Dd(12) started her period earlier this week. She had messaged one of her ‘friends’ (Sarah) and told her that night and the next day when dd walks into school other girls who she hadn’t said anything to asked her about it and said Sarah had told them.
She was later shown by another friend that Sarah had sent a screenshot of dds message to a group chat that dd isn’t in. Then at lunch a couple of boys came over and laughed at her and said ew etc.
Dd admits to them calling this friend a ‘weird bitch’ for telling people and has since then completely avoided her.
Friend has gone crying to their pastoral manager today that dd is ignoring her and had called her names.
Dd was called out of lessons and was told that Sarah didn’t realise dd didn’t want her to tell anybody else and that dd should forgive her because shes very sorry and upset about it. That Sarah hadn’t actually said anything unkind and that dd’s problem should be with the boys who did and that she will speak to them but she doesn’t want to hear of dd excluding Sarah or calling her names again.
Dd was definitely upset and embarrassed by what Sarah did, she just didn’t run crying to a teacher about it and she’s now upset because she thinks she has no choice but to forgive Sarah or get in trouble.
AIBU to think that Sarah definitely knew she shouldn’t tell everybody and that dd has a right to be upset and want to avoid her from now on? And that the teacher could have been much more sympathetic to DDs feelings in this situation?