To ask how many women have either been sexually harassed in the street in the teenager or have a daughter who has?

[Carla786]

For context I'm Gen Z. I live in a very quiet neighbourhood & through my teens was never harassed. There's lots of building works in my area often but builders have always been fine & so has everyone else. I've never witnessed anyone else my age being harassed either (nor adult women). Some of my friends are the same, some unfortunately not (most don't live in my area)

However, I know this is not typical. I've read so much on here about people being harassed in school uniform, having daughters harassed etc. How common is this? Surveys show pretty high results too...

Was it always like this? Has it got worse or better? I've read some arguments it was worse in 70s-80s, others that online misogyny & porn has made harassment of teens worse.

I think I remember you commenting on my SNP thread & saying you were Scottish- is that right? Sorry, I get if you'd rather not discuss personal info.

If so though, do you think Scotland has a better or worse level of street sexual harassment than England?

That's horrible. I'd hope at least young girls working in teenage jobs etc would be protected by their employees now. I have friends who've dine that as a summer job but nothing untoward- ofc anecdotal.

Yabu

On the subject of being cat called in school uniform, I went to a catholic girls' school. RC schoolgirl is like a red rag to a bull.

Was harassed in my youth in the 90’s and suffered a SA walking home in my uniform in broad daylight on a fairly busy street. DD’s have sadly experienced harassment too. Depressingly nothing has changed.

I was harrassed several times in my teens in London and Paris. I used to call out or run away and people always intervened, usually men.
I am still not sure what new information you are looking for OP?

Very regularly until I was about 35, less after that but still occasionally.

Yes, I'm Scottish.

I've never lived long enough in England to be able to compare.

I can tell you that I suffered street harassment when I was a student living in the greater Paris area. (Actually Meudon, but went into the city most days.)

I recall being grabbed by a workman the day that I was meeting a couple of English friends at the Eiffel Tower. I yelled "Bugger off!" at him.

He was showing off to his workmates and grinning. So... worse than anything I experienced in Scotland, I guess. I was 21 at the time.

When I read some of the posts I replied it didn't always stop with age but felt grateful I never had anything frightening happen. I read some more of the replies then suddenly remembered that wasn't the case. It was winter time, it was dark & I was in the house by myself. I called my DH at work to let him know we had a leaky pipe. He told me to arrange an emergency plumber. He arrived an hour later & proceeded to sidle up to me as he was speaking with a sort of are you up for it look in his face. He asked if my DH was around which I thought was strange. By this time I was terrified. I said he'd just popped out to the shops & would be back in a few minutes. He stared right at me grinned then got on with the job. I've never again when alone in the house allowed a tradesman through the door which is dreadful & not warrented. It's sad but that's how it can leave you. I was in my late 40s.

Yes, I think street harassment is really bad in Paris at least from what I've read. Groping on metro too.

My mum was flashed by a young man when she was in her 70s. It’s less common as we get older but I don’t think any age is safe frankly

Yep. It was rife then. I felt so disgusted when this bearded grubby old fat man stared at my 19 year old dd. No wonder young people are not interested in relationships. There is still very much a danger for young people.

Every single woman I know has experienced at least sexual harassment, most of them assault. I started getting harassed around the age of 8. Yes, 8. 2 trolley workers at my local supermarket would constantly try to chat up me and my then 12 year old sister. They were around 20 something and 50 at the time. The younger one still works there today.

Also, when I was 9, a car pulled up beside me and rolled his window down as I was crossing the road to get to my house from the shop. A man in his 50's i would say, telling me im very beautiful and asked if I wanted a free car ride home. I ran home terrified and in tears.

Serious sexual assault at the age of 18, twice. Drugged the second time. Happened a month apart.

Assaulted by my own partner (at the time) from ages 21 to 27.

And the saddest part is, this isn't even a SCRATCH on what billions of other women have been through. Its sickening and has contributed to my depression heavily.

It really is so much worse than anyone can truly imagine. What i always find most surprising is the ages of some women when they are harassed and attacked.

As a mother to a girl and boy, I will raise my wonderful son the best I can not too be a piece of sheet in this regard. Peer influence unfortunately has been shown to have the biggest impact on child/teen behaviour however, and because its in their formative years, it has a lasting impact on their mentality. One can only hope he will retain a circle of decent, good friends.

As for my daughter, I will be watching her like big brother. I dont care who calls me what, id rather get shamed for my parenting than ever have anything happen to that perfect little girl of mine. I will teach her self-defence, de-escalating threatening situations, etc.

If anyone lays their hands on her like that, or on my son, they will be signing their own death certificate by doing so.

Sorry I went on a tangent, this is a topic of significant importance to me. Makes me really emotional. Reading all the other comments has made me so deeply sad. Im so sorry ladies. We dont deserve this.