Male “friend” exhibiting red flags

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Not sure if I am overthinking this or if my gut was screaming at me for a reason.
Went out last night with a male friend I have known for a while. He has always been a bit flirty, lots of compliments, innuendos, that sort of thing. I have told him more than once I am not interested and to tone it down. He says he understands but then it creeps back in.
We had a couple of drinks and went outside to smoke. He kept insisting I finish the whole roll up. I said no a few times and he laughed it off and kept pushing. Something about that moment made me feel uneasy.
We went back inside and I suddenly felt very high, throat tight, vulnerable. It was just us two. For the first time ever around him I felt slightly scared. Not because he did anything overt, just a shift in energy. I felt like I needed to be on guard.
He went to the toilet and I grabbed my coat and left. I did not even think, I just left and ran. I have never done that before.
He later messaged saying he was worried when he came back and I was gone.
For context he has previously told me he does not want to be friends, he wants to sleep with me and wants me to be obsessed with him. He also gets angry when I mention seeing other men.
Maybe nothing would have happened. But my body told me to go and I listened.
AIBU or did I dodge something there?
at this moment in time I no longer want him in my life.

Run a mile. Block contact

Your gut was right.

You've both been very clear from the sound of it - you want to be friends, he wants more. Don't go out with him for drinks, he thinks there is more and you don't. Whether there was anything else in your roll up nobody can know.

Are you saying he spiked you? That's illegal?

I think you were right to listen to your instincts. But, not knowing what you had taken, you weren't necessarily safer outside. Bars are often aware of this sort of thing and should keep you safe if you approach a staff member. There's a code word you can use too, but unfortunately, I can't remember it atm.

Trust yourself.
You don't need friends who make you feel unsafe and who don't respect your boundaries.

For context he has previously told me he does not want to be friends, he wants to sleep with me and wants me to be obsessed with him. He also gets angry when I mention seeing other men.

I think this probably says it all. He isn't a friend, he's a man who wants a total different relationship with you. Always trust your instinct: leave a situation which doesn't feel safe. And I think the 'friendship is over.

No the roll up was weed, I knew what I was smoking but he was pushing me to smoke more of it rather than the couple times I had

I think your gut was right, and probably it was right back when he said the bits about sleeping with you and anger at seeing other men, you just didn’t fully listen to it then, but last night that was the final bit of evidence for you. Definitely get him out of your life.

He has always been a bit flirty, lots of compliments, innuendos, that sort of thing. I have told him more than once I am not interested and to tone it down.

I got to here and was like "nah girl. You arent friends. He wants to shag you. Block and run"

I got to the end and was like "you should do a blood test/ toxicology report and look to press charges"

I'm not sure why you were out with him at all given what he has said to you previously

Are you saying he spiked the rollie?

I would give NHS 111 a call and tell them what happened, if he put something in the roll up it may still be in your system.

Well done for getting the hell out of there.

Ask for Angela.

Why meet him at all if you do not want him? What is this about? It makes no sense. Just dont see him ... for both your sakes.
He wants a sexual relationship, you don't. End of.

Why on earth do you keep seeing him? Just stop

He is not your friend. He made it clear long before this that his intention is to sleep with you. You have a gut instinct for good reason, stay well away from him.

It’s because stupidly a few months ago we kissed, and he’s been hung up on that ever since. He got way too attached. I made it clear I shouldn’t have kissed him, but being drunk and horny led me to do that.
he’s blocked now after I told him everything and don’t intend on being his friend ever again.

Ditch him he's potentially dangerous and may just take what you're not giving if you were in a vulnerable state.
Definitely have nothing to do with him.

When he told you he wasn't your friend, you should have probably listened to him. Now he's not only told you, he's shown you, so please take heed. Kidding yourself you're in a friendship with a man who clearly wants sex is a massive mistake and in this case is getting to danger levels. Get rid of him. Find other friends. Women are generally safer bet.

Does he know where you live?

He knows where I work but not where I live

He is NOT a friend, he is a predator. Block, block, block. If you have mutual friends, tell them you want nothing to do with him, and tell them why. Block him and them off all SM accounts. Up your personal security at home, extra bolts, door spyhole, etc, and if he does manage to contact you in any way, do not respond, but keep a record of everything he sends. This is a man who has tried to drug you to make you sexually compliant, and he is dangerous. Personally, I would go to the police and talk to someone about this, say you realise without evidence they can't do anything, but you wanted this on record. Please look after yourself.

Your gut is telling you everything you need to know. Trust it.

Why are you mucking about spending time with this creepy man and kissing him and smoking weed with him? You need to take better care of yourself!

I think op has given massively mixed signals here (keep seeing him, smoke weed, kiss him) while he’s been clear about his intentions.

also it doesn’t sound like he spiked anything, just encouraged her to smoke more.

not sure he’s the arsehole he’s being made out to be