Silly clothes-washing argument

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If your partner/spouse bringing the laundry basket downstairs to wash, would you expect her to be upset if you picked out only your clothes and put them on to wash while she was out walking the dog before work?

Or is my DP just a dickhead?

Do you usually do washing? Or does she usually wash everyone’s clothes

The person picking out the clothes is a dickhead

Sorry, rambled too much and confused my sentence subjects.

I'm the wife. My husband saw me bring the mixed load down, then while I was out, picked out only his things and put them on to wash.

We normally just take turns doing washing, never separate by person.

So what was his reason for switching it up this time?

if his clothes picking goes against the norm in your house, he is being unreasonable.

have you asked him why?

Unless they thought they were being helpful by separating out colours/whites and then giving preference to their clothing which fell into the one of the two areas then I would wonder why they had suddenly decided to be selfish. Seems a weird effort to go to when much quicker just to bung the whole load in together.

He's been a dickhead.

Unless there was a good reason - like packing for a business trip so he needed his clothes cleaned urgently - it's ridiculous to only wash his clothes and leave yours behind.

In our house it's a case of whoever sees the basket is getting full mentions it and whoever goes downstairs first does it. Then we try and muster up the energy to hang it up. I do darks and lights so no dividing into different people.

Presumably he thinks it's your job to look after the whole family and his job to look after himself.

Anybody doing that is a dickhead.

But I don’t like people doing my laundry so for me specifically I would rather they leave it all to me or wash their clothes separately.

That was my argument, basically asking him why on earth he would do that. I'd already sorted darks from lights so he could have just bundled one load in.

He said 'it'll all get washed anyway...'

No trip or anything that means he needs all his clothes done first.

So you brought down a basket of washing down to do and he picked out his stuff only and put them on a wash instead of putting the whole lot on?! Completely unreasonable unless he specifically wanted a few bits on a quick wash to wear that day or something

I don't think I'd be upset, but I'd certainly be confused as to why he did that. I'd expect him to do the rest of the washing when his finished.

He is a dickhead. I’d be fuming if my DH did this.

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He said 'it'll all get washed anyway...'

is he going to be doing it?? Or does he mean you’ll do it anyway?

@Buscake the washing fairy (aka me), clearly. He went to work, I was WFH today.

Your husband is a twat…I’d be seriously upset over this 🤬

How full washing the machine out of interest? Did he have a whole load of his own stuff? Or did he have less than a full load and chose not to include your clothes?

Sod that, I’d never wash anything of his again. He can become his own washing fairy if he’s so eager to get his stuff done.

Is this what he thinks there is in your house?!

This 100%!

It was a little less than a full load by my reckoning (but he never puts as much as I would in anyway).

I did a load of my own during the day, and have told him he's responsible for all the rest because of his selfishness this morning.

He was a dickhead.

DH tends to pick out his own washing. I wouldn't say it upsets me. Generally, I have an inner moan about it and then I remember how much I like my nice knickers and bras and how much I pay for my clothes and I realise that it's probably for the best.

This is probably why. He won’t be home later to wash his clothes so he started them off before leaving knowing you’d be home to wash yours later.

Perhaps he was in a hurry and was afraid he’d mix in something that you only hand wash, or has to be on delicate?