@Playingvideogames
Reasonable SENd parents don’t organise our children by some hierarchy of disability, we recognise that we all have children with different challenges, that are relevant to our families and the way they impact us.
I’ve encountered @Kirbert2 for example many times on these threads, and I don’t want to speak out of turn against her, but I know the information she’s shared on her son, as much as she knows the same of mine.
Whilst her son doesn’t have the cognitive difficulties mine does, we share sleepless nights. Nobody’s ever told me my son’s health might affect his future, or worse. He was born disabled, and our adjustment to that has had time to be gradual. There is no single event that turned our life upside down - it’s always been that way.
Her son is able to cope in mainstream, with support - mine isn’t. But that doesn’t mean he’s any less worthy of support, or that their lives don’t face challenges that might be different to ours, but still count.
I think the idea that people like you would categorise our kids by more or less worthy, when as SENd parents we’re actually able to respect each other’s differences and challenges, is frankly disgusting.