life if blissful, peaceful and calm😊.
Id say 10 out of 10.

Aww that’s lovely 🥰

I feel like I should be counting my blessings but at the same time I am finding life a little tough atm.

i am happily married
I have two amazing dc
I have a beautiful home and we are mortgage free
i have a supportive extended family
I have had a successful career for 20 years, I mostly enjoy my job and am good at it
I have hobbies which I enjoy
I have some wonderful friends
I am healthy ish and trying to get fitter

but
I lost my dad last year and it has broken me a bit. I feel a bit “meh” about everything. I can no longer motivate myself to care as much about work. I have also had some friends fall by the wayside. I am more anxious than I’ve ever been before. I think I am peri menopausal. So it’s a very weird one.

9
66, healthy, financially very comfortable, lovely home, lovely dh and dd. Lots of holidays and fun things in the diary.
However adult ds died 17 months ago so it will never be a 10. If you'd asked me a year ago I'd have said a 3.

I’d genuinely put mine at a 10.
I am so fortunate in that I am healthy and really enjoy my life.

Money - I’m not rich but far from poor, travel lots and don’t check prices in the supermarket.

Work - own my own business which is thriving and I jump out of bed in the morning to get going

Relationships - been with the love of my life for 14 years and he still lights my fire

Friendships - I’ve got a wide range of friends who I love dearly and see often

Health - hale and hearty as they say! No issues and never go to the doctors

Hobbies - luckily most of my hobbies also help with the above health option. Play tennis 3x per week, run marathons and swim weekly. I also LOVE cross stitch and reading books

Travel - I holiday 3x per year, sometimes four. Sometimes with OH sometimes with friends or family

Home - mortgage will be paid off next year and we bought a do-er upper so it’s all exactly how I like it

Children - child free by choice

Family - small but very close

Personal progression and studies - my business keeps me sharp and interested!

What I will say is, I have a natural tendency towards optimism so someone living exactly my life might consider themselves a 5 or 6 on the scale. But I feel so fortunate and happy every day that my life is the way it is. Happiness is not having what you want, it’s wanting what you have. And I do

Mine is a 9 I guess? Happily married for 22 years to my lovely DH. Three teenage DC who are happy and doing well. Good friends, good relationship with my parents. Job I enjoy, financially comfortable. I am overweight but active and healthy.

No partner and no stresses go hand in hand. 😁

That being said, I’d also say 8 due to:
-a lovely DP but the self-confidence and life experience to know I can be just as happy single
-intellectually stimulating career, though I loathe my current team
-healthy and fit
-lots of free time and travel
-varied and interesting social life
-about as much freedom as a human can have really: no kids, no pets, family all overseas, very easy-going non-needy DP, financial security.

Financially hard. Left with a lot of debt after divorce and never been able to get out of the cycle.

Honestly, 10.
Very happy with my life: no kids, no partner, good friends, way enough money and enough time to do what I want and decent brain and looks.

My main stress at the moment is that I don't know what shoes to wear tonight.

Sheesh, I nearly copied your list to give my own answers but realised I'd end up with 1/10. Everything's objectively crap - health down the toilet, State pension dependent, single, no kids, socially isolated and I dislike where I live. But I'm okay. I 'choose happy' and keep my mind occupied. Fuck lists 😂

A 3 right now as I am living with Long Covid . It has taken my job, health and many relationships,my energy and mental health.I hate it.