To change the bedsheets

[Yukono]

The bedsheets are overdue a change. Really should have done them last weekend. Things have been a bit hectic. I’ve got today off so decided I‘ll change them later.

DH woke up this morning with a sore throat and a headache, and has been in bed all day so far.

I went in to put laundry away and mentioned I‘ll change the sheets later. He said that was pointless and I should change them when he’s better. Got proper arsey about it, as if he was the one changing them 🙄

Him being in bed all day makes me want to change them even more.

Would you change the bedsheets? Or put it off until DH was better?

I get both sides - I love clean sheets but I wouldn't want to be turfed out of bed when I'm ill. And yeah, they will be grotty again quite soon but then you never know what the future holds. Last week, I changed my sheets quite late at night in an attack of "I've been meaning to do this for days, I'm doing it now" and my dog promptly vomited on everything at 4:47 am 🤦

Woke up with a sore throat and a headache and some people on this thread acting like he's end stage palliative care.

Change your sheets if it makes you feel better as you accept they would be changed again in a few days.

If you don't mind changing them and are happy to do so again when he's better, I'd change them

Can see his point in the whole he's sick regards but surely he would feel more comfortable in fresh sheets and them change again when he's better

Oh if he's wandering around, yeah he doesn't get to demand that you keep sleeping in smelly sheets until he feels better, it's no skin off his nose at all. I assumed he was doing a dying swan thing (unreasonable in itself tbf 😆)

I'd change them now then again in a few days when hes better. Mine get changed every 3/4 days

Team OP.

Sleeping in manky bedding make me feel gross.
Sleeping in sick person bedding makes me feel gross.

If you can literally make it better by changing it when he inevitably goes for a 1 hour dump at some point and it will make you feel better, what is there to argue about? Why wouldnt he be pleased about fresh sheets? Frankly if someone was going to change my sheets I'd be grateful.

YABU.
Chill.

He will only be sweating all over them, definitely wait (I assume you won’t be joining him in his snotty sweat pit though)

If you’re going to be doing it when he’s up out of bed anyway then I’d just do it despite the protests. I wouldn’t turf him out of bed for it.

I suspect the problem isn’t actually the sheets but just that he’s generally irritable as he’s feeling sore and sorry for himself

I’d change them, but I’d like him have a bath or shower while I did them so they weren’t immediately spoiled by him laying there festering! This is dream land for him - I’d love it if I was ill and someone offered to change the sheets.

In the absence of that I’d make a clean bed somewhere else. It’s horrible once you notice the sheets are past their best and will be even worse if he’s ill and sweaty.

So many people on here are clearly in relationships where they overrule their partner’s wishes, despite them being ill, to do what they want to do, when they want to do it.

Agree. Just wait. If it's waited a week, it can wait another few days. I'd sleep somewhere else, though.

He emerged from our room and came down for dinner and to spend some time with DC. I changed the bedsheets. After, he rolled his eyes and said ‘I normally change the bedsheets after I’m done being unwell’. I had to laugh, because in the 18 years we have lived together, he has changed the bedsheets a grand total of ZERO times.

Anyway, I’m looking forward to sleeping in nice clean sheets tonight. I’m sure he will appreciate it too.

And we don’t have a spare bed, otherwise I would have slept elsewhere.

Bit dramatic? He was not harmed in any way by me changing the bedsheets. I did not make him get out of bed, he wanted to go and eat dinner. He did not have to change them himself.

He thought it was pointless, I did not. I think he can live with that.

I couldn't sleep in a clammy ill persons bed.Me or someone else.Id change the sheets.

What a strange thing to say

I change mine twice a day, sometimes three or four. But I've been ill in hospital, so it's once a day now until my normal energy levels resume. However I feel minging now.

Im with you. Change them. Enjoy the clean 1/2 of the bed. Also in my view he'll benegit and get better more quickly if he's not marooned in his own old sweat. Just strip it when he next gets out and he can sit and grumble while you make it.

Change them. I remember when I was ill as a kid and my mother changed the sheets, it felt so nice and clean and comfortable.

If you can do it while he's up then I would say go for it. If he were really ill in bed then no.

I've been ill recently and during the stuck in bed/head feels like a bowling ball/everything hurts stage, I would not be ok with someone doing this. Obviously if he's not in this stage it's different.

I would change them. I know if I feel ill it’s nice to have fresh clean sheets

In bed all day with a sore throat and a headache? That is your problem, not the sheets!

OMG. Change the sheets now. Change the sheets when he is better. Then change the sheets again. Have a different bed to sleep in when he's ill, too. With clean sheets on it.

I'm not even joking. I LOVE clean sheets, and if someone is ill and in bed I change them more frequently whether I am sleeping in the bed or not (obvs when they get up for meal / shower). And then again when they are better.

I am old and grumpy now and so sleep in my own bed and don't share so enjoy my own clean sheets as often as I like (a lot less grossed out by them now its only me sleeping in them).

How wonderful, he can change the bed sheets after he's done being unwell too. And once a week thereafter, as surely its his turn now.