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WWYD - teenager potentially a risk to younger people

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WorriedWifie · 19/02/2026 13:39

This doesn’t affect me directly, but I have a really uncomfortable feeling about something and I don’t know whether anything should/could be done. NC as it could be outing.

There is a 16 year old boy in my child’s year at school. He is widely considered creepy, he is always hanging around the girls, particularly younger ones, trying to get them to go out with him etc. He developed an obsession with one of my child’s friends a couple of years back, and he pretty much was stalking her. It only stopped when her parents got the school involved. He’s been caught up-skirting by the school twice that we know of, potentially a third time. Each time he was reprimanded but never excluded or suspended, I’ve no idea what else happened with his parents etc.

The local schools have a work experience program where kids go to workplaces a day per week. The place where this boy went, found out about the upskirting and have now refused to take any child from local schools for work experience.

Here is the problem. He is a youth leader for Cubs and part of the Explorer’s unit, where they do camps and sleepovers etc. If my child was in these groups, I’d have a major problem with him being there. I don’t know what kind of checks etc they do on these kids before they let them be cub leaders. I know one of the other young leaders, she says he is always hanging around the girls and rarely interacts with anyone, although he has tried it on with her a few times. They are often left alone with groups of kids when they are on camps.

On the one hand, my child isn’t there, only has to deal with him at school and does so quite effectively so why should I be bothered about what else he is doing, not my circus etc. On the other hand, I genuinely believe he will, at some point, assault someone. I don’t want for someone to go through that.

WWYD? Nothing, or report to the Scouts?

OP posts:
SewingWarriorQueen76 · 27/02/2026 15:28

Knowing how stretched Area Scouting is- find out the local Group Scout Leader for the section and have a word. Area may have triaged but local wil be dealing with the fallout and go need to be told.

we have something similar locally and the person has been suspended pending SS feedback

Nodramalama85 · 27/02/2026 15:33

i think it should be reported the scout leader to safeguard the children there. If you are aware of any incidents I would report it to the social services. I am not condoning his behaviour but he is a child who needs specialist support and guidance.

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