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Are you now more likely to vote for REFORM (the party)

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Decisiondecisions · 18/02/2026 14:49

NC for this and apologies if Q already asked. My quick search yielded no result.

Reform plan to undo the reversal of 2 child cap benefit. Are you now likely (or more likely) to vote for them? There have been endless threads about the welfare bill.

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TopPocketFind · 21/02/2026 18:00

Reform candidate Matt Goodwin is accused of sexual harrassment at GB News,

Nigel Farage says "That's just Matt being Matt."

persephonia · 21/02/2026 18:02

pointythings · 21/02/2026 17:41

That would be called 'grooming'. Aside from your horrific assumption that these girls somehow deserved it and were old enough and chose it because of money, and it was therefore not as bad - many were as young as 14, there are accounts of horrific rape and torture. Why would anyone think this was somehow 'less bad'? Unless of course it's because it was white men doing it, not brown men... (Not all grooming gangs were brown, btw).

I think the "they were over 17" thing partly comes from the fact some commentators (Meghan Kelly etc) kept referring to most of the victims being "barely legal" or "a year underage". Which gives the impression most of the victims were 17. But the age of consent in the Virgin Islands where a lot of the abuse happened is 14. So what they are actually saying is that most of the victims were at least 13 or 14. And some were younger. Exactly the same age range as the child grooming gangs.
The deliberate lying from people like MK and the amount of people happy to unquestioningly perpetuate it is very sinister.

scottishgirl69 · 21/02/2026 18:09

persephonia · 21/02/2026 17:50

Its also awful because "the girls were influenced by financial gain" could just as easily be "the girls were influenced by the chance to get alcohol or cigarettes or takeaways". They were, in both cases CHILDREN being abused. As you say, that's how grooming is.

At the time it was dismissed by some in this way (including by the men committing the crimes but also by the police etc). And the same attitude was quite common. I can remember over 20 years ago when I was 15 my mum and uncle were discussing a photographer (white) who had been done for having sex with minors and my uncle said something along the lines of "oh, it'll be some 14 year olds who knew what they were doing but thought they would get fame out of it but then cried rape later when they didn't get to be famous models" and my mum agreed. 15 year old feminist me was outraged. But the point was it was a fairly common attitude that some girls were asking for it/streetwise and that fed into the official response to children being groomed.

I thought at least one positive change was that it is seen differently now. But I think for some people ithe grooming gangs abuse was ONLY bad because the perpetrators were brown. And worse than that there is a really concerted effort to draw a sharp line around the grooming gangs as the "bad type of child abuse" and basically push attitudes back to where they were. I don't know if it's subconscious or deliberate but it's definitely happening. I think some people aren't happy with the idea that no child is able to consent to sex.

Pretty sure babies were abused on Epstein Island if you read some of the comments on one of the Prince Andrew threads

scottishgirl69 · 21/02/2026 18:15

yellowspanner · 21/02/2026 17:38

Reform have never said that they will ban abortion and I see tax breaks for families with children as a positive thing. It's better than extra UC for families with children as it incentivises work which I agree with.
And it took a Reform court case to make this govt. realise that cancelling elections was illegal. It seems the ex DPP doesn't know the law.

If you think taking money from people on UC gives them an incentive to get a job - maybe you've never been on it. Both times I was on UC and the bare bones of it - ranging from 317 to 400 quid a month I ended up suffering from depression. I'm not in the situation where I have kids so the two child cap doesn't apply to me but being on UC isn't the easy ride for a lot of people that folk think it is

It took hundreds of job applications for me to get a job offer that wasn't just zero hours which I was doing - one that I then couldn't take - and I'm very well qualified.

The poor, the sick, refugees, the disabled - asylum seekers all seem to be in the firing line of more than one party - not just Reform

persephonia · 21/02/2026 18:22

scottishgirl69 · 21/02/2026 18:09

Pretty sure babies were abused on Epstein Island if you read some of the comments on one of the Prince Andrew threads

Quite possibly. However, even if you only limit the discussion to the survivors that have come forward, you are still talking about children. There is of course the further problem that to come forward as a survivor you have to have... survived.

On the topic of grooming gangs, one thing I find super dark is how cases like Cyntoia Brown are just... Accepted in the US. It is a really good thing that she was granted clemency for murder, but the wider discussion still feels a bit like "these things just happen". There is a huge problem in the US of particularly African American girls being seen as older/more streetwise/more capable of consent than they are. And the same pattern of underage, usually vulnerable, teenage girls being groomed into sex work by their boyfriends. It's almost a running joke/stereotype about "ghetto" female behaviour. And it's seen as them choosing their lifestyle. Basically I think attitudes towards grooming in America are about 25 years behind attitudes towards grooming in the UK but none of the US commentators who talk about the UK grooming scandal really care. Because the perpetrators aren't Muslim. And they view the girls the same way that the UK authorities viewed white working class girls.

This isn't relevant to Reform of course. Except that many of Farage's backers are from those same US right wing circles and he is often talking partly to them in his messaging. Within the UK I want us to focus on UK CSE because that's what we can fix (can't do much about American law). But I think US people focusing on bad things Muslims have done in the UK makes it easier for them to ignore bad things happening in America. And given the amount of politicians/public figures caught with prostitutes over the years maybe that's deliberate.

mimbleandlittlemy · 21/02/2026 18:27

Nope. Hell would freeze over first.

scottishgirl69 · 21/02/2026 18:31

I also think it's relevant to say that a lot of parties make promises pre election and don't follow through. Someone else said earlier in the thread that people will vote for Reform. I'm sure they will - but when people are disillusioned with other parties - they'll vote for people who promise them things.

I completely expect to see Reform MSPs in the Scottish parliament in May because they'll pick up votes from ex Tory voters. However looking at the way they run their councils down south I don't really have much faith

ForWittyTealOP · 21/02/2026 18:47

scottishgirl69 · 21/02/2026 18:31

I also think it's relevant to say that a lot of parties make promises pre election and don't follow through. Someone else said earlier in the thread that people will vote for Reform. I'm sure they will - but when people are disillusioned with other parties - they'll vote for people who promise them things.

I completely expect to see Reform MSPs in the Scottish parliament in May because they'll pick up votes from ex Tory voters. However looking at the way they run their councils down south I don't really have much faith

Reform politicians in the Scottish Parliament (and Senedd) while depressing, would at least show voters exactly what to expect if Reform managed to win a GE. Could be a good early warning system.

1dayatatime · 21/02/2026 20:09

pointythings · 21/02/2026 16:43

Your premise is incorrect. The left wants to level the playing field and provide equality of opportunity. This is a matter of acknowledging that not everyone gets the same start in life, and that success is harder to achieve for some than for others. Denying that this is the case means denying the existence of entrenched advantage, which is ridiculous.

Oh I'm all for equality of opportunity, it's just the equality of outcome that I'm against.

Yes not everyone gets the same start in life, some are born prettier, some are born to intelligent parents, some are born to parents that read to them every night, some are born to sporty parents and yes some are born to poor and some are born to wealthy parents.

This has been and will always be the case and different people have different advantages that they play to.

The left doesn't want to level the playing field it wants to tilt it through either DEI to artificially create equality of outcome.

For example 4% of the UK population is black and 82% are white, yet 56% of the England football team is black. Are you in favour of artificially tilting the playing field in favour of white football players? Or is it that the England football team simply selects on who is good at football and not skin colour?

1dayatatime · 21/02/2026 20:12

scottishgirl69 · 21/02/2026 18:31

I also think it's relevant to say that a lot of parties make promises pre election and don't follow through. Someone else said earlier in the thread that people will vote for Reform. I'm sure they will - but when people are disillusioned with other parties - they'll vote for people who promise them things.

I completely expect to see Reform MSPs in the Scottish parliament in May because they'll pick up votes from ex Tory voters. However looking at the way they run their councils down south I don't really have much faith

All politicians make promises that they never deliver on whether that is deliberately or through facing reality.

If politicians never made false promises then no one would ever vote for them and they would always be political candidates and never elected politicians.

In this regard Reform are no different to any other political party.

1dayatatime · 21/02/2026 20:19

scottishgirl69 · 21/02/2026 18:09

Pretty sure babies were abused on Epstein Island if you read some of the comments on one of the Prince Andrew threads

You are pretty sure babies were abused on Epstein's island based on what evidence?

Your gut feel or simply a sensationalist desire?

scottishgirl69 · 21/02/2026 20:21

1dayatatime · 21/02/2026 20:19

You are pretty sure babies were abused on Epstein's island based on what evidence?

Your gut feel or simply a sensationalist desire?

Don't talk to me again. It's public knowledge. I repeat. Go away.

scottishgirl69 · 21/02/2026 20:24

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1dayatatime · 21/02/2026 20:25

scottishgirl69 · 21/02/2026 20:21

Don't talk to me again. It's public knowledge. I repeat. Go away.

It's not public knowledge and there is no evidence of babies being abused on Epstein's island.

You just made that up. If you disagree with me please provide links to the evidence.

springawakeningss · 21/02/2026 20:26

SilentMajority1 · 18/02/2026 16:54

Was going to vote Reform, but now we have Restore Britain, so actively monitoring how this new party is developing. Love the manifesto and they seem to be gaining traction 🙏

Totally agree, they're swaying me!

DollydaydreamTheThird · 21/02/2026 20:27

I wouldn't vote for reform even if someone had a gun to my head if I didn't. I wouldn't piss on them if they were on fire. I'd rather gauge my own eyeballs out and eat my own shit. Is that good enough for you OP?

scottishgirl69 · 21/02/2026 20:27

1dayatatime · 21/02/2026 20:25

It's not public knowledge and there is no evidence of babies being abused on Epstein's island.

You just made that up. If you disagree with me please provide links to the evidence.

I did not make it up. It's been discussed at length on one of the Prince Andrew threads. You stay away from me - you have crossed a line! Don't you dare call me a liar when it's being discussed at length all over these boards

1dayatatime · 21/02/2026 20:29

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Ok - if your motivation is not sensationalism then why would you post something that has no evidence to back it up?

What was your motivation. My motivation is facts and the truth and shooting down conspiracy theories. Regardless of how deeply abhorrent Epstein was, the truth still matters.

TopPocketFind · 21/02/2026 20:29

springawakeningss · 21/02/2026 20:26

Totally agree, they're swaying me!

Restore is swaying you? They are openly racist

Sirzy · 21/02/2026 20:31

I know in the last few days pictures have emerged linked to the epsiten flies of Andrew playing with a toddler with a breast shaped ball and others of him looking very close to the child (not seen anything to add context but enough to make most people feel uncomfy I would imagine)

scottishgirl69 · 21/02/2026 20:32

1dayatatime · 21/02/2026 20:29

Ok - if your motivation is not sensationalism then why would you post something that has no evidence to back it up?

What was your motivation. My motivation is facts and the truth and shooting down conspiracy theories. Regardless of how deeply abhorrent Epstein was, the truth still matters.

I repeat. Go away. I'm not your servant and it's being openly discussed on these boards what happened on Epstein Island - you go find it if you want to read it. Google is your friend!

scottishgirl69 · 21/02/2026 20:32

springawakeningss · 21/02/2026 20:26

Totally agree, they're swaying me!

They are scum

scottishgirl69 · 21/02/2026 20:33

Sirzy · 21/02/2026 20:31

I know in the last few days pictures have emerged linked to the epsiten flies of Andrew playing with a toddler with a breast shaped ball and others of him looking very close to the child (not seen anything to add context but enough to make most people feel uncomfy I would imagine)

It's apparently Edwards child - I don't think that is any huge issue. Just people desperate to latch onto something

1dayatatime · 21/02/2026 20:38

scottishgirl69 · 21/02/2026 20:27

I did not make it up. It's been discussed at length on one of the Prince Andrew threads. You stay away from me - you have crossed a line! Don't you dare call me a liar when it's being discussed at length all over these boards

There are conspiracy theories discussed at length on the internet that Epstein and Woody Allen were engaged in cannibalism - but it doesn't make it true.

That's how conspiracy theories work- Epstein was guilty of child sex abuse. But now for conspiracy theorists that is no longer "enough" - so conspiracy theories of abuse of babies or cannibalism start, all with no evidence to back them up.

https://news.miami.edu/stories/2019/08/conspiracy-theories-envelop-epstein-death.html

Conspiracy theories envelop Epstein death

The suicide of politically connected multimillionaire Jeffrey Epstein on Saturday morning has fueled a barrage of conspiracy theories.

https://news.miami.edu/stories/2019/08/conspiracy-theories-envelop-epstein-death.html

1dayatatime · 21/02/2026 20:41

scottishgirl69 · 21/02/2026 20:32

I repeat. Go away. I'm not your servant and it's being openly discussed on these boards what happened on Epstein Island - you go find it if you want to read it. Google is your friend!

Sorry it's an open forum. If you post or repeat misinformation then I will continue to call it out and will not simply "go away" because you don't like it.