Neighbour asked me to take in her parcel whilst she went out

[ready4sunshine]

So yesterday I got a message from a neighbour who lives two doors down to me to ask if I would be able to take in her parcel to my house.

Her parcel had already been delivered and was left in a safe place in the side where she usually had her parcels delivered.

It was raining and she wanted me to bring it in.
I did it but was slightly annoyed as why order a parcel if your going to be out?

This is the third time this has happened now.

I am aware our mutual neighbour refuses to accept her deliveries and even has a Royal Mail Opt out sticker on her letterbox.

I have only ever spoken to her three times. All related to her deliveries. She dosent even say hello usually.

I don't want this to be a regular thing but as I am on the neighbourhood watch group chat she just messages me now.

I don't want to be seen as rude or ignorant but I don't want it becoming a regular habit.

4 to 5 parcels a week not a day!

Wow you sound a delight, what the hell Is wrong with taking a neighbours parcel in? You miserable sod. My neighbour often takes my parcels in due to work, they have no issue. Why do you?

When your neighbour takes your parcels in do you say thank you? Do you say hello and are generally friendly to them? OPs neighbour doesn’t and isn’t.

Do you slag off your neighbour’s dead pet and gossip about it to all and sundry? OPs neighbour does.

And you think the OP is the miserable sod?! 🙄🤣🤭

You ok hun?

you seem very wound up and very concerned that your work shouldn’t get in the way of you ordering many parcels and inconveniencing your neighbours lives. It’s not just taking the parcels it’s when the neighbour then rocks up knocking at your door for said parcel

@ready4sunshine said they knocked on at 10pm that is not fair

maybe you should order less parcels and save up to get named delivery day when you are more likely to be at home for them

You’re making it a bigger deal than it needs to be. Either you do it, or you say no. Either way is fine but doesn’t have to be a big drama 🙄🤷‍♀️

Because small acts of kindness make you a better person. You can sneer at that idea, or you can smile. Which are you going to choose?

Unless I’m going to lose my job for taking in a lot of neighbours parcels and then have them knocking to collect them when I’m taking calls in India and US and they actually have delivery instructions to deliver to boardwalk

Or send it to a locker. You’re neighbours don’t love being kind and taking in your tat

There is a reason the other neighbours won’t do it don’t you think? Just don’t respond, she will soon get the hint.

I'm a big fan of killing people with kindness, but there's a hard limit, especially if they don't take the hint.

You might feel like the 'better person', but what's actually happening (and what everyone else is seeing) is that the cheeky, rude neighbor is taking the piss out of you, and you're smiling and letting it happen.

Personally I've got more respect for myself than to run around doing errands for a neighbor I don't know, who doesn't thank me and won't acknowledge me unless she's asking for something. My life would have to be absolutely empty before I'd do that with a smile.

(In fairness, I've had some incredibly unreasonable neighbors 😅)

My friend has a parcel Box , right next to the front door , you can't miss it. Has a note on the door. Note on all orders... they still leave parcels on the door step in the belting sun or pissing rain

deliveries really specify a day and time and on the rare occasion they do they never turn up on that day or time.

Ah would ya stop. It's only a parcel and it's not much to ask. You wouldn't get this here in Ireland where we're all friendly 😂

The neighbour doesn’t seem particularly cheeky or rude. Just not very chatty. Perhaps she’s shy.

She's never thanked the OP, doesn't engage with her unless she wants something and - the most horrid of crimes - has insulted her cat.

Oh right. I’d missed the bit about the cat. Burn the witch!

If you don’t want to do it, just ignore the message, then respond later to say you only saw the message when it was too late. She’ll probably get the message.

There’s a very simple solution - add the parcel tracking number onto the Royal Mail site with your email address and then they email you when it’s on its way. Then you can go on the RM site and change the delivery date or place or even address where you want it delivering to. Every other courier company have the same system

Oh hell no!!! She’s had her final straw and turning up at 10pm without even a thank you or a sorry it’s so late would seriously piss me off!! Make sure you put her number on mute on WhatsApp or whatever it is and don’t open any of her messages again and certainly don’t let her use your address for deliveries because I can guarantee that’s what will be happening next! That’s prob why the other neighbours won’t accept them as she’s put notes on the delivery instructions telling the postie to leave her parcel there if she’s out !

Is it really that inconvenient for you to help out a neighbour? You don’t always know when they will show. After theft of one of my parcels in my block of flats, I usually get things delivered to my son’s or to a pick up point, but when things are delivered here, the lovely old man upstairs takes my parcels in so they are not stolen. Bless his heart, I feel terrible when I see him on my ring camera coming so slowly on his sticks (hence I changed my deliveries). I don’t think it’s asking too much unless it’s excessive, just part of being a good neighbour.

edited to add she sounds rude. Just don’t open the message, say you were busy or asleep.

Don’t open message from her or change setting so she can’t see it as being read.

I was team neighbour until I heard about the cat-slagging. I'd leave it out in the rain and ask my other cat to pee on it for her.

lol! What a hardship

It may have been mentioned up thread, but you can hold down your finger on a WhatsApp message in the list of messages and read it outside the message if you get my drift and then the recipient don’t know that you’ve read it.

Whe I moved to my current place, I used to take in parcels all the time trying to be a good neighbour. But then there was a combination of not picking the parcel up for days, ignoring me and just taking the parcel with no thank you and even never collecting the parcel. I soon put a stop to that and it’s a no from me. If I get asked it’s a no, I don’t care whether they have noticed I’m in or not and I don’t reply to text messages asking either.

I dont see the big deal. Just take in hwr parcel ?

she hasnt asked you to birth her baby