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To ask how you ask for pain relief without coming across as drug seeking?

29 replies

justwantthispaintostop · 24/02/2026 17:18

I’ve got a painful medical issue. I am undergoing scans etc., or at least I’m on the waiting list.

in the meantime I have an appointment with my consultant this week to discuss management of the issue until then. I’m in pain all day everyday. I just want a day or two of relief to get some sleep. I would do anything - injections, hydrotherapy, and whatever I need to do. Over the counter pain medications don’t do a thing. But how do I voice this without it seeming like I just want strong painkillers on prescription? To be honest I’d rather avoid them unless it’s a very short course, because I know they can come with horrific consequences.

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justwantthispaintostop · 24/02/2026 17:26

Anyone? I’m at my wits end but I feel like if I say that I’ll just be seen as dramatic

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justdontrelateanymore · 24/02/2026 17:28

Yabu .. just tell the GP / pharmacist / consultant and they'll give you painkillers that work.

user1476613140 · 24/02/2026 17:29

I take very strong painkillers daily for pain due to osteoarthritis. I spoke with my GP about the pain and have had the same prescription for 3 years now. Just tell it like it is.

justwantthispaintostop · 24/02/2026 17:30

justdontrelateanymore · 24/02/2026 17:28

Yabu .. just tell the GP / pharmacist / consultant and they'll give you painkillers that work.

I’ve never really had this be my experience. I’ve always had to fight, it feels like, to get even basic healthcare

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PoachedSmoke · 24/02/2026 17:30

Be frank, OP. Say 'I'm exhausted by the pain, it's affecting my mobility/sleep/work (or insert relevant option here)' Be firm and do not accept anything ineffective (I'm looking at you, ibuprofen and paracetamol!)

If you can and need to, push for a referral to a pain clinic. They are excellent at helping with a decent pain relief option. No one will think you are drug seeking unless you are doing this frequently or have had addiction problems in the past.

I have also had a very painful medical issue, and have tried numerous medications before finding a good balance for pain relief. Be firm and be insistent and really stress how the pain is affecting your day to day activities. I don't expect you to share medical info, but if you have back related issues I feel like I can help advise you 🤣

NewYearNewMee · 24/02/2026 17:30

You just need to ask for medication to help with the pain.

Unless there’s some giant history of you having drug issues, I’m sure they won’t think twice - they’ll be expecting you to seek pain relief for a painful situation!

Aligirlbear · 24/02/2026 17:32

You simply explain to your consultant as you have above that you are in a lot of pain and over the counter painkillers have not successfully managed the pain and it is so bad you aren’t sleeping which is compounding the issue. If the condition you are suffering from results in pain, the consultant will know this and will help you. If the pain is unrelated and he knows the condition doesn’t result in pain he will refer you to your GP.

HelpMeGetThrough · 24/02/2026 17:32

When I get a bad flare of my Rheumatoid Arthritis, I phone my GP and ask for oramorph, as just the codeine I have isn’t enough.

Only once has a GP wanted to give me something different, which I’m not allowed to take, so got what I wanted.

Tell them that you need it to sleep and get some form of relief.

justwantthispaintostop · 24/02/2026 17:33

PoachedSmoke · 24/02/2026 17:30

Be frank, OP. Say 'I'm exhausted by the pain, it's affecting my mobility/sleep/work (or insert relevant option here)' Be firm and do not accept anything ineffective (I'm looking at you, ibuprofen and paracetamol!)

If you can and need to, push for a referral to a pain clinic. They are excellent at helping with a decent pain relief option. No one will think you are drug seeking unless you are doing this frequently or have had addiction problems in the past.

I have also had a very painful medical issue, and have tried numerous medications before finding a good balance for pain relief. Be firm and be insistent and really stress how the pain is affecting your day to day activities. I don't expect you to share medical info, but if you have back related issues I feel like I can help advise you 🤣

Not back issues, but similar!

i feel like I’ve had such a tough time of actually getting help for this issue that now I’m here, I don’t want to mess it up or seem like I’m trying to just get pills. I think it’s a bit of an anxiety thing because I’ve never had addiction issues or similar before!

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KitsyWitsy · 24/02/2026 17:34

justwantthispaintostop · 24/02/2026 17:30

I’ve never really had this be my experience. I’ve always had to fight, it feels like, to get even basic healthcare

Me either. I overdosed on codeine once, it was just not effective and I was so out of it, I kept taking it not realising how much I'd had.. They did not give a shit at hospital.

They don't take pain seriously. :(

Barnbrack · 24/02/2026 17:35

Nothing helped my slipped disc back pain and sciatica until I got a mini tens machine turned up ridiculously high.

MabelMarple · 24/02/2026 17:36

Just ask. I have rheumatoid arthritis and if it gets too bad I usually see the nurse practitioner who will prescribe pain relief. Often codeine which I hate and will put up with a lot before I'm desperate enough to take it but at least it makes me sleep.

My experience with other painful conditions is that they tend to offer pain relief which isn't necessarily what I want.

waddleandtoddle · 24/02/2026 17:37

Be honest and be drug seeking. Helpful to name the pain relief you want. I've luckily not had to have pain relief proper in a while, but when I did need it I was honest. I needed stuff for day to day but can I have some super stuff for a couple of days as I need a switch off/I recover from pain quicker if my brain can forget the pathway. They'll tell you if concerned. And don't be embarrassed to ask for a decent supply so you don't have to be there every week.

waddleandtoddle · 24/02/2026 17:38

Be honest and be drug seeking. Helpful to name the pain relief you want. I've luckily not had to have pain relief proper in a while, but when I did need it I was honest. I needed stuff for day to day but can I have some super stuff for a couple of days as I need a switch off/I recover from pain quicker if my brain can forget the pathway. They'll tell you if concerned. And don't be embarrassed to ask for a decent supply so you don't have to be there every week.

PoachedSmoke · 24/02/2026 17:38

@justwantthispaintostop I get it, and I really sympathise.

Contact the GP and be totally honest. Say you need some decent pain relief. They won't think you're drug seeking. If you do have any issues, email the practice manager. Some GPs are a nightmare, but you need be vocal to get what you need. I hope you are in less pain soon, it's very draining x

Nevermind17 · 24/02/2026 17:39

As if there’s anything suitable that’s non-addictive. Depending on your condition you could try nefopam or something.

TranscendThis · 24/02/2026 17:39

Don't under any circumstances mention anxiety or speak like that to them.( about being over anxious ). It will cause issues if you he the wrong GP and they will write you off as a MH case.

I totally understand your fear. It sounds like you've probably experienced medical dismissal and ignorance along the way - like so many of us women.

I feel here that being firm, non emotional and limit what you say is necessary.

I'd also somehow find out from reception which GP is the nicest, most compassionate. Women can be better but not always.

' I am in exceptional pain that is persistent, ongoing and severely disrupting quality of life. I can't function to my best or sleep and I am not ok to just get by on paracetamol any longer. What are my options. '

That's what I'd say. I have to take heavy duty stuff long term.

Zov · 24/02/2026 17:40

Why do you think they will think you're just 'after drugs?' Confused You have a painful condition, it's not that odd to want painkilling meds!

justwantthispaintostop · 24/02/2026 17:42

Zov · 24/02/2026 17:40

Why do you think they will think you're just 'after drugs?' Confused You have a painful condition, it's not that odd to want painkilling meds!

I’ve had such an awful experience, they’ve denied my pain every step of the way so far

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PoachedSmoke · 24/02/2026 17:48

What drugs have you tried already OP? If you've stuck to the basic ones, you might find some over the counter codiene helps - personally I don't like the side effects so I avoid it, but for very short time use it can be helpful for a day or two and is easily available in any chemist.

firstofallimadelight · 24/02/2026 17:48

You need to be honest about the level of pain you are in (think like scale of 1-10) and how often you are in pain and the impact it’s having .
Do some research about what pain relief is suitable for your condition. Don’t be afraid to ask for pain relief to help you manage your condition whilst it’s being investigated. Once you know what you are dealing with you can consider the long term.
Look at what you can do to help yourself also. Diet, exercise, meditation, mindset etc have a massive impact on the nervous system which affects how your body reacts to pain.

HoppityBun · 24/02/2026 17:52

I do understand your hesitation and it is something that has worried me from time to time, but in practice it has never been a problem. I still remember with gratitude two GPs, on separate occasions, years ago, who grasped that I was in pain, described to me what was going on and prescribed painkillers. I asked which combinations I could take and got clear answers.

For chronic conditions, I find that describing the pain and asking for help has always worked, with the exception once of a trainee GP who insisted on asking me what I wanted, and all I could think of was Oramorph, which she prescribed. In fact I needed advice but she was in “ask the patient “ mode.

There once was a locum who didn’t seem to understand that I have a chronic condition that was flaring, so I went back the following week and luckily saw someone else.

I have cocodamol on repeat prescription but recently I put in a request for diclofenac gel, because other medication has had to be reduced. I explained why I needed it and it was prescribed. I had to go back and explain why I need the max strength and the prescription was adjusted: I think they’d just not read the request properly and I explained that I am buying it, but it’s expensive. In fact I’m still subsidising what is prescribed with a bought tube as 1 a month isn’t enough.

Sorry, this is long winded, but I think they’d bottom line is to explain the problem and ask for help, being ready with a suggestion in case you’re asked.

If you’re being treated at hospital, they sometimes have a helpline in the particular department.

justwantthispaintostop · 24/02/2026 17:52

PoachedSmoke · 24/02/2026 17:48

What drugs have you tried already OP? If you've stuck to the basic ones, you might find some over the counter codiene helps - personally I don't like the side effects so I avoid it, but for very short time use it can be helpful for a day or two and is easily available in any chemist.

Codeine just doesn’t agree with me at all, I’ve tried it once and it made me feel horrible, I disassociated for the entire day and it was awful. I’m tempted to try some tonight though because I’m just so exhausted from being in pain. I’ve tried everything else that you can get over the counter

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PashaMinaMio · 24/02/2026 17:55

Recently, on Doctors orders, I’ve had to be confined to bed for a while.

It gave me excruciating back-ache because I wasn’t able to move very much to ease it.

Over the counter remedies & anti-inflammatory drugs didn’t work.

I phoned my GP. Told her the background.
She prescribed liquid Morphine. No probs. Did the trick.

Just tell it like it is.

(For the record, I didn’t take it all. I’m back on my feet and remainder in the bottle has been returned to the chemist.)

PoachedSmoke · 24/02/2026 18:04

@justwantthispaintostop Ah, gotcha. It doesn't agree with me either tbh. As someone else mentioned, look into what good pain relief options are for your condition and enquire about those. If it's easier, lay it all out in an e-consult. You may have to try a few to see what helps, they often only prescribe a few weeks at a time as a result but that's fine. I've been through loads - my stomach is not a fan of most drugs it seems!

Have you actually asked for strong pain relief from a GP yet? If so what was the response?