SIL perfect pictures

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My SIL has taken some of the most perfect, aesthetically pleasing photos of her under 6 month old. From newborn to now. They are currently on holiday, think, back of the head crawling in the sand toward horizon shot.
I feel so much less of a parent looking at her photos. They have beautiful black and white hand holding ones. Horizon shots in the sand. Matching Christmas pyjamas etc etc

I dont have nay photographs that match the class of hers. But I loves my kids so much.
Have I failed them by not taking the Instagram worthy shots?
I feel like a total failure.
For the record I have 3, 6 and under and I feel I should have done better like my sil

Please tell me this is a wind up post??

You may be more of a parent.
How many pictures had to be taken to take those perfect ones?

Good god is this real? Of course you haven’t failed your children by not having insta perfect pics.

I've never known taking pics of children as a yard stick of good parenting ?

I feel like a total failure

Quite right. Try harder.

I’m sure your sil loves her child too.

My photos are always a bit crappy. BIL has a fancy phone and spends ages taking and editing pictures of his kids. But that doesn’t make any of them happier or healthier the my kids.

dont let instagram jealousy steal your enjoyment of your own lovely kids.

Your children are not going to grow up wishing that you had spent more of their childhood posing them for instagram worthy photo opportunities. Your love, care, respect and safety is what they will remember about their childhood.

Instagram doesn’t show people’s real lives. It is for crafting an image that they want to display. Some people use up so much time, energy and resources creating an idyllic looking life on social media that their real life and children take a back seat to the planning, prop buying, photo shoots, editing and tracking likes and comments. Your priorities and where they ought to be.

What a ridiculous concept.

Some people are good photographers and others are not why would that have any bearing on how you raised your child?

Are you actually serious or are you being sarcastic?

For THoose asking if this is a wind up. It genuinely isn't!
My SIL has such beautiful photographer worthy photos THAT SHE has created at home to commemorate her DC milestones.i didn't even think to do this myself. The photos are lovely. Ones you could put on your wall, and now I feel I've missed my boat/opportunity to do so with my DC.
her photos are beautiful mine are just ones of my DC playing normally not lighted or composed etc

By that criteria, my husband must be a crap partner.
I don't think he has ever taken a pic of me unless I am gurning or the wind has whipped my hair over my face.🙄

An under-six-months-old crawling?

Good lord! When my kids were little, it was the odd snap with a Kodak instamatic. Loads of (mostly bad) photos of the first child, fewer with number 2, and nothing but school photos by the time we got to number 5. They have all managed to grow up to be perfectly well adjusted adults.

Honestly you are over thinking this. I love photography and was taught to take photos on an slr that my dad had 40 years ago. I love lining up a good picture and capturing memories but that means I actually have lovely photos of my kids and almost none of me with them. Because it’s always been me that takes the photos, for the entire family. I’d give 99% of my thousands and thousands of photos back to have just a few half decent ones of me actually being present in the moment with my kids instead of seeing every single experience through a camera Lense.

If your sil's photos are affecting you this much, genuinely I think you should talk to your gp about your mood and how you're coping atm
I've never looked at a photo and assumed someone must love their kid more than I do cos it's a bit more professional looking

If it’s affecting you this much it’s probably time you came off instagram op

I agree. This reaction suggests you should probably speak to someone about how you're feeling. You have three young children and you sound like you need some support with your mental health.

Sounds like photography is her hobby, and she's good at it. It's got nothing to do with parenting.

If your SIL could play the piano, would you feel like a failure because you couldn't?

Have I failed them by not taking the Instagram worthy shots?

Oh stop it for goodness sake 🙄

Some of the AIBU questions lately are ridiculous.

Can you send us your details so we can report you to Child Services?

Or 101.

Or something.

How many times have you looked at a picture of yourself as a baby? How much do you really care about those picture, apart from the odd sweet one where you’re really laughing or covered in chocolate cake or something?

Exactly.

Comparison is the thief of joy.

I have a lot of photos of my husband's feet in various locations when I said "take a photo of us please!" But you know, I actually remember more of the day based on what he's standing on or his shoes that year 😄

Because you sound like you may be a bit depressed OP, I will throw in that @HeddaGarbled , while hilarious, is almost surely being sarcastic

So your SIL is good at photography. That doesn't make her a better parent. It's no different to someone being good at netball.