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To feel our quality of life in the UK gets lower every year?

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Playingvideogames · 01/02/2026 17:17

Off the back of another thread where I mentioned my childhood homes being bought by my parents for under 300k in the late 90s/early 2000s, and are now all selling for 700k+.

I feel like our quality of life just dwindles every year. Everything becomes more expensive. Housing is low quality, small and extortionate. The weather is awful 70% of the time. Everything feels so overcrowded with fewer green spaces and natural beauty as more housing estates go up. The roads are awful, choked with traffic and potholed. Constant roadworks here yet nothing ever seems to get solved. Customer service is a bit rubbish, nothing really works as intended. More and more rules about what you can and can’t do. People just seem stifled and stressed.

I’m sure people will rush along to say how wonderful the NHS is and similar, but I sometimes feel really envious of people living in places where (although not perfect) they have something reliable to enjoy - great weather, a nice big house, just more space and less overcrowding.

I don’t think I’m being unreasonable but I wonder if you do!

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lazybone1 · 01/02/2026 22:04

Free bus travel, free prescriptions. The state pension itself

True

lazybone1 · 01/02/2026 22:05

I think in the long run do something where people get paid back the NI they have paid etc

yes, they do this in lots of European countries, what you pay in determines what you get. We have a flat system which doesn’t work now.

UserFront242 · 01/02/2026 22:05

Jideom · 01/02/2026 22:00

Then make it the absolute ber minimum to survive. Gut it to the bone. Just the ber essentials

Basic pension is pretty much that anyway. No one on just the state pension is living the high life.

lazybone1 · 01/02/2026 22:06

UserFront242 · 01/02/2026 22:05

Basic pension is pretty much that anyway. No one on just the state pension is living the high life.

It doesn’t change the fact that the majority will not have paid enough tax to support years of a state pension and free healthcare. The maths doesn’t add up.

MeouwKing · 01/02/2026 22:07

Jideom · 01/02/2026 22:03

Free bus travel, free prescriptions. The state pension itself.

Better off pensioners wouldn't use the bus pass. Everyone get free prescriptions in Wales, and people who get the state pension have paid tax/NI for 35 plus years. The UK state pension isn't that generous. 1K a month, pensioners are hardly rolling in it.

UserFront242 · 01/02/2026 22:07

lazybone1 · 01/02/2026 22:06

It doesn’t change the fact that the majority will not have paid enough tax to support years of a state pension and free healthcare. The maths doesn’t add up.

Damn, those pesky pensioners living too long after retirement!

lazybone1 · 01/02/2026 22:08

@UserFront242 its to do with birth rates and demographics…,

genesis92 · 01/02/2026 22:09

LaurieFairyCake · 01/02/2026 18:20

We don’t have mass immigration 🤦‍♀️

honestly people can’t fucking count and believe the absolute lies the right wing dog whistling media tells us

Good grief. I’m always shocked when people like this actually exist

ThisOldThang · 01/02/2026 22:10

Jideom · 01/02/2026 22:02

I think in the long run do something where people get paid back the NI they have paid etc .it might take a few years and take a while but ultimately we land in a position where people are advised to save up for their own pensions and their own retirement and they can choose when to retire.

I think the state pension will be phased out when it's been 45 years since they introduced compulsory pension contributions. That system was introduced in 2012, so 2057 would be my guess for new retirees.

I'm not sure how they'll deal with people that deliberately opted out of the system. They really should get nothing and be forced to live with the consequences of their decisions, but they'll inevitably end up getting a state pension of some kind.

Jideom · 01/02/2026 22:11

UserFront242 · 01/02/2026 22:05

Basic pension is pretty much that anyway. No one on just the state pension is living the high life.

That's kinda how it should be.

Makes me wonder why people didn't save privately when they worked.

Looking at the data, it tells me pensioner warfare is the largest component of welfare expenditure. The triple lock is unsustainable and pensioners on average are quite wealthy.

lazybone1 · 01/02/2026 22:11

and people who get the state pension have paid tax/NI for 35 plus years.

It wasn’t always 35 years and the fact remains the majority haven’t paid enough tax for it. Just think logically about it eg what the pension is, how long people are living, healthcare costs and average salaries.

Crushed23 · 01/02/2026 22:12

ThisOldThang · 01/02/2026 21:48

@Playingvideogames

Off the back of another thread where I mentioned my childhood homes being bought by my parents for under 300k in the late 90s/early 2000s, and are now all selling for 700k+.

The value of money has almost halved since the year 2000, so you'd expect a £300k house to now cost £577k if house prices were linked to CPI.

But... wages have increased at an average of 3.4% since 2000, which is a total of 2.4x wage growth. The house would need to cost more than £719k to be less affordable for the average worker.

I think you're buying into the narrative of' crazy house prices' and 'injustice', but you're actually in exactly the same position as your parents.

I’m glad I’m not the only one who thought £300k -> £700k in 25-30 years isn’t quite the amazing ROI the OP has painted it as.

lazybone1 · 01/02/2026 22:12

The triple lock is unsustainable and pensioners on average are quite wealthy.

Every politician knows it’s not sustainable but they won’t act yet.

UserFront242 · 01/02/2026 22:12

lazybone1 · 01/02/2026 22:08

@UserFront242 its to do with birth rates and demographics…,

It is ok, I kind of understand. You see posts saying pensioners have "paid in" all their lives. No, not all of them have. Both my grandmothers only worked full time before they got married, and they married in their late teen. That was the normal then. Women got married and quit work.
Disabled people that do not work get benefits and get a stamp for NI, and still get pension at retirement age.

MeouwKing · 01/02/2026 22:13

ThisOldThang · 01/02/2026 22:10

I think the state pension will be phased out when it's been 45 years since they introduced compulsory pension contributions. That system was introduced in 2012, so 2057 would be my guess for new retirees.

I'm not sure how they'll deal with people that deliberately opted out of the system. They really should get nothing and be forced to live with the consequences of their decisions, but they'll inevitably end up getting a state pension of some kind.

That would be my 100th year. Imagine living to 100 and being told, you can't have your pension any more. What job would I do?

UserFront242 · 01/02/2026 22:14

Jideom · 01/02/2026 22:11

That's kinda how it should be.

Makes me wonder why people didn't save privately when they worked.

Looking at the data, it tells me pensioner warfare is the largest component of welfare expenditure. The triple lock is unsustainable and pensioners on average are quite wealthy.

Some people reaching retirement age are disabled and not had the chance to save. Or people on low wage, because not everyone is capable of climbing a career ladder, or is even in a job that has a ladder to begin with.

ThisOldThang · 01/02/2026 22:15

MeouwKing · 01/02/2026 22:13

That would be my 100th year. Imagine living to 100 and being told, you can't have your pension any more. What job would I do?

"For new retirees"

They obviously couldn't remove it from people that have already retired.

UserFront242 · 01/02/2026 22:16

MeouwKing · 01/02/2026 22:13

That would be my 100th year. Imagine living to 100 and being told, you can't have your pension any more. What job would I do?

OnlyGrans?

MeouwKing · 01/02/2026 22:16

lazybone1 · 01/02/2026 22:12

The triple lock is unsustainable and pensioners on average are quite wealthy.

Every politician knows it’s not sustainable but they won’t act yet.

The conservatives talked of a quadruple lock.

lazybone1 · 01/02/2026 22:18

MeouwKing · 01/02/2026 22:13

That would be my 100th year. Imagine living to 100 and being told, you can't have your pension any more. What job would I do?

Imagine telling a young person that they need to work longer and pay more tax for something they won’t see.

lazybone1 · 01/02/2026 22:18

MeouwKing · 01/02/2026 22:16

The conservatives talked of a quadruple lock.

desperation

Jaffalemons · 01/02/2026 22:19

qoqoa · 01/02/2026 18:36

WHICH European country is doing better? Please tell?

Well it ain’t France, of that I’m sure.

Germany, er, no

Poland. Yes, Poland!

lazybone1 · 01/02/2026 22:21

It is ok, I kind of understand. You see posts saying pensioners have "paid in" all their lives. No, not all of them have

Of course they haven’t & it didn’t matter when you had pyramid demographics eg in the 60s there were 5 workers to 1 worker but we are not far off a ratio of 2:1. We already have more over 65s than under 15s, people have their head in the sand.

WinterFaye2 · 01/02/2026 22:27

Theonlywayicanloveyou · 01/02/2026 17:20

disagree with you on house building though - only 11 per cent of the uk is developed and we have a huge accommodation crisis.

Where is this fact coming from, it feels vastly underestimated.

Jideom · 01/02/2026 22:31

UserFront242 · 01/02/2026 22:14

Some people reaching retirement age are disabled and not had the chance to save. Or people on low wage, because not everyone is capable of climbing a career ladder, or is even in a job that has a ladder to begin with.

I fully support disability benefits and don't think they should be cut. They aren't even enough at times.

The low wage stuff, I'll have to disagree there and say there should be an element of personal responsibility. Also isn't there automatic pension enrollment now as well.