Vulgar Comment Has Really Icked Me

[YourFlakyHam]

Me and my partner were watching a youtube channel about a guy lives on a narrow boat. We've followed him for a few years and now he has a girlfriend,who he introduced to his viewers. His girlfriend had to leave for work and waved goodbye to the viewers.
My partner said "Do you think she put out?"
I was shocked and disgusted by his comment!
I called him out it ,was really pissed off with him tbh.
He laughed and said it was just an off the cuff joke.
But now I feel like he's tainted the program,it's lovely and innocent and just nice to watch.I also feel like I've lost some respect towards him.
The couple are in their late 50's and of course they would be in a,sexual relationship
It was a very immature and vulgar comment
I didn't expect it as he's never said anything like that before .It's just given me that ick feeing tbh and it was a few weeks ago.
My partner isn't young .

I think you’re being OTT sorry

You feel a programme on YouTube has been ‘tainted’ forever by a very mild joke made by your boyfriend? That’s a massively melodramatic and OTT reaction.

A normal reaction would be to tut and then to immediately forget about it.

Well I can see why people.are saying your reaction is OTT to.an 'innocent joke'.

But I disagree.

It rather suggests to me that he was thinking of her in a sexualised way. He knows it would be inappropriate to say, "I'd do her," to you but that's essentially what he was thinking.

If he hadn't been thinking about her in a sexualised way, he wouldn't have had a sexualised 'joke' in his head to express.

Well she did get pissed off, and she called him out on it.

However, to be shocked and disgusted enough that he has 'tainted' a programme she used to enjoy watching...THAT is a complete over reaction...in my opinion.

Complete overreaction on your part. Tainted? Really? You sound like a prude tbh

Haha ha ha! REALLY???

There are some seriously bitter women on this forum, the simple idea of a man breathing is repulsive to them 😂

Urgh thats where i would say to dh that im your wife not your mate in the pub

He was thinking about her in a sexual way and blurted it out.

Is it CHG OP?

You should have the ick with your DP, he doesn't sound grown up enough to be in a relationship.
I know what you mean about the innocence of the show though, it's lovely to see them so happy and after such a long time.
Your partner's crass comment is because it trashes the romance and sweetness of the situation and you're probably feeling despair at how your man 'doesn't get it'. Maybe it's me projecting but that's how I'd feel.

The Youtuber in question has been on his own a very long time after a painful divorce. He's been through a lot since then too and the channel has been about him building his life since then.
So when he met this lady and they fell in love it's been a long time coming and has been really lovely to see. They are both really lovely people.
The video OP is talking about is where he introduced her finally to his viewers and was so proud to introduce her and they were both smitten and it's obvious.

I think that's why OP's DP's comments are jarring her so much.

Ugh, childish and absolute ick. I don’t blame you.

It was just a silly joke, admittedly not very funny. Not every, single thing people say needs to be psychoanalysed. People say stupid shit all the time. Letting it put you off the programme is just strange.

So does "Put out" mean having sex with?

I'd say I was put out if somebody had done something that upset me.

Definitely not a phrase where I come from.

That made me laugh.
Sorry OP, but I think your reaction is dramatic.