Neighbour damaged his car on my drive

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I moved into my new house 3 months ago and after a few weeks, I noticed that the neighbours across the street were reversing onto my property when they left their house. The road is pretty narrow, so they can't really turn around without reversing onto my drive. Plus, another neighbour parks his car (in blue) on the pavement by their house, which makes it harder for them to pull forward and turn around.

It would be much easier if they just reversed onto their own drive and drove out from there. I don't know why they haven't done that yet. I didn't want to start any drama or fall out with them. I had never talked to them before today and wasn't sure how they'd react if I brought it up, so last weekend I decided to put some garden rocks in the corner instead. Just to clarify, they're on my drive, not on the pavement, in case anyone wonders. So, the neighbour knocked on my door earlier and said that his car got damaged because of the rocks. He insists that they were half on the pavement (not true) and half on my drive.

He asked why I didn't tell him I was putting them there so he could avoid driving over them. He said if there was a problem, I should have just talked to him. I told him it's my drive, on my property. Why would I need to inform him? His car wouldn't have been damaged if he wasn't using my drive… He got really aggressive with me, saying that the previous owners never had any issues and that he's going to call the police and a solicitor about the damage to his car. I haven’t heard anything since. I can't believe I'm even writing this. I’m not sure what to do now! I do feel a bit intimidated by him. Am I being unreasonable?

@PeacePilgrim could you exaggerated more? No, I don't think you could.

🤣🤣🤣😘

What colour is his car and does the paint colour enhance your rocks? 😊

I really don’t know why some people are giving you a such hard time on this thread. He was using your private driveway without ever seeking your permission. You are perfectly entitled to keep anything you like on your own property, including decorative rocks.

Your neighbour is a selfish, stupid, angry little man who has a big sense of entitlement. Hopefully, he’ll never speak to you again and avoid using your driveway.

So many entitled folk on this thread.. Op you rocked it imo.
Weren't you all raised to ask permission before using something belonging to someone else?
You don't go around offering up your possessions do you?
Hi wet lady at the bus stop here have my umbrella. After all I'd be a cunt if i used it myself...
Want my bank card too? Twatty if I kept all my money for myself....
The op can do whatever she wants on her property. Maybe a gnome that bares it's arse would end the subject?.
He is an arse that's for sure...
Highway code suggests reverse on drive off is the correct procedure.. Nowhere does it say use whatever drive makes your life easier.

Good grief. What a lot of unpleasantness.
It's not starting a war.
It's not unreasonable behaviour.
It's the OP putting something WHERE SHE WANTS TO PUT IT ON HER OWN PROPERTY.
It's literally that when you boil it down.

I agree that it’s important and healthy to have good relations with neighbours. I just don’t get why that only applies to OP though. She’s moved onto the street, this man has never said hello but has continued to use her property for his convenience. Why should she extend neighbourliness to someone who couldn’t be bothered to do the same?

I mean, this is the only comment necessary on this thread.

To be the better person???

But clearly she isn't and so she deserves horrid neighbours and a mean neighbourhood and is contributing to more meanness rather than offering something different

Reap what you sow baby

It all depends though doesn’t it on the relationship you want with your neighbours.

I have previously been of the opinion that you should be neighbourly, go out of your way etc but all this changed last year when one of my neighbours decided to get on their high horse and accuse me of something crazy! Now, I’d rather keep myself to myself. I never need anything from my neighbours as I have my own family and friends. If the OP doesn’t want to, she doesn’t have to be friendly with her neighbour. They live opposite but certainly not “with”

So she has to be better than the man using her property, and if she isn’t she deserves to be punished? Are you a man or a pick me? Because you’re definitely not any kind of ‘peace pilgrim’.

Well it has to start somewhere🤷‍♀️.
Are you monitoring the ‘’casual users’’?

You reap what you sow

You want peace? Share peace

Want aggression? Share aggression

Law of karma

SHE declared war????

How the fuck do you come to this conclusion.

Do you think Ukraine declared war on Russia?
Do you think the OP has intentions of maliciously launching rocks at her neighbour?

Honestly, its all up to the mentality of the dickhead over the road.

I would love you to preach your karma theory, in a children’s cancer ward. Love and light 💛

Has it stopped him OP?
I will just mention prescriptive easement again. Don’t let them start!

I take it you're the kind of driver who would use someone else's property for your convenience without asking them for permission beforehand then, aren't you??

The OP has done NOTHING wrong - her property, her choice as to what she puts on it.

An entitled fuckwit driving onto her property without permission gets what he deserves and rightly so!

It's people like him (and probably you) who need to start being less selfish and entitled.

Piling rocks on driveway isn't act of war?

I look forward to the posters suggesting how she launches rocks into his front lawn to damage his mower as part of this war. And how she can tactically get foxes to poo on his path in an grand act of maliciousness.

OP - some of the replies are batshit. You can do what you want on your own drive. If you wanted to put a massive statue of Fred Flintstone on there, you could. Your neighbour is a CF. And a twat. End of.

Sorry, you've answered your own question there - you could have 'said' no!

I'm intrigued by people who genuinely think that driveways won't be damaged in any way by cars regularly reversing on them. Have they discovered some new form of driveway covering that is completely impervious to normal physical forces? If so, I recommend they register a patent and publicise the fact, they stand to make a fortune.

Errrrr no.
Its not.
Its putting rocks on your own garden. You've not crossed your own boundary. You've not broken any law. You've not harassed, intimidated or otherwise threatened.

Unlike the man who had repeatedly trespassed, not followed the highway code about reversing, not paid due care and attention when driving - instead just carelessly autopiloted and then come knocking at the door shouting and making threats because of the consequences of his OWN actions.

Like seriously, why is his behaviour just getting ignored as being perfectly fine and as if he's acting perfectly reasonably.

He didn’t ask me though…

To be fair, a massive statue of Fred Flintstone would have been much better than purchasing rocks.

He's had a FAFO moment. You've done nothing wrong.