I am dating a lovely guy (late 20s) - he's different from anyone I've dated before, he's very unique and his "quirks" are what attracted me to him in the first place.
But I am constantly overthinking and recently I've been questioning whether he's really that keen on me, as some of his behaviours have given me reason to doubt.
Then he mentioned in a passing comment that he thinks he might be autistic and a lot of things fell into place regarding his behaviour.
I'm looking for advice from anyone who has experience of dating someone who is neurodivergent because on dark days I question whether I can carry on when I am at times uncertain if he wants us to be together.
Some of the things that are making me wonder if he is neurodivergent are
His lack of previous relationships (one I think) and sexual partners (his inexperience is very obvious)
His lack of communication (he will not respond to messages for days - has commented that he is also like this with family & friends)
He can be fun and lively but then kind of depleted like his battery has run out
I instigate most of the intimacy (although he has on some occasions)
He says he needs time "to process" anything new that happens in our relationship (first kiss, first time we had sex)
He will often sit quietly in a different room not interacting and becomes very distant
He speaks openly about his past, life experiences etc but feels awkward when we talk about us/our feelings for each other
I am looking for advice because I don't want to get to the point where I call things off because I've taken offence at his behaviour (not messaging, being distant) if these are part of him and not red flags that he's going off me.
Any help or advice will be really appreciated.