Should we split the payment equally?

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I’m going on a getaway with my friends and their family’s. We have booked one big house and so far decided to split it per couple. However, 2 of the families going have 3 children going… therefore will need more rooms… opposed to me and my partner who will only need one room.

aibu to think that the couple with the bigger families should need to pay a little bit more for the extra rooms?

Depends how much a 5 bed versus a 3 bed costs though. If not much more then maybe not really fair to split by room, especially if the op ends up with a nicer room than the kids.

Exactly this

It would be reasonable to split by bedrooms needed but if you have already agreed an equal split I can see why they might not agree. How are food etc costs being split?

They’ll deffo run in the door & bag the best rooms, too!

Broadly I would say split by number of rooms used. Equally is it super cheap and are you rolling it, so can you therefore just afford to split it by couple.

whoever suggested that way of splitting the bill clearly has the children!!!

If you're paying an equal proportion who's deciding on the rooms. It's probably too late to renegotiate the split but you need to speak up on room allocation. If you're given the worst room after paying extra at least you'll know what you're heading into. Make sure it's clear how food and meals out will be divided too.

The cost should be split per room taking into account facilities, those with an en-suite for their use only should perhaps pay more than those to who have to share a bathroom with others.

The problem is you have booked and agreed who is paying what already. The families with children may already be at the top of their budget, or agreed to book because the price was cheaper than they expected and now you want them to pay more. You might have to keep your mouth shut now and suck it up to avoid falling out with the others.

Going forward make sure that all holiday costs are fairly shared out so that you are not subsidising food and activities etc for other people’s children.

Based on what?

Split per room.

But if you agreed to split per couple before it was booked then suck it up.

Yes without a doubt. Each couple pays for the rooms that they need. As a parent I’d never expect a couple with no kids to sub my children’s room payment!!

You’ve already agreed to split by couple. The others will expect you to pay as agreed.

Next time you should think about these things before agreeing!

Why on earth did you agree to this booking without uttering the words 'how do people think we should split the cost?'

What's the betting you'll pay the same as the families with three kids but they'll get the biggest rooms with a king size bed and a large en suite , they'll want the nearby rooms for their kids so they can keep an ear out for them, so you'll end up with a twin room or a crap double in the loft with the uneven floor and the spiders, with low ceiling and no bathroom, hangers or mirror!

And then you can do a massive shop where you end up subsidising their kids' snacks!

I'd go away on your own 😂

If you've already agreed it's too late to change the plan now. But in general, why would you go away with families with kids when you don't have kids yourselves?! Kid holidays are definitely not fun for the child free.

Who decided to split it per couple? Your friends are taking you for mugs. Split it per room.

If it hasn’t been booked then it’s not
too late.

Just kidding… I’ll get me coat!

These type of people always do.

It should be split by the number of rooms used with adjustments if some of the rooms are ensuite or small etc.
Splitting by family always ends up with the couples without children or singles having to pay disproportionally more and that isn't fair.

But it should have been agreed before you booked.

The larger families need to pay more. Unless you say something now, you’re going to pay to subsidise the larger families accommodation and when you get there someone will announce that food shall be split equally between couples but the families will get a load of shit that only their kids can eat.

we have three children, I wouldn’t dream of going on holiday with a mixed group and expecting to pay the same as a family of five as a couple.

unless of course the difference is negligible.

I agree.

Its already been booked and sounds like it was agreed to be spilt by couple so you’ll just have to accept it.

But in the future then perhaps mention it before agreeing.

Bitter experience

Maybe hold your tongue this time since it's booked.. Make sure food /other costs are split fairly though or you are funding other people's trip!!

depends on facilities as some others have said - pool, large living space, luxurious house, en suite, bedroom size, view.
have split three ways before between couples and not included kids room - rooms were not equitable, we gave choice of rooms to others (suite with balcony, view, en-suite) and took smaller room with shared bathroom and no view or balcony. Evened out cost difference I think. Shared space and facilities makes a difference to split.

Of course - in my experience cost is divided per room i.e. if it's £5000 and there are 5 rooms its £1000 per room. Seems like a no brainer

This is a good point however if the rooms are not broadly similar