To come back tipsy to babysitter

[RareNightOut]

My partner and I are going on a rare evening out, leaving our kids (12 and 10) in the care of a new babysitter.

We'll be back around midnight. I'd like to be able to have a few drinks whilst I'm out. Is it okay to return home a bit tipsy?

What is an acceptable number of drinks to have?

Isn’t that whole reason of going out?! Or part of it
as long as the babysitter is getting home safely herself and not expecting a lift then yes

The whole point of a babysitter is so you can relax and have fun!! Go out and enjoy yourselves. I wouldn’t know the right number of drinks because it depends how alcohol affects you.

Yes the babysitter has her own transport.

I think so, but not sure what is usual in this situation, we rarely use babysitters!

It depends what you mean by tipsy and whether the babysitter is a teenager expecting a lift home.

Tipsy is fine. Although make sure you can get back at short notice since there might be an issue with the babysitter since they are new.

As long as one of you are sober enough to look after your children after the babysitter has gone home, and the description 'tipsy' implies you will be...what's the problem?

Fine as long as you are in a fit state to be responsible for children that age, which I should add is different to younger children (one of you really should be sober with little ones) and with teens where it doesn’t matter if you let your hair down once in a while, just expect them to remind you at most embarrassing time to new partner! In my mind, over drink drive limit and giggling a bit too much fine, so drunk that you couldn’t handle an emergency, not fine

Well, I wouldn’t recommend staggering through the door and vomiting into the nearest plant pot but “tipsy” is totally fine.

My favourite thing about being a teen babysitter back when you were paid cash was the parents coming back tipsy - they usually felt more generous than the agreed rate 🤣🤣

Seriously though it’s fine. As long as you can do a handover and basic conversation your kids are old
enough to be left in the charge of tipsy parentals!

God, every time I babysat as a teenager I expected the parents to come back drunk - it was literally why I was there!

Don't overthink it. Enjoy your night out.

Unless you're coming home roaring drunk and vomit on them, or both so drunk that the babysitter feels unsafe to leave your children in your care, it's absolutely no issue at all.

Dear god NO, do not under and circumstance at all have any kind of fun while your kids are gasp with a designated babysitter. What is the world coming to. Leaving your kids AND enjoying yourself? The world has gone entirely mad.

Yes that is sarcasm. Go and get trollied woman the kids are in good hands.

How’s this even a question. No op you need to be teetotal.

I was once babysitting for someone and she stumbled back in through the door telling me she was ‘pissed as a fart’. I just thought it was funny. It’s fine OP, have a nice night out!

Tipsy is fine, more or less expected. That’s part of the point of getting a babysitter, surely?

Steaming drunk: shouting, slurring, vomiting, not cool.

As long as you’re not planning on doing that, crack on!

Of course it is. Your children aren’t babies.

Why are so unsure of everything we do these days.

I was just wondering the same thing!

I would imagine your babysitter is EXPECTING you to come home after several drinks - it’s really quite normal. Also normal not to as lots of people don’t drink at all but it’s still fairly mainstream to get a babysitter so you can go out and let your hair down, have a few drinks and relax.

As long as you don't do what one couple I used to babysit for did on their return. Attempt drunken sex in the kitchen before I had been paid!
That was an awkward "Excuse me could I have my money" To be fair the wife did approach me later that week with very blushing cheeks to apologise and say she was so embarrassed that her kids had conned me into them having a bath, apparently they had already had one 😂
She gave me another £20 for my troubles This was 1981 btw so a fair amount & her kids were adorable

Agree with @Tourmalines that's an interesting question- I think maybe because MN and social media shows us a world that is full of people ready to judge parents for anything.

With a 10 and 12 year old, absolutely fine. We came back more than a little tipsy (but never, ever blind drunk, neither of us likes being out of it) when kids were younger than that. Having a babysitter, as others have said, is so you can let your hair down!

Are you thinking of the kids or the baby sitter?

It’s fine. Gosh when I used to baby sit as a teen/young adult used to come back pissed it would be great as they would throw more money at me 😂

Do you never have a drink at home?!

The babysitter doesn’t give a shit how many drinks you have.

Why do you need to ask other people how many drinks you have? Your children are 12 and 10. Surely you must have consumed alcohol in the last dozen years?

As many as you like?! It's none of their business. They're hardly going to start questioning you.

Just chew gum and don't get too close to them if you think thud be judgemental but the whole point of getting one is that you can go out and have drinks etc.

But you are allowed to drink alcohol whenever you want. You're a grown adult.