How would you rate your life?

[SlipperyGhost]

I’ve just done a “life audit” and entered it into Chat GPT 🙈 Chat GPT wouldn’t rate my life out of 10 but Gemini AI gave me 7.5 out of 10 (scoring lower due to going through a separation/divorce which hasn’t been amicable and lots of difficulties around co-parenting. Sandwich generation too so elderly parents and children to care for, plus one disabled child)

So things like -
Money
Work
Relationships
Friendships
Health
Hobbies
Travel
Home
Children etc
Family
Personal progression and studies

How would you rate your life?

I am 45, slim, healthy, I have a nice home and a job I enjoy, I have friends to do fun stuff with, my personal life is a car crash though 🙈

I love my life- I have great friends and family.

My health has taken a nosedive over the last 10 years though, and I am in constant pain. I still try to do the things I used to, but it takes me days to recover.

I don’t want to mark my life down because of that though!

Fuckin zero no pension, no friend s, no money no job absolutely bolocksed b, is that what you want to hear?

8.5

No money worries
Nice DH and DC
good friends
hobbies and interests and have fun weekends
lots of holidays
I love my house
I like living in the UK

I do worry about disabled adult DC and how he will manage when I’m gone.

Great husband, adore and enjoy my kids, totally unstable/unpredictable freelance work in dying industry but no mortgage to worry about because we paid it off; tend to be a bit anxious & sensitive & volatile, worry lot about friendships & family-of-origin relationships; like how I look generally & don't mind ageing but have annoying menopause symptoms & complete overwhelm about trying to work out how to treat them via a recalcitrant & unhelpful GP surgery. I know I'd feel many percent better if I did a few percent more exercise, but I get in my own way with that. I gave up alcohol almost a decade ago and am permanently glad I did that- but I still smoke, lightly, and loathe myself for that failing. Generally I find myself quite hard work on the inside - but I enjoy most of most days and have a lot of gratitude for my immediate family. I used to have a much more shiny, glamorous and well-paid professional life, but it made me extremely stressed unhappy and drunk, so I remind myself of that when I feel poor, obscure and messy...!

On paper my life looks great but I struggle to appreciate it sometimes due to being busy and tired having a toddler and a FT job. I saw a quote the other day that resonated: "What a privilege, to be exhausted by the life you dreamed for yourself".

• Money - no financial worries.
• Work - in-house solicitor in an interesting field, supportive colleagues, ability to WFH 3/4 days a week.
• Relationships - happily married, together since 18.
• Friendships - several groups of friends from various life stages and a small number of close friends. Drifting from some friends due to kids/distance etc.
• Health - no major concerns, but generally a bit run down and catch a lot of colds that DS brings home from nursery.
• Hobbies - I have a few hobbies I enjoy and try to make time for (running, yoga, reading).
• Travel - have been lucky enough to do some amazing far-flung travels pre-baby (New Zealand, Vietnam, South Africa etc...), current lifestage is more UK trips or Spanish/Greek island resorts which I also appreciate.
• Home - love our modern and spacious home which we moved into last year, only 29 years left on the mortgage....
• Children - one gorgeous DS who is nearly 2, unsure if I could cope physically and emotionally with a second child but have always pictured having 2 children.
• Family - small family, good relationships but live several hours away so see each other every 3 months or so.
• Personal progression and studies - career is in a good place due to a lot of hard work and long hours in my 20s, but progression will be on the back-burner for the next 10 years while DS is in primary school.

8/10

I found it super interesting to put it into Gemini. Which gave me a lower score than u hoped for!!! But the process - and the score - helped me to reflect on what could be improved.

What score did you get?

Sorry @Hellokitty1986tgats a terrible hand you’ve been dealt.

mm my score on paper should be high but I’m reflecting I’m maybe a pessimist.

relationship - DH loves me to bits but I’m less loving to him. Married about 27 years. He’s very kind.

Family- 2 daughters. 1 has had severe struggles with mh but she’s coming through it and loving uni.

Wider family- lost my brother to suicide in 2021. It crushed me and daughters and we still struggle.

home- nice big house. 5 years left on mortgage.

work- nice career as uni lecturer. I’m wanting to retire soon though so not really getting as much satisfaction from it as I could.

friends- yes I’ve got some lovely close friends that I see regularly.

money- I earn a decent salary but would like more savings. Not sure why I’ve been crap at that. Pensions are good though .

i think I should probably rate it 8-9 but I actually feel it’s 7. That’s my personality coming through I think.

I just tried running it through Gemini and it gave me 46/50 (I think - maths iosnt my strong point!)

Health
8.0
Elite fitness, but the "tiredness" is a persistent tax.
Relationships
9.0
High stability/love; just a desire for more physical intimacy.
Hustle
10.0
Total autonomy, intellectual growth, and zero ego-traps.
Finances
8.5
High equity/pensions; just needs a bit more liquid "buffer."
Mindset
10.0
Post-traumatic growth at its finest. You are "delighted" with your life.

About 3. But feel even more depressed reading this thread.

10/10 all the time that everyone I love is safe, happy and healthy.

Money - pretty ok. Not rich but comfortable
Work - good. Wfh full time (love it) low stress, relatively well paid
Relationships - single and happy with that.
Friendships - don't have many but don't want many! So absolutely fine with that.
Health - could be better, could be worse
Hobbies - perfect! I have lots of fun hobbies and plenty of time to do them
Travel - all good, have some nice trips planned
Home - love my home so much. It is perfect for me
Children - they're adults and we have a great relationship, all good.
Family - well my wider family is mostly awful so not great in that area. But I came to terms with that a long time ago
Progression/studies - I'm late 50s. No desire to progress further at work. Any study I do is for fun. Fine with that.

I would give myself a solid 9. Nothing I want to change about my life. Probably the 1 point comes from the fact my health could be a bit better.

7.5 - I think I dwelled on negatives (minor health complaints and work stressors). I got 9 or 10 in some areas but very low marks in others. I don’t think AI is good at assessing the human condition!!!!

Probably a 10, although I dislike saying that as I don’t like to tempt fate! Although many wouldn’t like my life at all.

Single and child free by choice, I have a wonderful little dog who I adore
In very good health (recently had a health MOT)
Amazing and supportive healthy family
Small and wonderful group of friends
A beautiful home in a relatively safe location, surrounded by countryside
Good job with decent pay
New car

A good balance of everything and I count my lucky stars everyday. I’m also aware that life can change in a blink of an eye, so I’m always grateful.

Hope you feel better today @MrFluffyDogIsMyBestFriend
im fascinated by these threads but parts of my life aren’t the way I’d like either including my health.

I find it strange that anyone would 'rate their life''.
This is it guys - your one run round the track, your one flight, your one breath in breath out.
You don't get to pick another Airbnb next time you visit.

That’s hard. I’d love to embrace life and be joyful but I can’t. I worry about money and illness and the kids too much. I’ve not got many friends and that gets me down a bit. I try to find joy in small things. I’m 55 but I feel like nothing exciting will ever happen to me. Plodding along.

10/10 because I love my life! I am so grateful for everything.