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Unfriending right wing friends

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nondrinker1985 · 16/02/2026 16:53

One of my school mum friends of around 10 years has started sharing loads of Restore Britain/Rupert Lowe posts.

I’m actually really shocked as she’s an Irish immigrant herself.

I’ve unfriended her which is a shame as day to day she’s ok. Also another mum who has been liking and commenting on the Restore Britain posts, they’ll probably tell me they’re not racist but I can’t be arsed calling them out.

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BelleEpoque27 · 16/02/2026 18:17

Yes, of course - I had one who posted that she'd joined Reform. Unfriended. I haven't seen her in about 20 years so no loss.

Cultivate your social media as you want it. Not wanting racists on there is a perfectly reasonable stance, and any of the hard right who think we should accept their views can fuck off. This is the only correct way to think, I am absolutely certain. Reform and all their grubby little off-shoots are racist parties, who are trying to intimidate ethnic minorities into leaving the country.

Happyjoe · 16/02/2026 18:18

cardibach · 16/02/2026 18:15

Someone has already explained the difference between concern about immigration levels and racism, but could you explain how you came to the conclusion that the left have used mass immigration to impose a new identity on the country?

  1. Immigration increased massively under the Tories and is reducing under Labour
  2. What new identity? I don’t think I’ve noticed one.
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Watch, the poster will ignore facts.
It's uncomfortable for them.

ApplebyArrows · 16/02/2026 18:18

Thread title is pretty misleading. Unfriending someone just for being right-wing would be extreme. Unfriending someone for supporting a guy who got kicked out of Reform because he thought they didn't hate immigrants enough, which is the situation you are actually describing, is a different matter.

Winter2020 · 16/02/2026 18:20

SomersetBrie · 16/02/2026 17:45

I'm Irish in the UK. Any vote for Reform basically means they want me gone - or stay so long as I don't get sick or disabled.
It's hard really to stay friends with people who feel like that.

I disagree. I don't think not wanting huge amounts of immigration. - almost a million people net in 2023 - means that people who moved to this country in the past are not valuable or welcome. How many people incoming is enough. If we didn't want 5 million people coming next year does that mean you are not valued? 10 million? Do you draw a line anywhere?

Helen1625 · 16/02/2026 18:21

It's really quite interesting that the insults on this thread are all coming from the left. So far there's been c*, misogynist, fascist, racist, basically anyone who is not left is free game for an insult. The only ones who are showing an intolerance and bigoted narrow minded views so far are the left.

I might be considered right wing, particularly by a left winger.

I don't agree that men should share women's spaces - would I go out of my way to be rude to a man dressed as a woman? No.

Do I think it's acceptable for men to dress as women and access women's spaces? Also no.

Am I concerned about the people coming in on boats? Yes.

Do I think we should be housing them? No.

Am I alarmed about the number of sexual assaults carried out by these men? Yes.

I'm also alarmed by the amount of knife crime on our streets and I am fully aware that even indigenous Brits commit crimes and sexual assaults.

I hate them all equally.

Do I think grooming gangs should be investigated? Yes.

Do I think everyone involved in the cover up should be investigated, from the rich and famous to the police forces and councillors? Also yes.

Am I just an ordinary mom and wife who gets up, goes to work, feeds her family, pays ever increasing bills and is sick to the back teeth of this govt and any other govt who cares more about foreign affairs and giving money away whilst we struggle? Yes.

If that makes me right wing and therefore a racist or a fascist or any other 'ist', then quite frankly, I'll wear that badge. It's not even an insult anymore. It's just words used to silence by those jumping on a bandwagon thinking that they are on the 'correct' side.

DestinedToBeOutlived · 16/02/2026 18:21

BeMellowAquaSquid · 16/02/2026 18:13

How would you know if someone votes reform or not it’s private?

Reform voters can be very vocal, others are, understandably, too embarrassed to be open, but their views would definitely come up at some point. I don't have people like that in my social circle, and have cut off extended family for certain views that don't align with mine due to various things in my children's lives.

BlueJuniper94 · 16/02/2026 18:21

Happyjoe · 16/02/2026 18:05

That really REALLY made me laugh! Cheers.

Really?

BelleEpoque27 · 16/02/2026 18:21

YouAreTheCauseOfMyHeadache · 16/02/2026 18:05

There will come a point in time when people occupying the sainted halls of the benevolent left realise that shouting down, unfriending, fingers in ears, everybody who i dont agree with is a fascist racist thuggist gammonist nazi idiot is exactly what is leading to the rise of the ridiculously far right and its acolytes.

No debate has never been a successful strategy but if you want to polarize - this is the way to achieve it.

No-one is making you racist by disagreeing with you, dear.

nam3c4ang3 · 16/02/2026 18:24

I mean - ok - and? Its up to you - im not sure what you want us to tell you - if you believe you are being reasonable, what/why are you asking - to justify something?

Happyjoe · 16/02/2026 18:24

BlueJuniper94 · 16/02/2026 18:21

Really?

Well, I did write it so, didn't I? Do you normally ask pointless questions?

Helen1625 · 16/02/2026 18:25

I missed one....

Do I think we need immigration? Yes, the right kind. We have some fantastic doctors and consultants in the NHS who are non British. Do I think those doctors and consultants came in on dinghies? No. There is good immigration and bad immigration. We need a way to allow good immigration and block the bad immigration. That's not racist, that's sensible. It stops our services being abused.

BlueJuniper94 · 16/02/2026 18:25

The thing with the left is that when people like Patrick Harvie say things like "transwomen are women like black women are women" these so-called anti racists are cheering and clapping

Additup · 16/02/2026 18:25

This thread and youf original post OP, is exactly why I keep my political leanings between myself and the ballot box.

CaptainMyCaptain · 16/02/2026 18:27

BlueJuniper94 · 16/02/2026 18:25

The thing with the left is that when people like Patrick Harvie say things like "transwomen are women like black women are women" these so-called anti racists are cheering and clapping

That's a huge over generalisation there.

BlueJuniper94 · 16/02/2026 18:28

Happyjoe · 16/02/2026 18:24

Well, I did write it so, didn't I? Do you normally ask pointless questions?

But, it's just not funny though is it?

WineBeforeWhine · 16/02/2026 18:28

notthatoldchestnut · 16/02/2026 17:00

Perhaps you should try to learn a bit more resilience OP. Are you really so arrogant as to think that your opinion is the only one that is correct?

This

BlueJuniper94 · 16/02/2026 18:28

CaptainMyCaptain · 16/02/2026 18:27

That's a huge over generalisation there.

I didn't hear anyone on that side of fence have anything to say about it. And I looked.

SusanBarretWhatsitgonnabeNsoul · 16/02/2026 18:29

JHound · 16/02/2026 17:06

I have learned a lot of immigrants, especially those from Western countries, don't see themselves as immigrants.

Case in point: https://metro.co.uk/video/brits-benidorm-march-against-mass-migration-uk-3550757/

I recall years ago when I was in Canada, offending a British woman there because I referred to her as an immigrant. She responded that she had left the UK 30 years prior and moved to Canada but that does not make her an immigrant.

You just have to sigh.

Even on holiday they can't take the day off of being pricks.

PortSalutPlease · 16/02/2026 18:29

I think we need to stop normalising hateful views as a “difference of opinion” and something we have to give airtime to.

A difference of opinion is whether or not pineapple belongs on pizza. (It fucking DOES, ok?!). Calling for children fleeing war zones to drown in the sea, and labelling every brown person a rapist and paedophile is not a difference of opinion, is pure bigotry, and I am under no obligation to give it space.

Scramado · 16/02/2026 18:29

GoldDuster · 16/02/2026 17:01

I think it's a good idea not to be friends with bigots and racists.

Bigots and racists in both sides. The far left’s antisemitism and lack of respect for women’s rights is abhorrent.

Happyjoe · 16/02/2026 18:30

Helen1625 · 16/02/2026 18:25

I missed one....

Do I think we need immigration? Yes, the right kind. We have some fantastic doctors and consultants in the NHS who are non British. Do I think those doctors and consultants came in on dinghies? No. There is good immigration and bad immigration. We need a way to allow good immigration and block the bad immigration. That's not racist, that's sensible. It stops our services being abused.

And nobody reasonable, be it 'left or right' is against that.
Nearly all immigration to the UK is controlled, by our government via visas.

We do have a responsibility too towards genuine refugees who are fleeing for their lives. People didn't mind Ukrainians coming over at the start of the war? Britain has a long history of tolerance, kindness and acceptance, we should be proud of that.

But.. we perhaps should be stricter about economic migrants.

CaptainMyCaptain · 16/02/2026 18:30

BlueJuniper94 · 16/02/2026 18:28

I didn't hear anyone on that side of fence have anything to say about it. And I looked.

You must have looked in the wrong places then.

CaptainMyCaptain · 16/02/2026 18:31

PortSalutPlease · 16/02/2026 18:29

I think we need to stop normalising hateful views as a “difference of opinion” and something we have to give airtime to.

A difference of opinion is whether or not pineapple belongs on pizza. (It fucking DOES, ok?!). Calling for children fleeing war zones to drown in the sea, and labelling every brown person a rapist and paedophile is not a difference of opinion, is pure bigotry, and I am under no obligation to give it space.

100%

Winter2020 · 16/02/2026 18:32

cardibach · 16/02/2026 18:13

No, abput 30% at the time of the vote. I don’t think you can assume non-voters supported Brexit. Polls show that lots of people who voted Brexit now believe it to be a mistake, so it’ll be less than a third.

You can't assume non voters didn't support it either. I would assume they didn't strongly give a shit either way else they would have voted.

And "polls" didn't predict Brexit because people aren't honest when they are met with aggression from the other side. I wouldn't be so sure.

NoisyViewer · 16/02/2026 18:32

And at the same time they probably now see who you are. An intolerant individual who doesn’t accept another’s view point