Neighbour asked me to take in her parcel whilst she went out

[ready4sunshine]

So yesterday I got a message from a neighbour who lives two doors down to me to ask if I would be able to take in her parcel to my house.

Her parcel had already been delivered and was left in a safe place in the side where she usually had her parcels delivered.

It was raining and she wanted me to bring it in.
I did it but was slightly annoyed as why order a parcel if your going to be out?

This is the third time this has happened now.

I am aware our mutual neighbour refuses to accept her deliveries and even has a Royal Mail Opt out sticker on her letterbox.

I have only ever spoken to her three times. All related to her deliveries. She dosent even say hello usually.

I don't want this to be a regular thing but as I am on the neighbourhood watch group chat she just messages me now.

I don't want to be seen as rude or ignorant but I don't want it becoming a regular habit.

Mute her number and simply ignore.
She's a user.

i only really like to order from websites when I know what day it’s going to be delivered so I’ll be home. However daughter has asked for a couple of birthday presents from websites which were royal mail delivery and they both came on days where I wasn’t there. Annoying.

itw not always possible to get things delivered when you know you will be home. I think yesterday I would have taken in the delivery for the neighbour as it was absolutely terrential

Is this really something people get annoyed about? I just thought it was normal to take in neighbours parcels for them as they do for me?

I’ve had many of these “are you in? It’s pissing down and Evri have left my parcel at the side door” messages from my next door neighbour. She’s also taken stuff in for me without me having to ask her. Especially if she notices it’s Amazon because the cardboard gets soaked through. She just takes it and messages me to let me know she has it

this is not something I could ever imaging being annoyed about

As your neighbour isn't very nice, I wouldn't bother. As it isn't just letting the courier deliver it to your address because it's already been delivered to her safe place, you'd have to go out in the pouring rain to collect it which will be a right faff.

Better still dont give your number to your neighbours. Mine dont even know my name.

She’s out …. Say you are out too ask someone else

No.

It's a complete sentence.

For me the thing that would really annoy me is that as the OP has said the neighbour doesn’t usually even say hello. No way would I bring in her parcels in as that’s so rude.

It’s just a neighbourly thing to do. She might do the same for you one day. No need for a drama. 🙄

You don’t always know when they are arriving. Delivery companies are notoriously unhelpful and unreliable. However if she doesn’t normally other speaking to you I would just say sorry I can’t and she will stop asking.

If you don’t want to do it, just say no and give no explanation, you owe her nothing and don’t speak to her otherwise, just speak up.

Just say no if you don’t want to do it. You are BU about the “why order something if you’re out” nonsense though. How’s she meant to know exactly when it will arrive? Not every delivery service has tracking. I’ve just ordered something online, should I stay in now for the next two weeks in case it arrives?

You don't have to say you're not in.

You don't have to say anything at all. There is now legal requirement that says you have to answer a message someone sent you. Are you seriously saying that she took your number off a group chat and used it to contact you privately?

Having said that, It wouldn't hurt you to take her parcel for her - i would't have gone out in the rain though

Indeed. I often order from Amazon, and it says "arriving Wednesday" when I order but then shows up on Tuesday instead. You can't really say when it will arrive.

Yeah agree!
I’m so confused others are telling the OP to ‘ do the neighbourly thing’ and just take the packages in when this woman isn’t even polite enough to say hello or speak to her other than to ask for favours.. it’s not that I think everything in life should be tit for tat exactly but surely at some point you reap what you sow and have to treat others as you would want to be treated - if this neighbour won’t even extend the bare minimum of neighbourly behaviour ie say hello in passing how can she expect others to do favours when ever she asks?!

Christ some people are offended about everything. I have often asked neighbours to take in a package when I am not there and they have asked me. Nobody gets annoyed. We all stay friends. It is called being neighbourly.

I'm the neighbour that takes in my neighbours parcels. I personally think you're a bit of a grump tbh. You hear it all the time of parcels being stolen, what does it matter if you take it in. I just don't understand this mindset

Why should she take them in all the time and then be told her cat is ugly?!

Yup- I am a bit baffled by those posts too. This neighbour sounds extremely unfriendly and selfish and yet OP supposedly has to run out into the rain on a weekly basis to collect her parcels regardless of how rude she is just because she lives near her? fuck that.

Noone calls my pet ugly and then asks me to do them favours. Lets see how "ugly" her parcels look once they're soaking wet eh?

I wouldn’t either! I keep myself to myself. I don’t ask favours of others especially if I don’t say hello to them! Ignore and block! I’m happy to do it for people I know and are friends with but not cheeky fudkers

If it's not convenient say sorry you can't as you are out , busy, going out.

We all stay friends. It is called being neighbourly.

This woman is not being neighbourly though- she never says hello or thank you to the OP and slags off her pet. In what world is that considered "neighbourly"? If someone was constantly taking my stuff in I'd at least thank them because I am not a selfish twit

Didn’t even see the bit about her insulting her pets till after I wrote that! What a horrible human I can’t believe what a CF she is to even ask for favours

OP does she even say thank you?!

Crikey I wouldn't have a prob with that unless it happened every day. it's just bring a decent neighbour

Is taking a parcel in really a big deal if you're home. Don't fall out with people for the sake of it you might need her one day