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To partially disagree with the argument about the 'second shift' made by some WASPIS?

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Carla786 · 15/02/2026 19:47

I know that workplace discrimination was rife for women who were born in the 1950s. Lack of childcare etc. I'm not disputing that.

I disagree partly with the argument made by some WASPIS that the 'second shift' (housework/childcare) they had to do while in paid work is important to their case.

For one thing, women in the 1970s & 80s were more likely to work less hours, work part-time. Men were more likely to work longer hours, do more overtime. Obviously this was fuelled by discrimination, lack of childcare that I mentioned above.

This ties to my other point : in the 70s & 80s raising children was often less labour-intensive than today, in the sense that children played out a lot more, ferrying to many activities was less common, parental input even in primary school was generally a bit less intense than expected often today. Studies (I'll link) have shown mothers (and fathers) spend longer with their kids today, whether or not they work.

So I suppose my point is: did that many WASPI age women experience a second shift as such?
I'm not disputing the misogyny of the era often but otoh if childcare was less labour-intensive than today, and many women were SAHM, part time, and less likely to work overtime, were a lot of women necessarily experiencing a 'second shift' in the sense of spending more hours working than their husband? In this equation, housework and childcare are counted as work, as well as paid work.

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TheGoodLadyMary · 15/02/2026 20:20

Overthebow · 15/02/2026 20:17

Do you know the age of WASPI women? My mum is a WASPI, I’m in my late 30s. Growing up we had a tumble dryer, hoover, microwave, and frozen food.

This. The idea that my mum was hand washing clothes is absolutely laughable. I think that poster is about 20/30 years out of date!

Carla786 · 15/02/2026 20:24

tirednessbecomesme · 15/02/2026 20:15

Physically housework would have been harder - no tumble dryer, absolutely everything would be ironed! My mother is that generation and she still irons towels and king size bed sheets!! No steam
mops or cordless hoovers or self cleaning ovens. All meals were home cooked - no microwaves - a lot more prep - no ready made sauces and microwave meals or takeaways

I agree that the “second shift” doesn’t really relate to childcare per se since yes children were a lot more independent and there was little parental interaction - my parents are aghast at the number of sports and clubs my kids do that I have to ferry them to to - I don’t force them it’s just the “norm” not to mention the kids who also do a martial art, language or music lesson. I don’t recall the level of homework being the same - my kids have had homework since reception that takes up a good portion of Sundays

Re microwaves: these were around in the 70s. One link I read said around 36% of households in 1980s had one. So most didn't but many did.

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Octavia64 · 15/02/2026 20:24

My mum is slightly older than the waspis.

i don’t think my dad ever cooked a meal in his life.
he certainly never did the laundry or hung it out or ironed anything.

my mum worked several part time jobs in order to do all school drop offs and pick ups and she’d had a good job and a good career before kids.

there definitely was a second shift for her and she was often doing more actual hours working than my dad was but spread over multiple jobs.

MidnightPatrol · 15/02/2026 20:25

Carla786 · 15/02/2026 20:20

I've seen WASPI women argue on here that the lower retirement age was compensation for the second shift. I don't think it was meant that way though.

It was because older men typically married younger women.

It’s 2026, women still do ‘the second shift’ after work. We won’t be retiring at 60 either.

The pension, and WASPI compensation, isn’t as a ‘reward’ for historical inequalities or discrimination against women.

BBCK · 15/02/2026 20:25

I was a teenager in the 70s/80s, My parents worked fewer hours than I work and did little around the house. As a teenager I did all of the ironing, some of the cooking and some of the cleaning. My parents took me nowhere. If I wanted to do something I had to get myself there.
I don’t think this was unusual.

Carla786 · 15/02/2026 20:27

grannygrinch · 15/02/2026 20:03

I think it was actually more labour intensive. Housework definitely was no tumble drying automatic washers , fancy hoovers, microwave ovens, frozen food . Things were definitely not as easy as they are now.

Hoovers were around in 70s & 80s: were they quite inefficient then though?

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Dearg · 15/02/2026 20:28

I couldn’t read your link as it would not show the whole article, but the initial reference was American parents- does it move on to UK data?

I was born in the 1960s , so not a WASPI, but that generation definitely did it all , around child care, house work and many did work outside the home.

I don’t know enough about their second shift argument, but I do believe that if any group was told at age 45 that their pension age was being extended and then at 61 the goal posts moved again, that group would have a grievance.

Carla786 · 15/02/2026 20:28

MidnightPatrol · 15/02/2026 20:25

It was because older men typically married younger women.

It’s 2026, women still do ‘the second shift’ after work. We won’t be retiring at 60 either.

The pension, and WASPI compensation, isn’t as a ‘reward’ for historical inequalities or discrimination against women.

I agree, some seemed to frame it that way but I really don't think governments at the time would have been thinking in those terms.

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Carla786 · 15/02/2026 20:30

Octavia64 · 15/02/2026 20:24

My mum is slightly older than the waspis.

i don’t think my dad ever cooked a meal in his life.
he certainly never did the laundry or hung it out or ironed anything.

my mum worked several part time jobs in order to do all school drop offs and pick ups and she’d had a good job and a good career before kids.

there definitely was a second shift for her and she was often doing more actual hours working than my dad was but spread over multiple jobs.

That sounds very hard. My grandfather didn't cook but he did clean, do other chores (like gardening) & do pick-ups & drop-offs.

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BIossomtoes · 15/02/2026 20:32

TheGoodLadyMary · 15/02/2026 20:20

This. The idea that my mum was hand washing clothes is absolutely laughable. I think that poster is about 20/30 years out of date!

I hand washed nappies in the mid 70s. I had a twin tub that was such a pain to set up that it wasn’t worth getting it out every day. Definitely no tumble dryer, freezer, dishwasher or microwave until around 1990. One of the reasons women then tended not to be obese was because housework was so physical and men just never did any - and precious little childcare.

BBCK · 15/02/2026 20:32

My mother definitely worked less hard than me and got £70000 more than me in pension. I’m not a WASPI but still missed out. It is what it is. It would be ridiculous to pay state pension to 60 year old women now.

Carla786 · 15/02/2026 20:32

HoorayHattie · 15/02/2026 20:08

Definitely this!

I remember my DM washing terry nappies by hand, shopping daily for groceries as she had to carry everything home, scrubbing linoleum floors on her hands & knees, and there was always a bit ironing pile and a mending basket

All cooking was done from scratch, she grew vegetables, knitted all our jumpers and did a lot of sewing.

Wow, that sounds very hard. I think my grandpa often drove my gran to the supermarket but it was definitely hard work when she did carry it home. She didn't grow vegetables, knit or sew though.

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napody · 15/02/2026 20:32

Carla786 · 15/02/2026 20:19

I live with her! (Gen Z, for context) We have talked loads about her life.
I think overall she found housework in 60s & 70s less stressful as she was a SAHM. There were some things to help (ready meals in 80s made things easier) but the stress she focuses on was more to do with managing the kids' commute to schools in 3 different areas, then managing once she got back to work in the 80s.

I know it was different for many people, and it varied based on what help you had, what equipment etc

On front step issues, ours is a very dark grey, dirt does not show up. She can't recall scrubbing it, my mum can't remember that happening either.

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Love that! I think I have gone a decade too far back for waspis to be fair! And I agree with others that i think their strongest argument was about moving goalposts, not the second shift which definitely still exists for mothers.

But it was labour intensive on a council estate in the 70s from what my grandma tells me- she had a job too, she'd do a 6-10 factory shift when my grandad got home.

MidnightPatrol · 15/02/2026 20:33

Dearg · 15/02/2026 20:28

I couldn’t read your link as it would not show the whole article, but the initial reference was American parents- does it move on to UK data?

I was born in the 1960s , so not a WASPI, but that generation definitely did it all , around child care, house work and many did work outside the home.

I don’t know enough about their second shift argument, but I do believe that if any group was told at age 45 that their pension age was being extended and then at 61 the goal posts moved again, that group would have a grievance.

Should women be able to retire 5 years earlier than men?

Younger adults are being told they will be retiring later again - it’s quite likely many will be told the state pension is means tested and so lose out there too. Should these people be asking for compensation too?

We have an ageing population funded by a dwindling working one - what do you propose the government does to keep the scheme sustainable?

BIossomtoes · 15/02/2026 20:35

it’s quite likely many will be told the state pension is means tested and so lose out there too. Should these people be asking for compensation too?

If that happens they definitely should. For now they should avoid voting for any political party that includes pension reform in its manifesto.

Justthethingsthatyoudointhisgarden · 15/02/2026 20:39

I was born in the late 60s. I don't know where you got your ridiculous notions from, but my mum worked a hell of a lot harder on the second shift than I ever did. Cleaning was harder, as white goods weren't a patch on what we have now and unaffordable for some. Washing on the line for days on end in the winter. No second car so shopping trolley down to the high street a few times a week with two kids in tow. No central heating. Limited TV to plonk the kids in front of. No flexibility at work - if we were ill the neighbour just popped over to check on us as mum still had to go to work. No kids clubs in the holidays.

We had a great childhood with visits to the park, caravan holidays with all our neighbours, odd trip to the cinema. But there was no money for anything else.

It is massively disrespectful to these women to think they had it easy.

Dearg · 15/02/2026 20:40

MidnightPatrol · 15/02/2026 20:33

Should women be able to retire 5 years earlier than men?

Younger adults are being told they will be retiring later again - it’s quite likely many will be told the state pension is means tested and so lose out there too. Should these people be asking for compensation too?

We have an ageing population funded by a dwindling working one - what do you propose the government does to keep the scheme sustainable?

Oh no, I don’t think women should retire earlier than men, we generally live longer anyway.

My argument is not that the change should not have been made, simply that it seems poorly implemented. I am 64, state pension at 67. I have known that for about 15 years and planned accordingly.

But 61 is late to be told you now fall into the category that claims at 65 , instead of 63.

Carla786 · 15/02/2026 20:43

napody · 15/02/2026 20:32

Love that! I think I have gone a decade too far back for waspis to be fair! And I agree with others that i think their strongest argument was about moving goalposts, not the second shift which definitely still exists for mothers.

But it was labour intensive on a council estate in the 70s from what my grandma tells me- she had a job too, she'd do a 6-10 factory shift when my grandad got home.

Thank you, yes, probably 50s-60s was surely harder as there were less appliances.

That sounds really hard for your gran : obviously quite a lot of women also worked physical jobs as well as doing physical work at home.

Agree re moving goalposts. My biggest issue is that even if it is just cause, how much can we afford it? Difficult...

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MidnightPatrol · 15/02/2026 20:45

Dearg · 15/02/2026 20:40

Oh no, I don’t think women should retire earlier than men, we generally live longer anyway.

My argument is not that the change should not have been made, simply that it seems poorly implemented. I am 64, state pension at 67. I have known that for about 15 years and planned accordingly.

But 61 is late to be told you now fall into the category that claims at 65 , instead of 63.

61 year olds weren’t told they were going to retire at 65 rather than 63 though.

Mum1216 · 15/02/2026 20:47

I was born late sixties. We had a dishwasher before we had a car or a colour TV. My dm worked Saturdays only. My df had an entry level job. They had a three bedroomed house in a nice area of Surrey they bought with no savings. Yes money was tight. All food was cooked at home, no meals out or takeaways. They only bought drinks and chocolate once a week. We didn’t have holidays. Clothes were second hand. But their life in general was easier. I’m one of several dc.

MargeryBargery · 15/02/2026 20:48

Justthethingsthatyoudointhisgarden · 15/02/2026 20:39

I was born in the late 60s. I don't know where you got your ridiculous notions from, but my mum worked a hell of a lot harder on the second shift than I ever did. Cleaning was harder, as white goods weren't a patch on what we have now and unaffordable for some. Washing on the line for days on end in the winter. No second car so shopping trolley down to the high street a few times a week with two kids in tow. No central heating. Limited TV to plonk the kids in front of. No flexibility at work - if we were ill the neighbour just popped over to check on us as mum still had to go to work. No kids clubs in the holidays.

We had a great childhood with visits to the park, caravan holidays with all our neighbours, odd trip to the cinema. But there was no money for anything else.

It is massively disrespectful to these women to think they had it easy.

I too was born late 60's and agree with this word for word.

Nevermind17 · 15/02/2026 20:50

TheGoodLadyMary · 15/02/2026 20:20

This. The idea that my mum was hand washing clothes is absolutely laughable. I think that poster is about 20/30 years out of date!

My DM had a twin tub in the 80s but she’d only get it out for big loads. She used to do a lot of washing by hand too.

We didn’t have a microwave and Mum never drove so shopping was done every day. The fridge had a small freezer compartment at the top, no separate freezer. We didn’t have a shower, we had one of those rubber hoses that attached to the bath taps.

She was a single mum and money was tight. Our only TV was rented, and we often didn’t have a landline when it was cut off and she had to save up for the reconnection fee.

Just because things were available in the 80s, doesn’t mean everyone could afford them.

Hodgemollar · 15/02/2026 20:51

The amount of work a woman did outside paid work and in many cases instead of paid work should have absolutely nothing to do with earlier retirement and imo really waters down whatever weak case they had.
First it was because they claim not to have known, now early retirement should be a form of payment because they had to look after their own home and children??

MidnightPatrol · 15/02/2026 20:51

Nevermind17 · 15/02/2026 20:50

My DM had a twin tub in the 80s but she’d only get it out for big loads. She used to do a lot of washing by hand too.

We didn’t have a microwave and Mum never drove so shopping was done every day. The fridge had a small freezer compartment at the top, no separate freezer. We didn’t have a shower, we had one of those rubber hoses that attached to the bath taps.

She was a single mum and money was tight. Our only TV was rented, and we often didn’t have a landline when it was cut off and she had to save up for the reconnection fee.

Just because things were available in the 80s, doesn’t mean everyone could afford them.

Does this mean she should get compensation from the government for her pension age changing though?

Neurodiversitydoctor · 15/02/2026 20:52

grannygrinch · 15/02/2026 20:03

I think it was actually more labour intensive. Housework definitely was no tumble drying automatic washers , fancy hoovers, microwave ovens, frozen food . Things were definitely not as easy as they are now.

Hang on these women were having children in the '70s , '80s and '90s in which world did they not have vacum cleaners, automatic washing machines and frozen food ?