Why are people so determined for me to pull out in front of them?

[smelliecat]

I was driving today and it's a usual road. It reaches a road where visability is low and there is a bride. I always stop and have a good look before putting out. There are traffic lights in the distance and a in front of a hatched "keep clear" sign.

On the opposite side of the road lots of cars will stop and let me out - even when the road is empty..

I just don't get it.

Why.

I just don't know why someone would see a car and stop.

I hear you OP! It's very irritating when someone doesn't drive by the rules, they think they're being considerate but it just muddies the waters, that said, if I'm in a queue I'll let someone out of a side road but that's different..

Well I would stop to look at a bride too. What was her dress like?

...or putting out.

I don’t completely understand the context of your situation OP, but I agree that other people giving up their right of way often just complicates things.

I get you.

I'm sitting there, judging when to go and some fucking idiot slows, stops, flashes their lights, waves some weird combustion of hand signals and then insists that I go immediately instead of in two seconds when they have passed and are keeping up the flow of traffic...I'm now pressured into going immediately so as to not hold the world up further, can't make my full checks first, and it's taken three times as long. And now they want me to take my hand off the wheel to wave thanks while I'm turning and changing gear and trying to refocus.

Shit or get off the pot, fuckwits.

To be fair I will let someone out on an empty road if they are dithering forwards whilst looking at something in the footwell. Rather have them in front of me where I can see them.

People should just follow the highway code. People being "courteous" are also behaving unpredictably, and therefore increase the likelihood of an accident. The worse example is people who stop on a roundabout to let people in. Utter madness.

No it's not. Clearly offends have

I agree overall and would never stop on a roundabout, but if I'm driving say behind a car that is in another lane that ends soon and they aren't making any effort to merge then I'm concerned about their driving ability and spatial awareness and if they are just going to merrily pull across into my car when they actually notice so in that case I will slow down to let them in, or at least slow enough to ensure they are safe to pass.

Are your driving skills anything like your communication skills? It may be a you problem.

With respect, your post is all but impossible to follow to me (missing words, incorrect words, general lack of clarity as to what is where in this scenario). No judgement, autocorrect frequently gets me too, but I wonder if you can ask Mumsnet to amend?

From what I did understand, if you're sitting having a "good look" I wonder if this is appearing as undue hesitation to other drivers who are wondering why you're not just joining the road in a normal, timely fashion. If so, they may therefore a) be trying to help you out by giving you a very clear, unambiguous slot to join and letting you know it's safe/alright; or b) thinking, "I don't want a nervous, unsure driver behind me - better let them go in front"?

God people are so rude on MN these days.

The overly 'helpful' brigade get on my wick @smelliecat . They get some weird kick out of letting people out even though it means they are stopping everyone behind them.

And, no, not when we're already in a queue of traffic. The ones who will drive along in flowing traffic and hesitate every time they see a car at the junction on a side road and often stop or slow right down. Driving behind these numpties is tedious. And I agree, also tedious as the person being let out or as a pedestrian.

I remember people waving me across the road and looking irate when I didn't go, as a mum with a pushchair, totally oblivious to the other lane or cars driving around them on their inside, which I couldn't see clearly.

What’s funny to me is how CROSS they get when you don’t gratefully take up their offer!

Mumsnet has always been pretty rude. I used to be on here a lot when mine were tiny (13 years ago) and it was very robust.

Yes haha

With respect no it's not. Just you. You can't comprehend.

Yep 100 percent

Yeah I know exactly what you mean. I have this situation daily at a particular junction. It’s super dangerous and annoying. I cannot see the other lane of traffic properly and if I hit someone it would be my fault. But because they’ve stopped ‘for me’ all traffic on both sides thinks I should risk it. Which I don’t want to do. Because I don’t want to kill a cyclist. If anyone reading this does this kind of shit please stop. It isn’t at all helpful.

Oh, you're one of those.

Some irony here, I feel seeing as my initial post specifically said, "With respect, your post is all but impossible to follow to me"

Perhaps your reading comprehension might also use some work?

I know exactly what you mean, OP. For some reason there is a lot of this sort of behaviour where I live now (recently moved) and I don’t find it polite at all, it is arrogant and unhelpful. I have to turn right across a lane of traffic to go up the road near my house. Not a problem, it is a quiet enough street and there are always gaps in the traffic to let me turn. Have never had to wait more than say, a minute. Except when an arsehole with the road clear empty behind him ostentatiously stops, flashes his lights and ‘lets’ me out. They are always abusive if you don’t immediately take them up on it (eg if it isn’t safe to turn just at that moment because someone is crossing the road on foot) and it can then lead to more nastiness, eg honking from someone impatient behind me etc. I no longer think of it as ‘nice’ it is just another flavour of assholery on the roads.

At risk of stereotyping I find it is often men who do it and expect me to be swooningly grateful for their intervention.

It's not just one other poster who can't understand your opening post. It's garbled and makes no sense. What do you mean by a "bride"? I thought bridge was a good guess but you've dismissed that, so what is it?

I sympathise with this. I have noticed a lot more drivers giving way at mini roundabouts when it is their right of way. This causes confusion and I imagine accidents. The Highway Code is the rule.
Theres a mini roundabout at the end of my steady and drivers seem continually confused about whose right of way it is and this has really increased recently.
i think its about wanting to be seen and being nice but who knows

You are surrounded by posts of people who understand

@smelliecat As others have said it's not really clear what is going on:
it's a usual road; does that mean you drive it often or its a normal road, what kind?
It reaches a road where visability is low and there is a bride; how does it meet this road T junction? cross roads? how does the bride (bridge?) fit in?
distance and a in front of a hatched; is there an object of road furniture missing here?

Generally I think people should drive predictably and get on with their journey so agree with that, if that is your position. And the errors and omissions in the OP don't change that I suppose.

Ok but lots of other people do.

Not everything has to make sense to you