To say having an amazing MIL is life changing!!

[Shamalama56]

Ive gone from having the MIL from hell to an amazing MIL who is such a wonderful person and so kind and respectful, I try my hardest to make sure she feels cared for and respected back too.
Its such a revelation. It changes everything. It makes me feel so happy. Just wanted to share!

Can you tell us what sort of things she does to make her so fabulous? 😃

Second marriage OP?

It is wonderful :)

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Same!

She thinks of things we both might like to do and then invites me to them.
She invites me over for dinner without him there.
She gifts me really thoughtful presents for my birthday and christmas.
Ifshe sees something i might like she picks it up for me - nothing OTT or expensive, just small things.
I do the same for her.

Basically she makes me feel like her own daughter and I treat her the same way I treat my own mother.
I think shes wonderful.

She doesnt blindly support her son "because hes my son". Shes objective.

I have an amazing relationship with my dil
we went out yesterday and I treated her to lunch and some new things.
I often pick up bits for her and she does me.
we chat about all
sorts
she knows there’s never any judgement here

she’s been in our lives for ten years and is a massive part of our family
my parents also treat her like their own grandchild.

she is a beautiful human being

Im also blessed with an amazing mother in law! She never interferes and has treated me like a daughter. We go on days out together etc. I do think the support of my good in-laws has helped our marriage through the years. Which can’t be said about my own family sadly.

She sounds lovely. I had a lovely MIL in my last long term relationship before my DH, I really enjoyed just hanging out with her. Current MIL isn’t the worst but I don’t find her easy to be with. I sometimes think about the big difference this makes. Sounds like you are making sure to cherish her, as she deserves!

I also have a fab MIL! I’m autistic and very introverted and she’s always respected my boundaries and space with DH’s guidance. I.e. she buys me the exact same thing for Xmas every year, which I think is baffling to her, but I LOVE that! We live 4 hours apart but she’s a peaceful and respectful house guest, lovely company, offers to help us with things (but doesn’t get offended if we decline!) and is supportive of us without trying to live in our pockets. We have common interests and share a sense of adventure that I can really related too. As a result we are really intentional about wanting to spend time with her- this year she’s coming with us on a 3 week bucket holiday and I can’t wait to see her reaction to some of the places we’re going!

Do you guys give a nod to your MIL on mothers day or is that kind of overstepping?

I had a good relationship with my MIL and yes it does make life a lot easier! I miss her, she was an amazing woman.

I have 5 sons so really hoping that I will have the same with their partners. My eldest son has a lovely fiancé and I get on well with her. I do enjoy buying her birthday pressies etc as I've never had a daughter to treat ☺️ her birthday has just been and I put together a big gift bag of pamper goodies, chocolates and gin!

how wonderful! So many dil’s are actually amazing people kind respectful human beings, but are vilified for no good reason, i gave up trying with my mil after one to many lie was told

how wonderful! So many dil’s are actually amazing people kind respectful human beings, but are vilified for no good reason, i gave up trying with my mil after one to many lie was told

I think if you’re a good person, you’ll be a good MIL. Both my DILs are fab, never had any issues with them at all. Hopefully they’d say the same about me 😊

Yes always, I usually put to the best mum/grandma/mil, it may seem over the top but she is fabulous and great at all three things. We would likely be friends even if we weren’t family which helps but she always has my back, is there if I need her. Lost my own mum as a teenager so feel incredibly lucky to have my MIL. She treats me as one of her own and I try very hard not to take her for granted.

Only had one MIL. Relationship to begin with was very rocky, but luckily has evolved positively over time. Distance means we don’t see each other very often, but do communicate frequently. Life is certainly a lot easier now we have a good relationship

I don’t do anything towards Mother’s Day for her as she would find that odd, but if she felt differently I would as my side of the family like to celebrate all mothers, so my mum gives and DIL cards

Another one here who has a wonderful relationship with my MIL. I've known her for 44 years and in all that time we have never even argued.
She is my mum these days as I lost mine 10 years ago, and I call her mum on any cards I send.
I don't see her that often as they are 3.5 hours away, but we speak at least twice a week. I do quite a lot of online shopping for her as her eyesight is poor these days & always take her for her hair appointments & shopping when visiting.
We also get on well in the kitchen and know each other's strengths & weaknesses, so compliment each other in the kitchen.

Mine is lovely, really really lovely. Never over steps, loves my kids to bits even though one isn’t her bio grandchild, she has never once treated her any different to my son. She’s wonderful.

Very happy for you - things did not start well with MIL and me. She remains difficult and spiky, but she can also be very thoughtful and kind. I've learned that she is up and down with everyone, even her best friends, so I just don't take anything personally and try to find the best in her.

Mine was so amazing that we continued our relationship after the ex married OW. We became good friends, instead of in-laws, right up until her death. Her other ex DIL also was in regular contact with her.

I had it the other way round sadly. First MIL was a total legend, then the second was hellish and I wasn’t expecting it.

I get on really well with my DC partners and they seem to like me very much so hopefully I am getting it mostly right!

I get on really well with both my mil and fil. I'm quite happy to spend time with them without my partner with us. We can talk about all sorts of things, they care about my wellbeing and I care about theirs too.

Lucky you. I'm pleased for you.😊

Having experienced years of the most spiteful and hated filled MIL imaginable, I now only date men whose mums are no longer around. It removes all risk. 😁