Just blew up at DP

[ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh]

5 hours of my life invested in a tv series.

Major cliff hanger!

Literally the suspense music is on. Someone’s about to be shot in the head. Big drama moment.

DP sitting there decides this is the moment to tell me about the City of London and how much gold is there and how much trade goes through London.

I say dont care. Please. Not now

Keeps on! I say shuttttt up!

A bang goes off. Screen cuts away. Subtitles roll. About a millisecond passes before ‘the Bank of England blah blah blah’.

I am like SERIOUSLY! You have all flipping day and night to talk to me and you chose now! Fucking now. When I told you I don’t care. And you are continuing on.

Honestly I was harsh but wtf. But I just feel it’s absolutely no respect! I am fuming. He’s now stormed to bed.

Thank you for listening 😭

That's sad....

Why should she tho ?
Why should bad behaviour be pandered too ?
What DH had to say wasn't important and it could wait.
By pausing the show it teaches DH that his behaviour is acceptable and he will continue to do it in future.

The being called "anti social " in my OWN HOME would make me very cross .
DH would be told to stop acting like a child and find something to do rather than wanting attention from me

This reminds me of last month. Was on my final 10% of my book. I came downstairs to get a coffee, told DP im on last maybe 30mins of my book, afterwards will we take down the xmas tree etc? Yes. 15mins later up he pops, will we take tree down? Yes in 15mins. Cue huffing and puffing as he slams open attic, throwing down storage boxes 'ILL JUST DO THIS MYSELF THEN' I was livid!! Threw the book and very aggressively took down the tree face like thunder. About 10hrs invested in a book to be disturbed in the final pages. I didnt speak to him for 2 days so yeah I feel you!! DNBU

Why the hell should she pause her programme and ruin the tension so he can talk shit at her?

Was he afraid that the value of gold was going to bottom out while you watched the last few minutes of your programme? Or that gold was going to vanish from the world? What was so bloody 'must tell you right this second' about it?

Blue tooth headphones. You can't hear them rabbitting on.

I am in agreement with you here.

If I was watching something, and he was trying to talk to me or tell me something, I would simply pause the TV, listen to him and then play it again when he was done. If he continued I might subtly say, 'sorry babe, but do you mind if I just finish this? It won't be long' but I just couldn't get worked up by this.

Its just a TV show.

I hate to cry "if this was about a man screaming at his wife..."

My normal question is, 'Do I need to know that right now?'

Do you regularly have to explain the bleeding obvious to your husband? Is he actually 5?

I am with you @ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh there are many hours in the day in which to tell me something super (not) interesting about a Raspberry Pi or a wrestler or a model train... the cliffhanger part of whatever I am watching is NOT IT.

YABU you should have snapped way more than you did. This is a mediocre snapping for the crime at hand.

It's not about the tv show.
It's about respect
It's the entitlement of DH that OP should drop what she is doing and pay him attention

Agree
Why should husbands be gently parented ?

we are married to the same man OP. I feel your pain

Mine does this. I can't focus out when he speaks as he has such a loud bloody voice that it drowns out the TV. Had to go to my bedroom last night to watch my programme as he was at the other end of the lounge diner on the phone to a friend and was SO LOUD. No matter how much we all tell him he is still loud.

But surely that works both ways? If I was watching TV and my DH came into the room to talk to me, my immediate reaction would be to give HIM the attention and not the TV because he is more important and what he is saying is more important than a TV show. So surely that is being respectful to him.

When your partner talks to you and you say 'I don't care' Really?

So many times on here someone will say that they were talking to their partner while they were gaming and were being ignored. The consensus would be that he should stop gaming and give her attention and listen to what she is trying to say. He would be absolutely ripped to pieces on here for ignoring her and telling her 'not now and that he didn't care'

So yes, its about respect, but like I say, it does work both ways.

But I accept that maybe he should have 'read the room' and left what he was saying until later. But to be honest I would be a little pissed off if I was trying to tell my DH something and he said 'not now, and I don't care'.

I contemplated murdering my husband for something vaguely similar. Several years ago and still not forgotten. I was watching The Railway Children with my daughter; I'd seen it dozens of times but was second time my daughter had watched it and she was totally invested. Near the end my husband walked in stared at the scene in the station and and said in a silly voice "Daddy, my Daddy" and ruined the moment. Still think I was incredibly restrained, but he couldn't see what he'd done wrong. 😡

My ex husband used to do this....well, not exactly this, but when my daughter was a baby, he'd be nowhere to be found whilst she was playing up merry hell while I was trying to get her down for a nap or to bed, and then when I came downstairs to embrace five minutes silence he'd be there talking at me all about his day!

This was COVID when he was working from home, so he couldn't possibly help me, but he could spend the proceeding ten minutes talking at me while I was the most overwhelmed!

Do people actually live like this? Depressing

It is not a TV programme vs a husband.

It is a TV programme with a tense ending vs internet news on gold reserves.

Why is the information about gold reserves (his interest) more important than the TV programme (her interest)?

He didn't want to talk about his feelings, their relationship, his health, or anything that might, quite rightly, be more important or pressing than a TV show.

He could easily have waited 5 minutes to talk about the thing he had just read on gold reserves. His refusal to do so spoiled her enjoyment of a TV programme and that was rude and uncaring.

OP, I’m with you
on this. My DP seems to think I am interested in the most boring shite he wants to talk about when I’m in the middle of a really exciting part of a TV programme or during the key question in a quiz.

FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, MAN! READ THE FRICKING ROOM!!! I’M NOT INTERESTED IN SOME BORNG TWADDLE YOU CARE ABOUT!!!!

Ooh that feels better getting that off my chest!

I don’t know what to say, OP, except you are not alone in this.

Not at all, but I’d be seriously pissed off if my husband spoke to me the way the OP says she spoke to her husband, because I had the audacity to speak to him when he was absorbed in a TV programme. We both do this on occasion, but we don’t speak to each other like shit.

Lol this made me chuckle 🤣 can you take him Tuesdays and Saturdays please? 🤣🤣🤣

Watching a really good film, all of a sudden the footballs on!.
Get up and go to the toilet, return to find the football on!.
Go into the kitchen, to make a brew, I can suddenly hear football commentary!.
About to find out “who done it” and he’s just checking the football score!.
Story of my life for the last 47 years, buy’s a TV to watch football in the bedroom (guess who’s relegated there to watch my programme/ film?).
But, since I retired, I’ve put my foot down and his bloody football, can either wait or he can watch the other TV.

Does OP .. DH butt in at work meetings with meaningless chatters
Does OP s DH go to the cinema and talk throughout the film
So why is it acceptable for DH to chat shit when OP oe absorbed in a tv show