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Scared of growing resentment towards people of colour

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AppleJuiceAvid · 14/02/2026 08:19

Is anyone else scared there will be a war in the UK? Elon Musk seems to be encouraging it and Donald Trump supports far-right ideas, saying that European countries face civilisational erasure due to immigration. When you've got the rich and powerful like Sir Jim Ratcliffe saying that the UK has been colonised by immigrants, this just stokes people's anger even more against non-white immigrants. More and more white people are growing resentful of non-white people.

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AmusedShark · 14/02/2026 11:46

Snorlaxo · 14/02/2026 11:32

There’s a post at least weekly stating that something will lead to riots with that something being a whole host of stuff.

MN does love a good panic.

The site came into it's own at the start of COVID. And 99% of the predictions and fretting didn't come to pass.

The Brexit threads got quite unhinged.

When Ukraine was invaded, there was an imminent world war going to happen.

When the government started doing those mobile 'phone emergency alerts that was the signal that a war was already on the way and we were just being prepared for it. Despite the fact the mobile 'phone alerts had been planned for years and a few years in now have just been used to make people jump out of their skin being warned it might be a bit windy tomorrow.

Bird flu, swine flu, SARS, various poxes..there's been panic about them all.

BananaPeels · 14/02/2026 11:47

Darkmark · 14/02/2026 11:43

And? The world doesn't revolve around you. London is keeping the rest of the country afloat; the changes it has experienced have not stopped it from being the excellent world class city it is. London should keep being London.

the issue then comes down to- is London’s unique culture worth preserving or does it matter if that culture disappears and get a completely now one over time as long as it is thriving?

isn’t that where the difference of opinion comes from?

cleaningthebog · 14/02/2026 11:48

It's nothing to do with colour. It's the way people behave whatever colour they are.

Darkmark · 14/02/2026 11:50

BananaPeels · 14/02/2026 10:54

I do think we need to separate in these debates- your ethnicity and culture. They are 2 very different things and it completely muddies the water.

I don’t care about anyone’s DNA. It is just in our bodies, we can’t alter it, we just are who we are.

what is important to me is that people acknowledge that ‘culture’ is country based. Culture comes from generations of people living in the same area, doing similar things determined by climate, resources etc. when people arrive from another place, they should be assimilating into the local culture, not continuing to practice their previous culture as that belongs where they left. Yes culture can shift over time as people bring in new ideas and it is gradual change but the problems we have now are just a sudden change and people not assimilating into the host countries. I say this as a third generation immigrant who has never been to the country of my grandparents, can’t speak the language, doesn’t have any interest in it other that a footnote in my family history. I am 100% British and had to occasionally remind myself that 75% of me has no ties to the UK past 75-odd years ago.

in my head your ethnicity needs to be separated from culture - these things are completely different.

Wow. Culture is fluid and everchanging. Your cultural heritage clearly didn't make an impact then, or wasn't worth saving. I am British as they come, but also immensely proud of my ethnic and cultural heritage. My forefathers' descendants are flying - owing in no small part to our cultural background. The UK should be utterly grateful.

BananaPeels · 14/02/2026 11:54

Darkmark · 14/02/2026 11:50

Wow. Culture is fluid and everchanging. Your cultural heritage clearly didn't make an impact then, or wasn't worth saving. I am British as they come, but also immensely proud of my ethnic and cultural heritage. My forefathers' descendants are flying - owing in no small part to our cultural background. The UK should be utterly grateful.

I don’t know where the ‘wow’ comes from - we are allowed to disagree on topics without nasty patronising comments.

I am 100% British through and though and still am immensely proud of my heritage. But it’s not my culture as I didn’t grow up with it. It was my grandparent’s culture. I don’t have to live it to be proud of it, to be interested in it. If I wanted to live that culture I could go and live in that country to experience it and I’m sure it would be amazing. I don’t judge it as better or worse than my culture, just different.

and culture is ever changing but it is a slow process usually over centuries, not over 20-30 years. That is the issue the country finds itself in.

AmusedShark · 14/02/2026 11:56

Pinkfloorcleaner · 14/02/2026 11:32

I live in London, went a school that was multicultural and have generally found immigration to be a really positive thing. I come from second generation white immigrant heritage. My personal experience has skewed my pro immigration stance a bit in the last five years. The area we live in has seen a huge influx of immigrants, from Eastern Europe/Balkans mainly and it’s had a significant impact. I’m not going to draw a direct correlation because I don’t have the stats but criminal gang activity has rocketed, mainly car theft, drug dealing and prostitution. And then anti social behaviour such as parking across pavements or blocking disabled access with cars has also noticeably increased. The area has been diverse for decades but the general atmosphere has changed, and we do have a seismic change on the high street to cafes that cater primarily to male clientele, barber shops and vape shops. There’s streets that are overall mainly these stores, with an overwhelmingly male customer base and as someone who has lived in the area for 30+years there’s definitely stores and cafes I wouldn’t as a woman feel ok trying to get service at.
I would never vote reform, I feel immigration has a net positive experience overall but the change since 2020 in our local area is noticeable and has in the main been negative rather than positive, we are looking to move as a result. I’m not sure everyone who doesn’t see all immigration as always positive is a racist or xenophobic but I wouldn’t share these views publicly in case I was identified in that way. I’ve always been on the liberal side of politics, by can see how unfortunately reform may storm to a win in the next election if concerns like mine are felt but perhaps not voiced or actioned. I don’t think there’ll be a civil war but in my opinion the situation will need to change in some way to avoid a fascist government coming in.

I don't think anyone claims these days that there hasn't been a huge problem with mostly Albanian men and some women seeking asylum here and committing crimes, many coming here with that sole intention.

A few years ago Suella Braverman got slated for saying it but it was very apparent what she said was true and the governments own crime and prison stats back it up.

And is why the current government have had to work with Albania to dramatically cut the number of people leaving there to try and come here on small boats and step up deportation of ones already here.

DiySteve · 14/02/2026 12:01

AppleJuiceAvid · 14/02/2026 08:19

Is anyone else scared there will be a war in the UK? Elon Musk seems to be encouraging it and Donald Trump supports far-right ideas, saying that European countries face civilisational erasure due to immigration. When you've got the rich and powerful like Sir Jim Ratcliffe saying that the UK has been colonised by immigrants, this just stokes people's anger even more against non-white immigrants. More and more white people are growing resentful of non-white people.

More and more white people are growing resentful of non-white people.

Please support your assertion with some hard data, thanks.

Flamingojune · 14/02/2026 12:02

Starting scare mongering threads is hardly going to help

Dgll · 14/02/2026 12:04

I don't care what colour people are but I don't like the influx of young men with no gainful employment and nothing much to lose who behave badly and get involved in criminal activity. We have enough of our own young men of this type, we don't want to take on more.

I think multiculturalism is great and it works really well in parts of London. However, immigration doesn't necessarily lead to multiculturalism or diversity. I worked in a school which was 98% Muslim Bangladeshi. It catered extremely well for that demographic. It was an outstanding school and not a faith school but I think other ethnicities tended to be a bit put off because their children would be rather isolated.

Twooclockrock · 14/02/2026 12:07

No, because the vast majority of people do not care enough about either sides arguments to go to war over it.
Only 57 percent of people could be bothered to even vote in the last election. Let alone start a war.

crackofdoom · 14/02/2026 12:07

Notmycircusnotmyotter · 14/02/2026 10:14

our country and civilisation is being erased. Our taxes are going up to support the immigrants no one wanted. You can't really blame white British folk.

No they aren't.

And no they aren't.

crackofdoom · 14/02/2026 12:13

Burningbud1981 · 14/02/2026 10:44

@Notmycircusnotmyotter A genuine question. How is your country being erased? This the thing I hear the most we are losing our country we are losing our culture. But how ?

Can't even drink 10 pints of lager and roam the streets with your shirt off chanting obscenities after your team loses at the footie any more without a certain demographic giving you dirty looks. It's cultural erasure I tell you.

crackofdoom · 14/02/2026 12:19

Dgll · 14/02/2026 12:04

I don't care what colour people are but I don't like the influx of young men with no gainful employment and nothing much to lose who behave badly and get involved in criminal activity. We have enough of our own young men of this type, we don't want to take on more.

I think multiculturalism is great and it works really well in parts of London. However, immigration doesn't necessarily lead to multiculturalism or diversity. I worked in a school which was 98% Muslim Bangladeshi. It catered extremely well for that demographic. It was an outstanding school and not a faith school but I think other ethnicities tended to be a bit put off because their children would be rather isolated.

Was this in the East End?

Go back 100 years and there was moral panic about that area being an Ashkenazi Jewish ghetto. Before that it was the damn Huguenots not integrating. Let's not forget the "yellow peril" in Limehouse, with Chinese immigrants all being accused of running opium dens and white slavery ("protect are wimmin" etc etc). In that era of course, parts of the West End were "no go" areas because they were full of feckless dirty Irish etc etc..

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OK, perhaps you'd like to tell us how you think "our" culture is being erased then?

awakeandasleep · 14/02/2026 12:34

Poppingby · 14/02/2026 10:32

Whites are becoming the minority where? Evidence for your date claim please? What a load of balls. Your family being of mixed heritage doesn't mean you should be let off spouting spurious racist shite. My family is entirely white and there are still cultural expectations and differences to manage, it's called being a human person interacting with other human people.

Have you visited Birmingham lately? I actually cried when I returned at Christmas. It has seen a massive demographic change in the last 25 years.

MunicipalDarwinism · 14/02/2026 12:35

awakeandasleep · 14/02/2026 12:34

Have you visited Birmingham lately? I actually cried when I returned at Christmas. It has seen a massive demographic change in the last 25 years.

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Why did you cry?

BoredZelda · 14/02/2026 12:36

HellsBells13 · 14/02/2026 10:18

I don't giving a sh@t what colour you are. I do give a sh@t that daily, illegals are arriving with clearly different cultural expectations and view women less than. The country is on its knees and we cannot keep accepting them and housing them. This is not about race it's about finances and protecting females.

Because white men have huge respect for women, and never abuse them? You might want to reflect on the fact that since the 1920s, women’s rights and respect for them have improved exponentially, at the same time as immigration has increased. Perhaps look up correlation v causation.

And don’t bother with the “yeah but why import more” because you could get rid of every single brown or black personality in the U.K. and violence against women would still be the epidemic that it is now.

Gettingbysomehow · 14/02/2026 12:49

Ive noticed a big increase in this at work with patients ranting to me about immigrants etc I guess because Im white.
Im actually sick of it because my family is mixed race.
I shut them down straight away. Outside work too there seems to be growing intolerance.

WhatAboutThisUser · 14/02/2026 12:49

Poppingby · 14/02/2026 10:32

Whites are becoming the minority where? Evidence for your date claim please? What a load of balls. Your family being of mixed heritage doesn't mean you should be let off spouting spurious racist shite. My family is entirely white and there are still cultural expectations and differences to manage, it's called being a human person interacting with other human people.

I am quite honestly stunned by the ignorance in this post.

It’s one thing to not care about whites becoming an ethnic minority, or even to celebrate it, but it is wrong to gaslight others into thinking it’s not actually happening!!!

Try asking chat GPT questions like:

“list all the places where white people are a minority in the uk, using 2021 census data, and list the total populations of each of these areas”
(includes Birmingham and many other large areas. The 2021 census was before the Boriswave record levels of mass immigration so London was still 53% white.)

“how many primary school children in England are from an ethnic minority, use gov.uk sources only and provide the gov.uk links”(Answer, 38%)

whiteroseredrose · 14/02/2026 12:53

Poppingby · 14/02/2026 10:32

Whites are becoming the minority where? Evidence for your date claim please? What a load of balls. Your family being of mixed heritage doesn't mean you should be let off spouting spurious racist shite. My family is entirely white and there are still cultural expectations and differences to manage, it's called being a human person interacting with other human people.

The census in 2021. In London the % identifying as White British was about 37%. Leicester was 41%. England and Wales as a whole was about 75%.

Morepositivemum · 14/02/2026 12:53

A woman said to me the other day ‘there’s a lot of THEM about isnt there’ and I said ‘what, nurses?!’ and she didn’t talk to me for the whole sale (on checkout!)

ScienceDragon · 14/02/2026 12:57

Only about 15% of the world population is white. So, world-wide, we are already a minority. We always have been.

Also, roughly, the percentage of habitable land mass in the world, majority occupied by white "civilisations" is around 35%. This disparity is primarily due to colonisation of many countries by white people. So we are hogging land as well.

If people of the UK do not want "others" in their country, then perhaps, all the descendants of British colonists in other "white" countries should hand the lands back to the original owners, and all move back to the UK. Then this country would have a massive majority of white people.

sleepwouldbenice · 14/02/2026 13:01

BMW6 · 14/02/2026 08:50

I've got news for you OP.

My brown neighbours all think illegal immigration is wrong and they should be deported.

You do realise that illegal immigration numbers are just a small fraction of total immigration dont you?

Decisionsdecisions1 · 14/02/2026 13:02

The huge mistake many white people are making is thinking that they will be protected, that having a far right political party in power will help them financially, will result in better public services, more affordable homes, a stronger economy, a booming job market.

It's more likely that it will bring authoritarianism, instability and put the majority in a weaker position.

Many Germans probably welcomed the clamp down on Jewish people. But they might not have supported it if they'd known the years of physical and economic devastation it would bring them.