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AIBU to prefer a chef over a cleaner?

41 replies

EuclidianGeometryFan · 13/02/2026 13:06

If you could employ ONE person for your home, which would you pick:

Cleaner
Laundry-person
Housekeeper, for admin/shopping/dealing with trades/tidying etc. not cleaning
Day-nanny (daytime plus either early morning or after school, but not both)
Gardener & DIY person
Personal trainer or health worker to come to your house 7 days
Chef for up to 7 evening meals

OP posts:
Middlechild3 · 13/02/2026 13:07

Cleaner who cooks

WeepingAngelInTheTardis · 13/02/2026 13:07

Chef for sure, i actually like cleaning. 😂

NewUserNewName · 13/02/2026 13:08

Personal trainer

blankcanvas3 · 13/02/2026 13:09

Laundry person. Free me from the shackles of the washing machine

Morepositivemum · 13/02/2026 13:09

God a cleaner definitely here. But it would have to be someone who didn’t mind tidying too as most of my life is tidying!

Indianajet · 13/02/2026 13:10

Gardener and DIY

RichardOnslowRoper · 13/02/2026 13:12

Def chef. I hate cooking and the mental load of getting groceries.
I can just about manage cleaning and it doesn't have to be done daily.

Evergreen21 · 13/02/2026 13:12

Laundry person. I hate sorting it, putting it out to dry, folding and putting it away.

Passingthrough123 · 13/02/2026 13:13

Chef. I don't mind cleaning, I find it quite cathartic, but I get fed up cooking and meal planning. But only for six days a week as I like cooking a roast.

FairKoala · 13/02/2026 13:13

Cleaner

I hate cleaning

My food tends to involve lots of chopping and little to no cooking. I don’t have the interest in food others have.

nowahousewife · 13/02/2026 13:23

Who decides the menu and shops for the food?

Ireallywantadoughnut36 · 13/02/2026 20:36

Definitely a cleaner every day. I wouldn't mind cooking if someone cleaned up after me, plus dh loves cooking but uses every single surface and kitchen appliance every time. I do have a cleaner once a fortnight but it doesn't last very long, she also strips and changes/makes beds and takes the bins out, plus organises all our shelves and things. If she could come daily, that'd make my life tbh, can't even imagine what the house would look like!

dudsville · 13/02/2026 20:38

What if we all club to together and get one each day of the week?

Emmz1510 · 13/02/2026 20:56

Cleaner

TheeNotoriousPIG · 13/02/2026 21:18

I have recently signed up for a weekly cleaner (14 hour days for almost a fortnight in a filthy, manual job does not leave me with the motivation to come home and clean), so does that mean that I can have an extra person?

At the moment, it would be a gardener and DIY person. I have so many projects that they are all piling up and taking over!

Post-children, it would be a nanny. More specifically, it would be a Welsh-speaking nanny, so that they would have more of a chance of picking up the language and being bilingual from birth, while I persist with lessons!

I don't mind laundry, as I can bundle it in and walk away, and I'm trying to expand my cuisine. I have no need for a personal trainer. They would probably faint after doing part of my job!

Vodka1 · 13/02/2026 21:46

Housekeeper who doesn't clean!!

If I didn't have to put the brain work in then I could surely get much more on top of the rest of the list. Plus he/she is shopping for me too, so thats also a menu plan, which means cooking will be eaaasy!!

Choice4567 · 13/02/2026 21:49

Cleaner that tidies. I’d love a chef but they’d be here, in my tiny kitchen, whilst I sat awkwardly waiting for my tea

cleaner would come in whilst I was at work and it would be magically done on my return

Minesril · 13/02/2026 22:08

can I have a chauffeur?

my house is tiny so not that hard to keep clean. I get a Gousto box so I don’t think about meal planning. I quite like gardening. But I don’t drive and would love a nice car that someone else drives!

JustGiveMeReason · 13/02/2026 22:35

Chef - as long as they were responsible for planning and shopping.

mynameiscalypso · 13/02/2026 22:38

Cleaner. I’d be happy if I never had to clean another bathroom in my life.

understandyourdilemma · 13/02/2026 23:15

Already have a cleaner (so that's clearly a priority).

Meal planning, shopping, cooking - I do that and like it
Admin - I do it. Don't particularly like it but I'm organised and efficient and it gets done. Some specific bits I delegate to dh (so he remembers that travel insurance etc doesn't take care of itself!)

Laundry - dh does it 95% of the time. I don't think he enjoys it (not like I enjoy cooking) but it's become 'his' task. ditto unloading the dishwasher 80% of the time. Neither of us iron very much.

What we both need is a maintenance project manager - someone who does (or arranges) DIY tasks, and finds and manages trades people. We are both hopeless at even the most monor DIY tasks, and have no interest in it. And we are so vulnerable to being fleeced by rookie trades people.

If I had lots of money I'd love to have a holistic health / tai chi / yoga / personal trainer come to the house every day... What a dream!

Drdogooder · 13/02/2026 23:18

100% laundry

Oblivionnnnn · 13/02/2026 23:18

I’ve downsized and cleaning a smaller place I’d actually a pleasure.

So I’ll take someone to do my hair and make up every day instead please!

BauhausOfEliott · 13/02/2026 23:20

Gardener and DIY person. All the other stuff’s easy.

PeloMom · 13/02/2026 23:22

Day nanny covering the early mornings. I’m not a morning person and having a slow start for the day makes all the difference to me.
i love laundry and have already outsourced cleaning, gardening and to some extend cooking (the parts I dislike🤣) . I’m a certified personal trainer and nutritionist too and am pretty disciplined when it comes to eating well and training so no need for those.
housekeeping - I enjoy most parts

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