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To ask you to swerve vacations abroad on airplanes

452 replies

Happyone99 · 03/02/2026 12:13

Inspired by https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5433252-to-ask-you-to-swerve-shein-temu?page=24

As mentioned above, I personally don’t use Shein or Temu because they ARE terrible. However, why only change bad things lower income people happen to be involved with, rather than starting with things higher income people are involved with

Slave labour and poor working conditions are indeed terrible. So is the climate crisis, exacerbated by rich people flying on airplanes for vacations, and poor people in low-lying countries like Bangladesh suffer worst environmental consequences

Who are responsible for the most emissions and who are suffering the most?

Page 24 | To ask you to swerve Shein & Temu | Mumsnet

This Christmas? I know it’s mainly a cost thing but if it’s achievable, can people possibly manage with less stuff?

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5433252-to-ask-you-to-swerve-shein-temu?page=24

OP posts:
AgnesMcDoo · 03/02/2026 19:56

Sorry but no.

FMLGFastMovingLuxuryGoods · 03/02/2026 19:56

Happyone99 · 03/02/2026 12:21

So your joy is more important than other people’s suffering?

Edited

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UnhappyHobbit · 03/02/2026 19:57

It’s going to make no difference if I go or not. That plane is going to be in the sky. And I’d rather be on it travelling and enjoying myself.

FMLGFastMovingLuxuryGoods · 03/02/2026 19:58

No

Im not giving up my yearly plane holiday just because other people have let others suffer in a land I’ve never clapped eyes on.

Yes my joy is important. And I deserve a holiday. I’m not the type to self flaggelate with despair because bad things are happening in the world. Not least because a lot of bad things have happened to ME.

FMLGFastMovingLuxuryGoods · 03/02/2026 20:00

Happyone99 · 03/02/2026 12:30

@GalaxyJam exactly… It’s about doing our best. So when some people from lower income households buy from Shein/Temu, maybe it’s not our place to judge

I buy from Shein because for the last 5 years whenever I’ve shopped in the high street style shops I’ve found nothing I like. It’s all insipid, joyless shapeless crap and Shein has some clothes that suit me.

MaloryJones · 03/02/2026 20:04

YABU and very patronising !
Lower income people ! DFO

CremeEggThief · 03/02/2026 20:40

The prices of trains and unreliability in the UK are shocking.
I would prefer to take the train instead of fly internally, but the train is often double or treble the price.

Regarding so-called fast fashion, I wear tee shirts and vest tops from Primark for years, so I am not sure how other people cannot make their clothes last longer too, with the right care.
I am flying to the Canaries next week and I will be packing Primark tee-shirts I bought for my Canaries trip in 2022. And then I will wash them in my 14 year old washing machine when I return.

All much better ways of trying to do your bit for the planet than begging strangers never ever fly.

HateBeingInsideMyHead · 03/02/2026 20:40

Absolutely not.... I had six holidays last year via plane and long may it continue. I also don't have and won't ever have children so I'm doing my bit for the environment in other ways

Happyone99 · 03/02/2026 20:56

MaloryJones · 03/02/2026 20:04

YABU and very patronising !
Lower income people ! DFO

Sorry about that! Was not my intention to be patronising. I will work on myself! Just that I was super triggered after seeing comments in the Shein/Temu post

OP posts:
crackofdoom · 04/02/2026 08:27

Badbadbunny · 03/02/2026 13:23

Presumably you live in the South East. To those of us who live in the North, it takes another day each end to get to/from the South Coast, usually on already congested roads, so probably doesn't help climate change. Not to mention the ferries are pretty polluting too, and then you've probably got to drive across Europe to get to your destination, so more road use and pollution! Not sure many people have the extra holiday time and extra money it would cost!

No, I don't live in the South East. I live 5 hours away from London by train, and still go on half of my foreign trips by train via London. What % of the English population lives a longer train journey away from London than that?

Places I can get to in a day, by train: Paris. Amsterdam. Brussels (Ghent, Bruges). Marseille. Cologne. Berlin (at a stretch).

I'm not saying everyone should travel by train (or ferry). But all those going "Waaah waah, how can you possibly suggest depriving me of my lovely foreign holiday, it's a basic human right?" as if flying is the only way to get abroad? Absolute fucking nonsense.

And before anyone starts banging on about expensive trains: check out the price of Interrail passes.

crackofdoom · 04/02/2026 08:33

Namingbaba · 03/02/2026 14:55

It's fine if you're just going from one station to another but like I said if you're going further and have to change stations multiple times it would be a pain. When I went to Valencia from Edinburgh I had 4 separate trains and sometimes the station I arrived at wasn't the one I had to leave from so I had to travel across the city to get to another train station. That's a much bigger headache, especially as you're carting luggage on and off, up stairs and lifts, into taxis, metros etc Not to mention the wait times. Whereas taking a plane from Edinburgh to multiple destinations in Spain is just a few hours in a plane.

How do you get from home to airport and from Spanish airport to destination though?

You rarely see this mentioned in calculations on the convenience of flying. It's as if people teleport there, rather than paying a fortune for taxis, paying a fortune for airport parking, or having to take a bus/ train at either end anyway.

TwinklyWrinkly · 04/02/2026 08:34

crackofdoom · 04/02/2026 08:27

No, I don't live in the South East. I live 5 hours away from London by train, and still go on half of my foreign trips by train via London. What % of the English population lives a longer train journey away from London than that?

Places I can get to in a day, by train: Paris. Amsterdam. Brussels (Ghent, Bruges). Marseille. Cologne. Berlin (at a stretch).

I'm not saying everyone should travel by train (or ferry). But all those going "Waaah waah, how can you possibly suggest depriving me of my lovely foreign holiday, it's a basic human right?" as if flying is the only way to get abroad? Absolute fucking nonsense.

And before anyone starts banging on about expensive trains: check out the price of Interrail passes.

And that's absolutely fine if you consider your only foreign holiday option is Europe. What about New Zealand, Indonesia, Malawi or Sri Lanka for example? How do you explore the rest of world and experience vastly different cultures and environments if you don't have months to try and get there without using a plane?

Gahr · 04/02/2026 08:37

Not a chance I am giving up my foreign holidays. YABVU.

crackofdoom · 04/02/2026 08:44

igelkott2026 · 03/02/2026 16:44

YANBU - some people have ridiculous carbon footprints.

I did fly once last year. Some of the people I know were away every other weekend.

For info OP the highest emissions from transport relate to cars pretty sure this is wrong but perhaps it's right if you disregard private jets. But why would you?

I drive a hybrid and commute to work by foot/rail, so my car gets very little use. I suspect my one flight produced more carbon than my car use for the year.

I think that statistic is derived from ALL the car use in the country/ world, as opposed to ALL the flights in the country/ world. Which makes sense, because obviously far far more journeys are made by car!

If you were to break that down to carbon emissions per journey of an equal length, obviously flying would be a lot worse. You also have to look at how many people are in the car- obviously one car journey shared by 4 people is going to have a much smaller impact than 4 people flying! One person alone in a car not so much...

But you are right- we also need to look at reducing car use.

crackofdoom · 04/02/2026 08:53

TwinklyWrinkly · 04/02/2026 08:34

And that's absolutely fine if you consider your only foreign holiday option is Europe. What about New Zealand, Indonesia, Malawi or Sri Lanka for example? How do you explore the rest of world and experience vastly different cultures and environments if you don't have months to try and get there without using a plane?

I'm going to wait until the DC grow up and I am able to go somewhere long haul for several months, and then I would consider taking a trip like that, maybe once every several years.

How much "culture" do you really absorb in a jolly of a couple of weeks? A comfy hotel and a trip to everyone's favourite Instagram honeypot? I remember going to Morocco years ago for 3 weeks, and thinking "A trip so short is an insult to a massive, diverse country like this- there's so much to see!"

And there's nothing wrong with Europe- there's so much depth and richness and cultural diversity right here! We got as far as Bulgaria whilst Interrailing in the summer (and met the actual Man in Seat 61 on the train- he and his family were on the way to Turkey!).

crackofdoom · 04/02/2026 08:57

Hohofortherobbers · 03/02/2026 17:06

Life's short, you can stay home flagellating yourself if you want, im off to catch some rays 😎

Me too!
Can't wait for my trip to France/ Italy at Easter! By train...

Namingbaba · 04/02/2026 09:03

crackofdoom · 04/02/2026 08:33

How do you get from home to airport and from Spanish airport to destination though?

You rarely see this mentioned in calculations on the convenience of flying. It's as if people teleport there, rather than paying a fortune for taxis, paying a fortune for airport parking, or having to take a bus/ train at either end anyway.

There’s such a big difference in time and journeys required with my example that really the getting to the station/airport or leaving from it to your destination is negligible. When I said it involves 4 trains to go from Edinburgh to Valencia I also wasn’t including the transport to the train station. If I was to do it again from my current location I’d need another train.

Generally though train stations are in the centre of cities so that is a bonus. After you’ve been travelling for over 24 hours (in my case of Edinburgh to Valencia) it’s appreciated but still not any where near as convenient as by plane.

TwinklyWrinkly · 04/02/2026 09:04

crackofdoom · 04/02/2026 08:53

I'm going to wait until the DC grow up and I am able to go somewhere long haul for several months, and then I would consider taking a trip like that, maybe once every several years.

How much "culture" do you really absorb in a jolly of a couple of weeks? A comfy hotel and a trip to everyone's favourite Instagram honeypot? I remember going to Morocco years ago for 3 weeks, and thinking "A trip so short is an insult to a massive, diverse country like this- there's so much to see!"

And there's nothing wrong with Europe- there's so much depth and richness and cultural diversity right here! We got as far as Bulgaria whilst Interrailing in the summer (and met the actual Man in Seat 61 on the train- he and his family were on the way to Turkey!).

How much "culture" do you really absorb in a jolly of a couple of weeks? A comfy hotel and a trip to everyone's favourite Instagram honeypot? I remember going to Morocco years ago for 3 weeks, and thinking "A trip so short is an insult to a massive, diverse country like this- there's so much to see!"

Erm, if that's what you think travel is, you're doing it wrong! 😂And you know you can go back to a country more than once, to different areas, to see different aspects of the country? You seem to have a very narrow view if you think you have to go to "on a jolly" to a comfy hotel and to an "instagram honeypot" (what even is one of those, I don't have Instagram?!), just once per country.

And no, there is absolutely nothing wrong with Europe, lots to see, do and enjoy there, but it's a tiny part of the world!

Ferro · 04/02/2026 09:11

I don't go on vacation on airplanes. I go on holiday on aeroplanes.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 04/02/2026 09:15

I certainly won’t be swerving going on vacation by airplane, but I may largely avoid going on holiday by plane, if only because I’ve come to loathe bloody airports and planes.

RedToothBrush · 04/02/2026 09:22

crackofdoom · 04/02/2026 08:33

How do you get from home to airport and from Spanish airport to destination though?

You rarely see this mentioned in calculations on the convenience of flying. It's as if people teleport there, rather than paying a fortune for taxis, paying a fortune for airport parking, or having to take a bus/ train at either end anyway.

We drive to the British airport 10miles away or get a lift from a friend.

We use public transport or walk when in Spain. Cos it's actually useable and regular.

This is my problem. Public transport in the UK is just so terrible.

CloudPop · 04/02/2026 09:23

Ferro · 04/02/2026 09:11

I don't go on vacation on airplanes. I go on holiday on aeroplanes.

Same. And sorry, no I’m not going to “swerve” them. The impending climate catastrophe is not going to be averted by me not getting on a plane a few times a year. And yes I know - if everyone did it etc - but everyone’s not going to.

notimagain · 04/02/2026 09:24

Ferro · 04/02/2026 09:11

I don't go on vacation on airplanes. I go on holiday on aeroplanes.

Do you ever fly on a Boeing?

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Boeing_Commercial_Airplanes

catlovingdoctor · 04/02/2026 09:26

Ablondiebutagoody · 03/02/2026 12:23

Nah. Emissions from my holidays are trivial. Also, I don't totally believe in man made climate change 😱

Same, I'm just not convinced. The weather changes over the ages.

nam3c4ang3 · 04/02/2026 09:30

YANBU to ask - though, personally, i travel quite a bit, my family live in a different continent and i travel for work quite alot. One person not flying, or 10,000 not flying is not going to make a dent.