To think that my son's hairstyle won't make him a target for bullies?

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Please see profile page and let me know what you think. I thought he had a reasonable 'normal' haircut but i have heard from DP that MIL thinks he looks stupid and we have to 'sort it' before he starts school as he is going to be a laughing stock? BTW atm he is 3 yrs old. I didn't think hairstyle was a big bother at this age but perhaps IABU.

I'd love to know what she'd say about my DS's hair -we're currently avoiding hairdressers as much as possible after an (IMO) overly-severe haircut last year!!

I'm really not a fine of shaved heads on boys -too severe and too hard looking

Your DS's hair looks lovely.

erm...that should be "not a fan"

How odd (not the hair) but the comment about the hair.

I think it looks like a boys hair cut - she should see my DS1 defi surfer dude style going on (more because I can't be arsed) than any style statement.

get the shaved head and see if they will pierce his ear too !

MIL is banana's by the sound of it, he has a perfectly normal hairstyle, says the mother of an 11yr ds who has flowing curls way past his shoulders.
There comes a time when they will decide what they want anyway, maybe he can tell MIL then

I'm disappointed - I was expecting to see a fabby wacky haircut! Your ds looks like about 90% of the little boys at my children's school. Only a very few kids have the Grade 1 look, and I (personally) think it looks awful. Like squaddies or prisoners of war. I have a few adult friends who go for this look, and on the right head it can look great, but not on little boys. My ds has quite long curly hair at the moment (it varies from slightly too short to a complete mess depending on how often we make the hairdresser). He has never been teased about it, let alone bullied. I really don't think most little boys care much about how they (or other people) look.
My mum also complains when ds's hair gets very long, but she's never suggested shaving it. She's more of a short back and sides person, but as she cut mine and my sibling's hair (very badly) until we were in secondary school I pay no attention at all.

I hate short buzz-cuts on young boys.....ignore her.

There are boys at our primary school with ponytails. And boys with buzz cuts and everything in between. Your MIL is insane.

Yup my MIL is nuts. She is incredibly critical of DS, anything from how much he likes chocolate (a lot - her other GS prefers sweets and has them daily which is somehow better...) to the fact that he is 'exhausting' - he can be some days. Other days he's a joy. Pretty much like all 3 yr olds.

And the best one is about how he has always been too rough with his cousin who is 3 months younger than DS, and whom DS now won't leave the room we're in to play with because he gets beaten up. He is too scared!! Same nephew often causes other parents to approach in soft play 'Is that your little boy? He just punched/pushed bit my XXX'. Its happened every time the past 5/6 times... IMO (adoring mother with rose tinted glasses perhaps! ) DS has never been a particularly rough little boy and its such a shame that she puts other GS on a such a pedestal that DS can never hope to come close to. I can't bear the fact that one day he is going to hear similar criticism and realise he is , to her, second best. Rant over! I only seem to come on here to rant about this woman - I am going to tell DP not to mention another word the nutty woman utters. It is the only way to maintain some illusion of sanity...

YANBU I have never posted on here said I wouldn't dare but I think he looks lovely. For what it's worth my youngest son goes to school with a boy who wears a waist length ponytail and has had long hair right from Reception and has never even been teased.

mil is insane
what is her hair like?

One of the cutest boys I know in reception has ringlets everywhere on his head.
I don't think bullying for looking different happens much this age, no matter what they look like. It's more Y3 or so that they start to feel in or out socially, depending on hair, shoes, etc.

PMSL - MIL hair is thin and peroxide blonde ( she says sat here with highlights + roots). It doesn't look good TBH. I'd love to post a picture but I daren't!

oh your DS looks so cute, I just want to smoosh him.

Can you tell I am pregnant with PFB baby boy?!

Your MIL sounds vile.

Aw, good luck CG. Baby boys are lovely!

The hair is great and very cute - a typical little boys hair "style"...what is wrong with your MIL?...take no notice of the daft old bat - next she'll be asking about earrings (yikes!)Honestly some people....

Toitally did not know what I was looking for. Is completely normal boy hair. Does she really want him to have prisoner-of-war hair? Why don't you meet her halfway and get him a sovereign ring.

gold necklace maybe? Or her old favourite, the fashionistas secret - the bum bag...

?? she must be barking.

Ignore them all. My DS has crazy hair do. All the 'bullying' he gets is from the in-laws, not the other kids. I think your DS looks lovely with his hair like that.

Tell her to mind her own farking business. And shave her own head if she thinks it's such a good look.