DH has stopped contacting his mother. I've no idea why but she seems to think it is my fault (from SIL). I have gone out of my way over the years to ensure that I contact her as much as my own mum and to include her in everything to do with the children. She prefers to talk about their cousin all the time though. If we mention that DS1, say, has achieved something, it instantly gets turned around to SIL's dd (A) and what she is doing. Well, I know what she is doing because she is in the same class as DS3.
I have stopped contacting MIL because I'm fed up with being the one to make all the effort with no reciprocal interest. However, now that DH has stopped contacting her (and he never called much to start with), I'm wondering whether I should make an effort again. The boys are aware that she shows little interest in them and that she does a lot with their cousin. She has a 2 bed house. She has never had any of the boys to stay with her, but, when decorating her second bedroom, she referred to in, in front of the boys, as "A's room".
My concern is that I would be mortified if any of my boys refused to contact me when they have a family of their own and, although she makes bugger all effort with us, she is DH's mum.
I make an effort to keep in contact with my family and indeed SIL. I'm not of the opinion that it is down to me to keep up the contact with MIL, but, if I don't, who will??