Vulgar Comment Has Really Icked Me

[YourFlakyHam]

Me and my partner were watching a youtube channel about a guy lives on a narrow boat. We've followed him for a few years and now he has a girlfriend,who he introduced to his viewers. His girlfriend had to leave for work and waved goodbye to the viewers.
My partner said "Do you think she put out?"
I was shocked and disgusted by his comment!
I called him out it ,was really pissed off with him tbh.
He laughed and said it was just an off the cuff joke.
But now I feel like he's tainted the program,it's lovely and innocent and just nice to watch.I also feel like I've lost some respect towards him.
The couple are in their late 50's and of course they would be in a,sexual relationship
It was a very immature and vulgar comment
I didn't expect it as he's never said anything like that before .It's just given me that ick feeing tbh and it was a few weeks ago.
My partner isn't young .

I would have likely joked back that she looked frustrated so he’s obviously not very good in that department.
I would be tempted to make a joke about DHs skills but that might be a step too far.

I too don’t like the phrase put out - women enjoy sex just as much, if not more, than men but we typically have much more on our plate and can struggle to find the energy.

However, if it upset you I would have just told him to grow up and then forgotten about it.
It was just a silly comment and so I don’t think you should judge him too harshly.

Thanks for your kind words.

That should’ve been enough to put you off in the first place!

I think you’re being a bit uptight. But if that’s how you usually are, he should know and not make such jokes.

I think it’s a crass comment and would have said as much. However, I do think your reaction was disproportionate to it.

He sounds about 12 years old...I bet he laughs his head off at fart jokes.

But honestly, your over reaction soumds a bit hysterical.... odd that one stupid remark can 'taint' a programme you previously enjoyed watching.

Old school alpha male usually translates to misogynistic sexist pig headed knuckle dragging dinosaur who thinks a woman’s place is in the kitchen

I would be surprised if my DH said that, I think I'd also find it very weird of him.

So if your husband made this exact comment you would, in retaliation, tell him he was bad in bed? And that seems reasonable to you and not a completely over the top reaction to a lame joke?

He sounds a bit ridiculous saying that. Like why would you say 'do you think she has/just had sex'?! What's that got to do with anything? Unless there was conversation or something in the show that meant sex was part of the 'storyline'.

I would say if he's not usually saying such things, telling him he sounds moronic should hopefully nip it in the bud.

This.
There is absolutely nothing to do with sex at all in any of his programs.
Why the f would you say "Did she put out"?
Not big ,not clever just like a silly teenager.
Oh,I called him out because why would you even think did she have sex with him before going off to work .
I've grown up in the 70/i0s and those types of comments need to stay there
I loathe vulgarity and he knows that .

Well you’re the one in a relationship with him!

And?

Does he have 'laddy' mates? Maybe this is the kind of thing he'd say to them. Not sure why he said it to you, though!

People need to stop telling women they are overreacting or being OTT compared to what was said. Why do people luke to downplay how a woman feels about something her partner did, reeks of internalised mysogyny.

It’s not something my husband would say and is a bit immature but tbh in the scheme of things it’s not that big an issue. Having said that if it bothers you did right to say so.

People dont “need to” do anything. As independent thinking women we are entitled to our own views thanks. And how does questioning how his comment tainted the programme reek of misogyny?

if a man was complaining that a tv program has been ruined, RUINED because his wife mentioned sex about 2 of the adults in it, he would get exactly the same reply.

Being a woman doesn't prevent you from being silly, and being called out about it has nothing to do with misogyny.

You trying to pretend that women are too sensitive to take criticism on the other hand..

That's fair play. You said to him it was out of order and hopefully he won't do it again.
Unless maybe it was a way of trying to get you talking about sex and then you'd want it?! The mind boggles if he did think that.

You’ve told us all the reasons that you find him ‘icky’ and vulgar etc… but you’re choosing to be in a relationship with him! Does it bother you enough to end it? If so, do that.

Immature comment perhaps but then being so uptight about it isn’t exactly mature either.

I've never heard the expression "Put out" other than to mean somebody was annoyed about something.

You learn something new every day.

Me too....in any case, what a huge palaver about nothing.

Did you ask him if he was 13? Bloody immature and to be fair my 13 year old son wouldn’t be so immature to say this

I don't think it's nothing. He displayed immaturity and sexism, I think that's enough to get pissed off at.