AIBU with my birthday card

[Nickibobmoonshine]

Hi,

My partner and I were engaged but due to some of his actions we cancelled this and he has since told me he never wants to get married and we can just be happy living together, although it was him who was so into us getting married more than I was, but that's just to describe the scene....I have been going counselling because I have a lot of resentment about this and I have lots of thoughts that he isn't as into me as he used to be.

It was recently my birthday and he bought me a card 'to someone special ' AIBU to be quite hurt over this. He couldn't even write anything really nice in the card because he 'didnt have his glasses!!!'

I just don't need any more resentment lol

He could have a golden dick, but if OP isn't happy then it wouldn't matter despite the "He's a man after all" comment by OP's mum.

Also I googled it and it said that it can be for that special someone in your life!!
He did put to my Darling and love you forever with lots of kisses but maybe I expect too much.

What did you want him to put that you feel would better than 'love you forever' etc?🙄

You sound very hard work regarding the card

if it helps I used to work with a woman who was due to get married and cancelled it there still together 18 years later and seem happier than ever

I’m also confused as to the issue here, he got you a card saying to someone special wrote darling and love you forever and it wasn’t enough?

@Nickibobmoonshine yes you are clearly over-reacting about the card.

But where you are being unreasonable is in not listening to your gut feelings.

This relationship is over. He is telling you loud and clear that he doesn't love you enough to marry you. That you are not the person he wants to spend the rest of his life with.
Listen to him!

I shouldn't be questioning him about silly things, as my mum says!! He's a man after all!!

And what's this rubbish??? What, because he's a man he doesn't have to make any effort??? Get some self-respect darling, and set the bar a bit higher in your next relationship.