My younger brother and his wife are expecting their first baby in March. Today I told my parents that I am also expecting (#3) and they've suggested I don't share the news with the wider family until after DBro's baby is born so I don't 'steal their thunder'.
AIBU to think this is ridiculous?! I'll be around 20 weeks pregnant by their due date and I know they want a few weeks to themselves before seeing people. So either when their baby is born I say 'hey surprise I'm already half way through cooking another one!' or I turn up to meet their newborn with a noticeable bump. Surely either of those would be way more of a statement than just quietly mentioning something now?
Think at this moment I'm honestly a little hurt that mums reaction was to ask if I was kidding, followed up by basically instructing me to keep it to myself. Writing this out perhaps more of a chat with them is needed in case there's more to it. But now it feels weird, like I've done something shameful rather than something people will join me in celebrating. I'm just not of the mindset that life is some ongoing game of top trumps and that someone's good news could sour someone else's moment, esp 6 weeks in advance! But thought I'd ask the hive mind in case I'm being naive.