Should we split the payment equally?

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I’m going on a getaway with my friends and their family’s. We have booked one big house and so far decided to split it per couple. However, 2 of the families going have 3 children going… therefore will need more rooms… opposed to me and my partner who will only need one room.

aibu to think that the couple with the bigger families should need to pay a little bit more for the extra rooms?

What is the 5 bed cost 5,000 but the 3 bed suitable for 3 couples was say £4,500

would you expect the childless couple to pay 1,000 and the couples with children to pay 2,000.
or childless couple £1,500
couples with children £1,750 (£1,500 plus half of the incremental difference).

not saying one is right or wrong, just interested in your view.

Bit different because it's me, dh and adult dc +younger dc but we split the trip by working adults..... So 5 k house would be 5 working adults paying 1k each. We do pay for the food for 2 adults and the younger dc.. Fuel is 2 cars worth divided by the working adults...
Take turns who gets the 'best room'..

If it was agreed before booking that it was to be split per couple it's not reasonable to try to change that now.

However, in the future, per room is fairest (with adjustments if there's clearly superior/inferior rooms).

In lots of cases I would actually agree that splitting between adults is only is fair enough but in this case it seems a bit unfair on your adult children who are subsidising their younger brother. What is the age difference ?

If it’s family we just split by adult couples .. I don’t my paying a bit towards a nice holiday for my Nieces and Nephews

I think it's totally fine to renege. What would happen if you said "hang on Steve, it's just occurred to me that you're taking the piss a bit here"

I would consider myself quite tight but I would look at it that children do not have an income. So would be willing to split between all adults. Never been in this scenario as only went away with friends before we all had children.

Anyone remember the episode of Motherland where they all rent a house?

Adult dd is mid 30's.. Ds is 11!!
Adult dc once shared a room with small dc! They are very close anyway so wasn't an issue...

For some reason this feels a bit wrong to me. Maybe because it feels like a family holiday which your adult daughter has been invited to but then you charge her more than the incremental costs of her joining

Split per room

Depends if the kids are in with the parents or in their own rooms

I agree. Subsidising their siblings is unfair.

This should have been discussed beforehand. In our family the adults split bills equally, dinner etc mind you we would never house share on a getaway, I love them but no thanks.