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nondrinker1985 · 16/02/2026 16:53

One of my school mum friends of around 10 years has started sharing loads of Restore Britain/Rupert Lowe posts.

I’m actually really shocked as she’s an Irish immigrant herself.

I’ve unfriended her which is a shame as day to day she’s ok. Also another mum who has been liking and commenting on the Restore Britain posts, they’ll probably tell me they’re not racist but I can’t be arsed calling them out.

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Winter2020 · 18/02/2026 18:50

Teanbiscuits33 · 18/02/2026 18:25

Genuine good faith:

You are voting for Reform based off the fear that the bad men ‘’might’’ come and take your rights away based on what they tell you, yet they’re showing very clearly now that they WILL, not might but WILL take away your rights, so which one do you think is the better bet? Voting for certainty, or taking a chance that maybe, just maybe, the people who told you to be scared are liars?

Quite often accusations are confessions. Fear, and continuous reinforcement of that fear, is one of the most reliable psychological tools that one can possibly employ to ensure that they get what they want. In this case it’s votes.

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It is absolute concrete fact that some fundamental Muslims hate the west. We have had the terrorist attacks to prove it including majority little girls at a pop concert. The planning of another attack exposed just recently by an undercover officer. Yes there is something to fear that is real not just dreamt up by Reform.

I was surprised to read an article by a journalist talking to some of the wives of the men imprisoned for the "child grooming gangs" paedophile rings. Some of these women felt that the way these girls dressed and the fact they were out (not at home) contributed to what happened to them. Some cultural differences run deep.

Garlandedmantle · 18/02/2026 18:58

Submission is a stated intention of Islam. It’s the actual translation. It’s not about co existence in a nice fluffy multicultural street party, however much we may wish it were.
Sadly, it is a brutal misogynistic political system that will not rest until the whole world has submitted.
I envy the utter innocence of some on this thread who will not see what is going on under their noses.
It’s a playbook.
And yes, the symbolic and stifling symbols of women taking responsibility for a man’s sexual incontinence have no place in 2026.
Seeing little girls of seven or eight routinely forced into these brings back a fear and fury that I truly hope none of you ever have to feel.

NoisyViewer · 18/02/2026 19:02

dreamiesformolly · 18/02/2026 14:18

None of those things apply to the UK. On what grounds are you basing your assumption that we could become 'a Sharia country'? And what exactly do you mean by 'leave our country free'?

Because there are already sharia courts & a local authority even posted a job on their website. We have minister defending them saying they’re sorting things amongst themselves instead of going to family court. Things like custody, maintenance payments and divorce settlements are decided ‘amicably’. How fair do you really think they are when sharia law believes women voices are worth about 20% of that of a man’s

Teanbiscuits33 · 18/02/2026 19:03

Winter2020 · 18/02/2026 18:50

It is absolute concrete fact that some fundamental Muslims hate the west. We have had the terrorist attacks to prove it including majority little girls at a pop concert. The planning of another attack exposed just recently by an undercover officer. Yes there is something to fear that is real not just dreamt up by Reform.

I was surprised to read an article by a journalist talking to some of the wives of the men imprisoned for the "child grooming gangs" paedophile rings. Some of these women felt that the way these girls dressed and the fact they were out (not at home) contributed to what happened to them. Some cultural differences run deep.

There are some men that hate women. Should we deport all men, or kill them, or tar them all with the same brush?

There are some Welsh, English and Scottish people who hate each other, should we ban each other out of our respective countries just in case violence breaks out?

There is a stereotype about catholic priests being paedophiles, should we ban them all from the country?

Has it ever occurred to anyone that most of these people might want to escape the Taliban?

I mean this ‘’fighting age’’ men rhetoric makes me laugh, when it seems like half the men in this country, a significant proportion of whom are self declared Reform supporting patriots, say they wouldn’t fight for their country in a war, and also say things like ‘’I’m emigrating, too many foreigners’’ without a hint of irony detected.

GaIadriel · 18/02/2026 19:04

Teanbiscuits33 · 18/02/2026 18:25

Genuine good faith:

You are voting for Reform based off the fear that the bad men ‘’might’’ come and take your rights away based on what they tell you, yet they’re showing very clearly now that they WILL, not might but WILL take away your rights, so which one do you think is the better bet? Voting for certainty, or taking a chance that maybe, just maybe, the people who told you to be scared are liars?

Quite often accusations are confessions. Fear, and continuous reinforcement of that fear, is one of the most reliable psychological tools that one can possibly employ to ensure that they get what they want. In this case it’s votes.

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You are voting for Reform based off the fear that the bad men ‘’might’’ come and take your rights away.

Am I? Because I'm pretty sure I said I wasn't a Reform supporter.

I'm explaining why people are voting this way and how the left are only making the problem worse with all their name calling. I can only conclude at this point that many of them are too myopic to see the self fulfilling prophecy they're enacting, or alternatively that they don't really care that much and just enjoy being self righteous/lecturing people online. Or maybe it's just hurt pride. Who knows.

Some people are happy to suffer a shit government for a few years to sort out the immigration problem. It may be that no other party has the balls to enact the tough measures needed but will continue with the status quo once it's in place. Even a soft touch party who won't crack down on it would be idiots to reopen the floodgates if another party sort it out before them. That would be political suicide.

You can say what you want but the polls speak for themselves.

Battytwatty · 18/02/2026 19:07

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 16/02/2026 19:05

First sensible post I’ve read on this thread.

Helen1625 · 16/02/2026 18:21
It's really quite interesting that the insults on this thread are all coming from the left. So far there's been c*, misogynist, fascist, racist, basically anyone who is not left is free game for an insult. The only ones who are showing an intolerance and bigoted narrow minded views so far are the left.
I might be considered right wing, particularly by a left winger.
I don't agree that men should share women's spaces - would I go out of my way to be rude to a man dressed as a woman? No.
Do I think it's acceptable for men to dress as women and access women's spaces? Also no.
Am I concerned about the people coming in on boats? Yes.
Do I think we should be housing them? No.
Am I alarmed about the number of sexual assaults carried out by these men? Yes.
I'm also alarmed by the amount of knife crime on our streets and I am fully aware that even indigenous Brits commit crimes and sexual assaults.
I hate them all equally.
Do I think grooming gangs should be investigated? Yes.
Do I think everyone involved in the cover up should be investigated, from the rich and famous to the police forces and councillors? Also yes.
Am I just an ordinary mom and wife who gets up, goes to work, feeds her family, pays ever increasing bills and is sick to the back teeth of this govt and any other govt who cares more about foreign affairs and giving money away whilst we struggle? Yes.
If that makes me right wing and therefore a racist or a fascist or any other 'ist', then quite frankly, I'll wear that badge. It's not even an insult anymore. It's just words used to silence by those jumping on a bandwagon thinking that they are on the 'correct' side.
First sensible post I’ve read on this thread.

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GaIadriel · 18/02/2026 19:10

Battytwatty · 18/02/2026 19:07

Helen1625 · 16/02/2026 18:21
It's really quite interesting that the insults on this thread are all coming from the left. So far there's been c*, misogynist, fascist, racist, basically anyone who is not left is free game for an insult. The only ones who are showing an intolerance and bigoted narrow minded views so far are the left.
I might be considered right wing, particularly by a left winger.
I don't agree that men should share women's spaces - would I go out of my way to be rude to a man dressed as a woman? No.
Do I think it's acceptable for men to dress as women and access women's spaces? Also no.
Am I concerned about the people coming in on boats? Yes.
Do I think we should be housing them? No.
Am I alarmed about the number of sexual assaults carried out by these men? Yes.
I'm also alarmed by the amount of knife crime on our streets and I am fully aware that even indigenous Brits commit crimes and sexual assaults.
I hate them all equally.
Do I think grooming gangs should be investigated? Yes.
Do I think everyone involved in the cover up should be investigated, from the rich and famous to the police forces and councillors? Also yes.
Am I just an ordinary mom and wife who gets up, goes to work, feeds her family, pays ever increasing bills and is sick to the back teeth of this govt and any other govt who cares more about foreign affairs and giving money away whilst we struggle? Yes.
If that makes me right wing and therefore a racist or a fascist or any other 'ist', then quite frankly, I'll wear that badge. It's not even an insult anymore. It's just words used to silence by those jumping on a bandwagon thinking that they are on the 'correct' side.
First sensible post I’ve read on this thread.

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Me too.

Teanbiscuits33 · 18/02/2026 19:18

GaIadriel · 18/02/2026 19:04

You are voting for Reform based off the fear that the bad men ‘’might’’ come and take your rights away.

Am I? Because I'm pretty sure I said I wasn't a Reform supporter.

I'm explaining why people are voting this way and how the left are only making the problem worse with all their name calling. I can only conclude at this point that many of them are too myopic to see the self fulfilling prophecy they're enacting, or alternatively that they don't really care that much and just enjoy being self righteous/lecturing people online. Or maybe it's just hurt pride. Who knows.

Some people are happy to suffer a shit government for a few years to sort out the immigration problem. It may be that no other party has the balls to enact the tough measures needed but will continue with the status quo once it's in place. Even a soft touch party who won't crack down on it would be idiots to reopen the floodgates if another party sort it out before them. That would be political suicide.

You can say what you want but the polls speak for themselves.

‘’Suffer a shit government for a few years’ ‘

I think that’s possibly the biggest understatement that’s ever been said. Given that Reform is the British embodiment of MAGA, I’d say you’re being a bit optimistic there.

LeaderBee · 18/02/2026 19:20

RosesAndHellebores · 16/02/2026 16:58

I am a conservative and have been since 1979. I regarded school mum friends as acquaintances and didn't overshare. The self righteous lefties would never have become more than acquaintances. Kindred spirits became my friends.

Thr tolerant left being intolerant again, i see.

Pineneedlesincarpet · 18/02/2026 20:01

Teanbiscuits33 · 18/02/2026 19:03

There are some men that hate women. Should we deport all men, or kill them, or tar them all with the same brush?

There are some Welsh, English and Scottish people who hate each other, should we ban each other out of our respective countries just in case violence breaks out?

There is a stereotype about catholic priests being paedophiles, should we ban them all from the country?

Has it ever occurred to anyone that most of these people might want to escape the Taliban?

I mean this ‘’fighting age’’ men rhetoric makes me laugh, when it seems like half the men in this country, a significant proportion of whom are self declared Reform supporting patriots, say they wouldn’t fight for their country in a war, and also say things like ‘’I’m emigrating, too many foreigners’’ without a hint of irony detected.

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You sound incredibly naive. There's a lot of people on this thread who sound like teens and who immediately go to extremes in their arguments. Not hugely helpful.

Pineneedlesincarpet · 18/02/2026 20:03

Teanbiscuits33 · 18/02/2026 19:18

‘’Suffer a shit government for a few years’ ‘

I think that’s possibly the biggest understatement that’s ever been said. Given that Reform is the British embodiment of MAGA, I’d say you’re being a bit optimistic there.

And MAGA of course was elected to do certain things that the majority of the electorate wanted. That's democracy.

Teanbiscuits33 · 18/02/2026 20:11

Pineneedlesincarpet · 18/02/2026 20:01

You sound incredibly naive. There's a lot of people on this thread who sound like teens and who immediately go to extremes in their arguments. Not hugely helpful.

and you don’t sound naive at all, of course.

Pineneedlesincarpet · 18/02/2026 20:13

Teanbiscuits33 · 18/02/2026 20:11

and you don’t sound naive at all, of course.

By pointing out that you sound naive? You don't really sound like a wise old sage from your posts on this thread TBF.

Teanbiscuits33 · 18/02/2026 20:14

Pineneedlesincarpet · 18/02/2026 20:03

And MAGA of course was elected to do certain things that the majority of the electorate wanted. That's democracy.

Would you be happy to live under a regime like that? As long as nobody comes for you, is it okay? Nobody thinks anyone will come for them, it’s the others that they don’t mind suffering, you know, the ones that aren’t human.

That’s exactly how it happened in Nazi Germany, as much as people don’t like that mentioned.

BlueJuniper94 · 18/02/2026 20:15

Teanbiscuits33 · 18/02/2026 17:44

So you’re telling me you care more about the names than the point the article was making? Right.

It was things like this that hit home for me:

The thing that gets my back up about this is that it is a genuinely dangerous brand of politics from a worldview that is far from benign for anyone who is painted as the villain in the narrative, and it’s a political ideology that explicitly treats rights as conditional, pluralism as weakness and equality as indulgence.
Orr’s public record on abortion alone should be enough to make anyone with an even marginally functional moral compass recoil, and that’s not even going anywhere close to his views on the LGBT community or his extremely worrying links to JD “Maybe it’s Maybelline” Vance, the Vice President of the United States who is currently overseeing some of the biggest assaults on civil liberties in the US in decades.

Yes, I did read that. What is the salient point you think I am missing? In your own words - I genuinely am not finding the insight you claim is there...

Pineneedlesincarpet · 18/02/2026 20:15

Teanbiscuits33 · 18/02/2026 20:14

Would you be happy to live under a regime like that? As long as nobody comes for you, is it okay? Nobody thinks anyone will come for them, it’s the others that they don’t mind suffering, you know, the ones that aren’t human.

That’s exactly how it happened in Nazi Germany, as much as people don’t like that mentioned.

The US is not Nazi Germany.

BlueJuniper94 · 18/02/2026 20:17

Teanbiscuits33 · 18/02/2026 20:14

Would you be happy to live under a regime like that? As long as nobody comes for you, is it okay? Nobody thinks anyone will come for them, it’s the others that they don’t mind suffering, you know, the ones that aren’t human.

That’s exactly how it happened in Nazi Germany, as much as people don’t like that mentioned.

I feel very attacked by your preferred regime. Hyperliberalism has had and will have serious impacts on my life.

Teanbiscuits33 · 18/02/2026 20:27

My preferred regime that wants other human beings to be treated with dignity and respect, to have rights, to not be exploited by a government of billionaires? Me who has empathy for others and doesn’t paint entire groups with the same brush because of their religion, skin colour or where they were born? I’d say that’s simply not being a bigot.

Crazy and unwise? Ok

I’m definitely out now. I have nothing more to contribute.

Clavinova · 18/02/2026 20:53

Teanbiscuits33 · 17/02/2026 23:56

Do you know why the ECHR was set up? After World War Two to prevent… guess what? Fascism! To prevent governments committing atrocities to citizens. Where do you think we could go if the government decided we don’t have rights anymore without the ECHR oversight? Nowhere. Telling you it’s about immigration is a lie. The ECHR has overturned about 20 deportation attempts.

If they told you it was about anything other than immigration, people won’t vote for it. As it is, they are so misinformed and filled with hate and lies that they happily vote to strip THEIR OWN HUMAN RIGHTS AWAY! I mean 🤯

It’s like turkeys voting for Christmas.

The ECHR has overturned about 20 deportation attempts

Some stats here:

The House of Commons Library published a helpful new research briefing examining how the European Convention on Human Rights (ECHR) affects immigration decisions and appeals in the UK.

According to figures in the briefing, around 61,000 appeals based on ECHR rights succeeded in the First-tier Tribunal (Immigration and Asylum Chamber) from 2015 to 2024, which represents a success rate of around 53%.

https://www.ein.org.uk/news/house-commons-library-examines-effect-echr-uk-immigration-law

Pineneedlesincarpet · 18/02/2026 21:10

Teanbiscuits33 · 18/02/2026 20:27

My preferred regime that wants other human beings to be treated with dignity and respect, to have rights, to not be exploited by a government of billionaires? Me who has empathy for others and doesn’t paint entire groups with the same brush because of their religion, skin colour or where they were born? I’d say that’s simply not being a bigot.

Crazy and unwise? Ok

I’m definitely out now. I have nothing more to contribute.

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You're going nuts about a party that you liken to the Nazi party that isnt and hasn't been the government and hasn't even got a manifesto, so you dont actually know what it wants to do.

And yet you aren't worried about the current government consisting of members that pass state secrets to billionaire sextraffickers, that is assualting democracy by canceling elections, jury trials, encouraging a two tier justice system favouring one religion over all others, pursuing vendettas againts journalists who expose the Government's dodgy practices and which runs in a country where Jews are being persecuted on the street.

Remarkable.

HamToasties · 19/02/2026 08:08

Pineneedlesincarpet · 18/02/2026 21:10

You're going nuts about a party that you liken to the Nazi party that isnt and hasn't been the government and hasn't even got a manifesto, so you dont actually know what it wants to do.

And yet you aren't worried about the current government consisting of members that pass state secrets to billionaire sextraffickers, that is assualting democracy by canceling elections, jury trials, encouraging a two tier justice system favouring one religion over all others, pursuing vendettas againts journalists who expose the Government's dodgy practices and which runs in a country where Jews are being persecuted on the street.

Remarkable.

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To add to that: persecuting people for something said on social media, while criminals run free.

But apparently the Right are fascists…

JustSomeWaferThinHam · 19/02/2026 08:37

Teanbiscuits33 · 18/02/2026 17:26

Where have ‘’the extremists’’ said this anyway, where are you getting this from?

The videos they publish on social media. Straight from the horses mouth so to speak. The speeches made by the Islamists in Blackburn where Kate Hollern the Labour candidate was intimidated and threatened with beheading. The ex Muslims who have already fled from countries where this has happened and have the brains to take it seriously.

Check out what campaigner Raja Miah says if you don’t believe me. And Konstantin Kisin. Prove me wrong.

JustSomeWaferThinHam · 19/02/2026 08:41

Teanbiscuits33 · 18/02/2026 17:20

LMFAO!!! Muhammad Zia Yusuf is your Home Secretary.
and you’re talking absolute shite and playing the victim here.

You appear to be lumping all Muslims in together. Quite a common left wing trait when it suits.

You do know that Muslims are not a homogeneous group? They don’t all think the same.

Sartre · 19/02/2026 08:44

I’ve always tried not to live in an echo chamber and listen to various views but I’ve found that being politically opposite to someone can make it more difficult to get on. I’ve read a few books by notorious right wingers- Jordan Peterson for example, I don’t pretend they don’t exist and am interested in what they have to say.

Having said this, I wouldn’t disregard a conservative voter but I’d struggle to maintain a friendship with a Reform voter. I’d question why they liked Reform firstly but as with Leave voters, I assume it’s probably entrenched in a level of racism and/or xenophobia. That’s not me being a ‘woke leftie snowflake’ either, I just genuinely haven’t come across a Reform supporter who isn’t solely interested in ‘forriners’.

dreamiesformolly · 19/02/2026 10:14

Pineneedlesincarpet · 18/02/2026 20:15

The US is not Nazi Germany.

How much do you know about how the
Nazis came to power? Just curious.