SIL perfect pictures

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My SIL has taken some of the most perfect, aesthetically pleasing photos of her under 6 month old. From newborn to now. They are currently on holiday, think, back of the head crawling in the sand toward horizon shot.
I feel so much less of a parent looking at her photos. They have beautiful black and white hand holding ones. Horizon shots in the sand. Matching Christmas pyjamas etc etc

I dont have nay photographs that match the class of hers. But I loves my kids so much.
Have I failed them by not taking the Instagram worthy shots?
I feel like a total failure.
For the record I have 3, 6 and under and I feel I should have done better like my sil

HAS to be. There are some really OTT ridiculous conundrums in trending posts at the minute.

I grew up in the 1980s, we had a camera but half the photos came out with someone’s finger over the lens

This absolutely cannot be real and if it is, I feel genuinely sorry for you and your children if you think this is something to be concerned about and that some sort of curated photo symbolises your worth as a parent.

Most of us grew up well before digital photos were a thing. Most of my childhood photos involve someone with their eyes shut, or the photo out of focus, a finger over the lenses or red eyes. Does it matter or do I care? No. As someone said the main thing is love and spending meaningful time with your children. You don't need some a ridiculous over the top photo to prove this.

My SIL has some nice pictures of her kids and family. After witnessing how she gets those pictures I am happy I don't force that shite on my own. It is not a lovely day out if you are screaming at your kids and husband if the picture isn't perfect, and I feel sorry for my neices/nephews and BIL whenever I see new happy family pictures posted.

Are said photos all tagged with #ad #gifted etc?

Have I failed them by not taking the Instagram worthy shots?
I feel like a total failure.

I mean seriously? Come on OP, do you really think this constitutes being a failure? If this was the case, we'd have generations of people in therapy due to the trauma of crappy photos that were the case pre-instagram.

Do you honestly think you're kids are going to grow up and resent you because you didn't dress them up in some daft outfit for a photo shoot or took photos of them crawling into the sunset?

If anything they'll be relieved you didn't make them perform for the camera and treat them like content for your Instagram for likes. We're already starting to see the harm caused to children being paraded on social media who cannot consent to it.

And anyway the photos I like best from my childhood are the ones that would never be considered Instagram worthy anyway. The one where I'm covered head to toe in spaghetti bolognese as a toddler or the one where someone is caught of guard doing a stupid face or expression. There the photos you love to look back on. The ones that actually show real life

I also have 3 kids 6 and under - I didn't take a picture at all* for a fortnight too busy surviving 🤣

*That's a lie I took a picture of my 6yo shopping list yesterday strauberries was too cute not to.

Is it the school holidays?

This in abundance

You're just wanting to take a pop at your SiL. Own it and stop pretending you feel "less of a parent" because of photos she's had taken of HER kids🙄

Ask her to take some pics of your kids next time you're together, sounds like she has a knack for it.

This is hilarious. No offence OP, please get off social media. It’s a photo.

Please please don't be concerned about this!! Honestly, my favourite photos of my DCs are the unposed, spur of the moment ones, or the ones where they're pulling a silly face, or those little snapshots of something everyday. Of course there are times I take more 'posed' ones, where I get them to stand together, in front of a particularly nice view or something, but the most treasured ones are the ones of our real life, the little moments that we all love and have happy memories of. Just enjoy your DC, take photos of whatever you want, whenever you want, because when they're adults you'll look back and be so so glad you caught those 'imperfect' but wonderful moments with your DC ❤️