White bridal dress or not?

[Notaboutthebass]

I'm getting married for the second time. How many of you older brides/ married not for the first time felt comfortable wearing white? Or anyone really, what are your opinions on this?

I went for a cream dress and coat (Winter wedding). . White just didn’t really feel right to me. 😊

The whole myth that white symbolises purity annoys me. Wear what you want. White was actually popularised by Queen Victoria, it was seen as a symbol of doing well that you would have a gown in an impractical colour like white. Most brides wore their best dress and it had to be used time and again so white was only for rich people who could afford to use a dress once.

Depends on the wedding. Huge thing in church with 200 guests, go for the full white princess. Small registry office, wear something much smaller and more fun.

Do you want to wear a white dress and are you comfortable in it?

Yours is really the only opinion that matters. Congrats!

I wore cream. White is quite stark and unforgiving. It was 20+ years ago now, but if im honest I wish I had chosen a less formal dress. If I was getting married today I'd wear something like a satin dress from Ghost.

I’m nearly 60 and have never been married. If it ever happens, I’m having the white dress! Wear what you want OP, whatever you feel comfortable in. Whatever age, weight, height or shape I wouldn’t think anything about any bride wearing white on her wedding day.

I wore a coloured dress to my first wedding and my bridesmaids wore black, one had a black catsuit, one a short dress and one a black trousers suit. My 2nd wedding i wore a silver evening dress.
You do you

If you want white, have white. It’s your wedding, and the people there will be the people who love and like you the most: anyone there who’d give you side-eye for wearing white either shouldn’t be there, or would find a reason to give you side-eye for whatever you choose.

My only anti-white comment is that there’s much more choice available if you don’t, and you aren’t restricted to bridal shops and what’s “in for brides” this season, and all the bridal shop faff and upselling.

I'd had a off-white/light cream dress for my first (tiny) wedding.
I went with a huge white kind-of-meringue 😬 for my second one.

If white suits you and you want to, go for it!!! Especially if you didn't go the whole hog the first time. I don't see why anyone would object, after all, how many brides nowadays are virgins, it must be a small minority. Before I get a load of US Evangelicals jumping down my throat, I'm talking about the UK.

I wore scarlet for my second wedding.

I wore an ivory dress.

it was the first time of married him. My first marriage had nothing to do with it:

it's the first time for the two of you: wear what the hell you live and enjoy every minute

I've only been married once, but very few bridal gowns are actually stark white. Majority are light cream or have hints of champagne, pink, green etc which wouldn't be noticeable unless next to a stark white dress.

I've had 2 friends re marry- one in her early 40's, the other late 40's. Both wore none 'white' dresses. 1 had an amazing, full length dress. Over 1 shoulder was a ruffle which continue down the back of the dress and made a small train. It was more stunning than most bridal gowns I've seen! The other wore a cocktail length dress which was very nice.

What do you feel comfortable in? Have you tried any bridal gowns on? Would a colour be more flattering with your hair/skin? Would you feel you missed out if you don't have a traditional gown?

Wear what suits you the best

I got married last year. It was my second time round, and I wore a gorgeous ivory ballgown. I bloody LOVED it.

I got married for the second time and wasnt going to wear white or ivory. BUT I found the most stunning wedding dress in ivory and fell in love with it on, bought it and dont regret it. If I could wear it every day I would 😂

Wear what you want!

I didn’t even try on any white dresses. White is not me.
I went for gold! Loved it.

Im with you, it wasnt a ball gown, it was a corset top, strapless, A line, silk stunning gown and it was amazing. underneath I wore paradox flatflorm pearl trainers, I danced all day, all night, had a great time with my husband, family and friends and never had sore feet. If I could do it all again tomorrow I would.

I got married for the second time in November. I wasn't planning on wearing white, but my best mate talked me into it and I'm so glad she did! I wore a tea length full skirted retro dress in ivory with a bit petticoat ubderneat and a cropped fake fur jacket and I felt amazing! I certainly didn't feel it was an inappropriate outfit for me.

Wear what you fancy! I’ve been married once (30 years ago) and had a pale gold dress. White doesn’t suit me.

one friend got married in green, another one wore a red dress. Others wore white. No one cared. Wear what you feel makes you look awesome and are comfortable in.

My niece was married 20 years or so ago . It was her first and only wedding, still married to him . She wore a purple ball gown which was stunning on her as she is a redhead and very pale skinned . She was married in a castle near Scotland and there was very deep snow . The wedding photos are beautiful especially the ones taken in the castle grounds .

You should pick the colour that suits you, I look HORRIFIC in cream. Literally like the walking dead but bright white is perfect for me.

So I wore white all the times I got married.

Thank you everyone. I really want to wear white and before now I never would have questioned it. It's interesting to get views on it, not sure why I panicked.

I don't even know if white will suit me yet! I have medium to dark brown hair and haven't a clue what my skin tone is classed as.

I've also seriously considered getting platform trainers, great idea. Thank you.

Go to a bridal shop and try a few on. Then you will know.

I got married last May, second time round. We were both 58.

I was convinced I’d go non traditional but then I realised white was the dream. And if you can’t wear white on your wedding day, when can you?

I tried a few on and fell in love with a simple gown with a Tshirt neckline and felt like a queen. With emerald green heels. Had trainers for later and managed a second pale blue silk dress.

We got married in a country village church but small affair. 60. Was a wonderful day.

Wear what you want! It’s insulting to have our value tied to our ‘purity’ and be expected to declare that by the colour we wear. My second marriage I was asked so many times if I would wear white and then when I wore ivory was congratulated on finding a beautiful dress in a suitable colour. I can’t see that I’d ever marry again after two terrible experiences but if I do I’m wearing a bold offensive colour like lime green or neon orange 🤣