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“Everybody thought the EU was about people coming into the country … no-one told of us the benefits”.

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MrsMurphyIWish · 18/02/2026 07:00

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cm2136jnjx1o

And the response to this very now deprived community is to vote Reform.

“Brexit has removed a key source of funding, which the area desperately needs. County Durham received £154m of EU funding between 2014 and 2020, about £22m a year. Since the UK left the European Union, it receives about half that amount, £12m annually, under the UK Shared Prosperity Fund.”

The story is sad (and typical of deprived areas - I know, I live in one). Towns feeling forgotten and never recovering from closed industry but why can they not see history will repeat itself?

A row of red-brick houses with almost every window and door boarded up

Inside Horden, the County Durham town failed by politics

In Horden, County Durham, Westminster slogans have long been left unmet as the population has plummeted.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cm2136jnjx1o

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Thechaseison71 · 19/02/2026 12:25

Needlenardlenoo · 19/02/2026 12:18

Yes other countries have had leave campaigns, referenda on membership etc. Norway has had at least one referendum on joining, but has (sensibly imo) stayed out!

Wonder why uk couldnt do that back in 93 then

Goatsarebest · 19/02/2026 12:29

Every single EU treaty that has been put to a vote of an electorate has been rejected by that electorate. To the extent only Ireland is permitted to vote on them now. These are the Treaties that create all the freedom of movement and trade. But people think it is just British racists that don't want the model the EU has become. The Danes rejected Amstersam Treaty. Others were going to, but they stopped the voting. Ireland has rejected all of them but they are then bribed and have to have a 2nd vote to get them passed. Never has the EU accepted the vote of the Irish people until they vote correctly.
So don't eulogise the EU as some all encompassing utopia of freedom and trade that all none racist Europeans want to be part of. It isn't and they don't.

itsthetea · 19/02/2026 13:03

The EU isn’t perfect

but throwing the baby out with the bath water springs to mind

RattleAndHump · 19/02/2026 13:27

Brexit completely fucked us over. The sooner we rejoin, the better.

Pigletin · 19/02/2026 13:30

Theolittle · 18/02/2026 07:13

Very sad but I’m sure it’ll be amazing to see what reform do with the area. Go Nigel!

Sometimes you just fully deserve who you vote for.

Alexandra2001 · 19/02/2026 13:42

Thechaseison71 · 19/02/2026 09:22

I'm talking about BEFORE we joined the EU in 1993. So how could anyone have voted ukip before then?

What ANTI EU parties were there to vote for?

Thats illogical, you re just digging yourself a hole now.....

....how can you vote for an anti EU party before the EU was formed?

We had plenty of opportunities to vote for UKip post 1993 but never did, as well you know.

It wasn't until that shit stirring cnut Farage came along, assisted by Boris Johnson and his ridiculous lying stories about the EU that gradually the EU became an issue

Alexandra2001 · 19/02/2026 13:47

Goatsarebest · 19/02/2026 12:29

Every single EU treaty that has been put to a vote of an electorate has been rejected by that electorate. To the extent only Ireland is permitted to vote on them now. These are the Treaties that create all the freedom of movement and trade. But people think it is just British racists that don't want the model the EU has become. The Danes rejected Amstersam Treaty. Others were going to, but they stopped the voting. Ireland has rejected all of them but they are then bribed and have to have a 2nd vote to get them passed. Never has the EU accepted the vote of the Irish people until they vote correctly.
So don't eulogise the EU as some all encompassing utopia of freedom and trade that all none racist Europeans want to be part of. It isn't and they don't.

... and yet...
Key trends in EU public support as of late 2025 include:

  • High Confidence: 52% of Europeans trust the EU, the highest level since 2007.
  • Benefits & Stability: 74% believe their country benefits from membership. 67% view the EU as a source of stability in a troubled world.
  • Priorities: Top priorities for citizens include ensuring peace and security (42%), job creation (26%), and managing migration (24%).
  • Defence Support: 79% support a common defense and security policy.
  • Approval Trends: Support for the euro is at a record high of 74% within the eurozone.
  • Exceptions: While support is generally high,, significant negativity exists in countries like France and Italy, although a majority in those nations would still vote to remain in the EU.
  • Future Outlook: 59% to 66% of Europeans are optimistic about the future of the EU.

What would our politicians do for public support like this?

Boolabus · 19/02/2026 13:53

Goatsarebest · 19/02/2026 12:29

Every single EU treaty that has been put to a vote of an electorate has been rejected by that electorate. To the extent only Ireland is permitted to vote on them now. These are the Treaties that create all the freedom of movement and trade. But people think it is just British racists that don't want the model the EU has become. The Danes rejected Amstersam Treaty. Others were going to, but they stopped the voting. Ireland has rejected all of them but they are then bribed and have to have a 2nd vote to get them passed. Never has the EU accepted the vote of the Irish people until they vote correctly.
So don't eulogise the EU as some all encompassing utopia of freedom and trade that all none racist Europeans want to be part of. It isn't and they don't.

Never has the EU accepted the vote of the Irish people until they vote correctly.

Well that's not entirely true is it? You're falling for Brexit propaganda. Ireland voted against treaties forcing their government to renegotiate certain terms of the treaty and then it went back to the electorate to ratify. That's a positive democratic process. Lisbon treaty example:

Following the initial "No" vote, the Irish government secured legal guarantees from the EU regarding taxation, neutrality, and abortion, which contributed to a "Yes" vote (67.1%) in the second referendum in October 2009

SerendipityJane · 19/02/2026 13:56

I have done some reading on this and the economy does gain from immigration, but in terms of the people in it, there are winners and losers.

Newsflash:

everything has winners and losers.Joining the EEC ? Joining the EC ? Joining the EU ? Leaving the EU ? Joining the gym ? Buying a weekly shop ?

All events that produce winners and losers.

I am struggling to find a word for a person who cannot see that. I wonder if any other posters can help ?

Thechaseison71 · 19/02/2026 13:58

Alexandra2001 · 19/02/2026 13:42

Thats illogical, you re just digging yourself a hole now.....

....how can you vote for an anti EU party before the EU was formed?

We had plenty of opportunities to vote for UKip post 1993 but never did, as well you know.

It wasn't until that shit stirring cnut Farage came along, assisted by Boris Johnson and his ridiculous lying stories about the EU that gradually the EU became an issue

Yeah like Hobson's choice the n. No anti EU party to vote for

bananafake · 19/02/2026 14:02

Loads of people told them about the benefits - a million people marched in London talking about nothing else. They chose to believe Nigel Farage and his blooming bus and the morally bankrupt Boris Johnson.

Having believed Farage’s lies once they’re now doubling down. I don’t understand why but maybe it’s because people hate to be wrong….

itsthetea · 19/02/2026 14:03

I guess the fact that most people wanted to join doesn’t matter ?

if you wanted to, I think Labour were your choice

SerendipityJane · 19/02/2026 14:05

Thechaseison71 · 19/02/2026 13:58

Yeah like Hobson's choice the n. No anti EU party to vote for

Also no parties that look to bring back child labour or reduce the age of consent or invade France

SerendipityJane · 19/02/2026 14:06

Loads of people told them about the benefits - a million people marched in London talking about nothing else. T

More than six million signed a petition that got lost.

SerendipityJane · 19/02/2026 14:07

itsthetea · 19/02/2026 14:03

I guess the fact that most people wanted to join doesn’t matter ?

if you wanted to, I think Labour were your choice

In 1975 ? Labour opposed the EEC as a party. However they did not make it an official government position.

I guess you had to be there.

And paying attention.

itsthetea · 19/02/2026 14:31

Probably because it wasn’t a popular position

if they had felt their support was predicated on it then it may have been different

sleepwouldbenice · 19/02/2026 14:33

I read this article yesterday
Very depressing, not just the voting but the sheer decline of that area
I dont actually mind them voting for brexit, much better reason to do it for the hope of change than racist reasons
But voting for reform again at council level then again at national elections would be mad

Darkmark · 19/02/2026 14:33

WaryCrow · 19/02/2026 11:06

Actually I have some sympathy for that view. What jobs there are, we should be training up our own people for and making it worth them working. Showing them that there are rewards for working. Not just continuing to import more mouths to feed.

The argument that more immigrants magically improve the economy is demonstrably false. How many millions have we imported now? Where’s the benefit for these towns, watching the immigrants imported specially to take the health and social jobs their parents and greatparents could have done? Purely there as cheap labour in the failure demand economy of the poverty industry?

(In response to your original response to Nomas). Do you really think people who throw eggs at others would be the type to get social care jobs? Who deserve those jobs?

No one is entitled to a job. If locals had shown signs of upskilling or retraining into these sectors they wouldn't have needed to find these workers from further afield.

Also adults aren't children. They shouldn't need to be shown there are rewards for working. They should simply be working. The locals got complacent.

SerendipityJane · 19/02/2026 14:46

(In response to your original response to Nomas). Do you really think people who throw eggs at others would be the type to get social care jobs? Who deserve those jobs?

Part of the problem is the number of people in the UK who are convinced that they would be the next Elon Musk if it wasn't for all the immigrants.

Needlenardlenoo · 19/02/2026 16:33

SerendipityJane · 19/02/2026 13:56

I have done some reading on this and the economy does gain from immigration, but in terms of the people in it, there are winners and losers.

Newsflash:

everything has winners and losers.Joining the EEC ? Joining the EC ? Joining the EU ? Leaving the EU ? Joining the gym ? Buying a weekly shop ?

All events that produce winners and losers.

I am struggling to find a word for a person who cannot see that. I wonder if any other posters can help ?

I mean I know "nuance" and "BREXIT" is a big ask but if I feel that my area has lost something due to immigration, then the fact that people in a city far away have got more growth, more skilled people, a wider range of restaurants or whatever, is entirely irrelevant to me if I don't plan to move there (apart from I suppose it props up the subsidy they might give me, but that's very indirect and uncertain).

Who's the "loser" from someone buying a weekly shop or joining a gym?

Alexandra2001 · 19/02/2026 17:06

Thechaseison71 · 19/02/2026 13:58

Yeah like Hobson's choice the n. No anti EU party to vote for

People had from 1993 onwards, the anti EU UKIP to vote for & also the Referendum Party until 1997.

I'm not sure why you cannot grasp these facts, then again, i'm not.

Thechaseison71 · 19/02/2026 17:36

Alexandra2001 · 19/02/2026 17:06

People had from 1993 onwards, the anti EU UKIP to vote for & also the Referendum Party until 1997.

I'm not sure why you cannot grasp these facts, then again, i'm not.

Because I'm talking about JOINING it in the first place so PRE 1993. Not sure why you can't grasp that

Dweetfidilove · 19/02/2026 17:46

trappedCatAsleepOnMe · 18/02/2026 10:15

I still don’t understand how people who were taken in by Brexit promises, who now concede they were “lied” to are prepared to do the same again.

They feel them and their area have been left behind - social mobility done nothing but go down in last few decades - they want a decent life for them and their kids.

I personally don't think Reform are a serious party- but these people are fed up at being ignored and fed up they lives keep getting harder.

Instead of blaming the electorate and calling them thick why are the other poltcial parties getting in their with polices selling themsleves with a view to imporving those areas?

Thing is I strongly suspect I know why - as social moblity has declined more poltcians and their advisors come from a very narrow social economic strata and from same edcuational backgrounds and increasingly little to connect them with these communities - they haven't come up through trade unions or even churches ( more US in recent past ) many go straight from uni to political jobs - and areas become more disjointed not like they even have the links old noblity had with their workers in those areas. Instead of thinking how can we reach these voters they increaingly seem to sneer at them and look down and then act surpirsed those voters vote for people who at least appear to talk to them notice they exist.

It's not just poltcian acting another area - media more general from news to publishing - the doors in if you aren't from certain group/class have in last decades started to close - people there come from an ever narrower group and have little contact with other groups and then start to look down on those groups when they don't behave or think in the same way.

Question- I agree with much of what you say has happened to these communities and I understand they want change...

They voted Brexit (championed by good ol Nigel) and we're shat on.
They then turned around and lent Boris their votes to 'finish Brexit', which screwed them even more.
Post Brexit, the Tories opened the floodgates and let more immigrants in...
In Austerity Britain we watched millionaires get richer than ever...
During Covid they fleeced us a bit more.

ALL VERY HIGHLY PUBLICISED, so wherever you get your news, you couldn't miss any of this happening.

Now, instead of acknowledging these politicians are not on their side, they dig themselves further into a hole of letting the same politicians tell them that their neighbours (usually in the same financial and social position as them), are the source of their problems.

Now Reform comes with a new wave of brainwashing, supported by the billionaire Elon who has never contributed a penny to them or their community, and they discover they have the power to 'effect change'... so what they use that power to do, is consume more hate and obvious nonsense and go to March on immigrants.

Immigrants did not close industries.
Immigrants did not crash the economy.
Immigrants did not say - vote Brexit at your detriment.
Immigrants did not close the colleges that taught trade.
Immigrants did not...
They are just trying to get by, like you are...

You have access to television, social media and all sorts. You know that people march on government when change is needed, but you choose to use your 'power' to terrorise regular folks. Not against businesses, not against governments; but against the people that live alongside you.

Being working class cannot be an excuse for fighting against your interests. Accept you have been lied to. Look at who has lied to you and fight that enemy.
Until you take responsibility for your own foolishness, you will continue to make the same mistake.

Imdunfer · 19/02/2026 17:59

Needlenardlenoo · 19/02/2026 12:15

I have done some reading on this and the economy does gain from immigration, but in terms of the people in it, there are winners and losers.

So it can absolutely be true that the economy gained but individuals and groups lost out.

It's evident from the article. What benefit of growth in London and the SE accrues to the remote area? Not much apart from national health and education systems (that didn't keep up with growth anyway) and er, a new rail station - so they can leave the area quicker?!

Your points are well made but I want to add to this one.

I have done some reading on this and the economy does gain from immigration, but in terms of the people in it, there are winners and losers.

I find on these discussion that people consistently refuse to segment the immigrant base. Not all immigrants are equal in economic contribution.

The studies I have seen ignore the fact that there will be a percentage of immigrants who are a net drain on the economy and that the economy would benefit from them not being allowed to be here. They also seem to calculate the economic benefits as growth in GDP, when the measure of whether people are any better off is GDP percent head.

There are other aspects to this as well. I am sure that my brother's sizeable second hand vehicle business wasn't alone during the free movement years in finding it far more cost effective to employ a fully trained Polish mechanic than to train up a young British person. And Costa would have been mad to employ wet behind the ears school leavers or hassled returned mothers when they could just take on a bilingual Spaniard.

So opportunities for the young and less skilled were reduced by free movement.

Of course immigration was and remains essential, but it does need better control than free movement or the fiasco with which Boris replaced it.

NarnianQueen · 19/02/2026 18:05

Do role not realise that “EU funding” is money that originated in the UK? And was paid as our dues for membership?
It’s note being siphoned off somewhere else but we haven’t actually had a net loss!