DH, DS, DD, DMIL…. and so on

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I appreciate all the D this and D started as shorthand, to make posting easier but does anyone else think it probably needs to end. It’s actually more confusing half the time, especially when we get into then realms of siblings, in laws, step children.

Or AIBU?

Never seen anyone say DMIL

It's a simple, well understood abbreviation.
People who don't like/mean the 'D' put it in quote marks to show that, again, easily understood.

Pretty much self explanatory once you get used to it, and 'D' can be utilised for dickhead if you so wish 😆

I don't have a problem with it. However I am a bit of a hypocrite in that on a lot of the threads describing a " D" H's appalling behaviour I can't bring myself to use the abbreviation and just use H. When it's an appalling " D " P just using P looks so stupid I actually use the full word partner.

Please, whatever happens, don't stop posters from using DDog or DCat I think they are wonderful. Makes me smile every time.

Yeah, this. Makes me laugh - 'I hate my DM'; 'DH is a knob'; 'my DSD ran over my cat on purpose'.

They don't sound very 'D' to me!!

Yes it gets ridiculous but I always struggle far more to keep up when people decide to give all the characters names because then I get lost remember who Charlie and how Bob is related to Vincent and why it matters that Georgina saw something that Vivienne wasn’t aware of.

How else would you cop someone is talking about their dog unless they put Ddog though....

I think it’s fine and much quicker to type. Ddog dcat however…..

I doubt you're going to change the Internet.
My advice is train your brain to read dh as husband etc.
Thats what I did.

I find it hilarious sometimes.
I understand using abbreviations to save on having to type out more letters but the "D" think is just daft ("Ddaft" 🤔)
But other people seem happy to do it so I don't really care anymore.

I found it confusing and odd about a decade when I joined MN.
But i didn't try to change it or complain as it was already and established practice in a new group I was joining. So I learned what it meant, got used to it, and now doing think about it. I saw it as integrating into an existing culture in order to make new acquaintances and learn new stuff.

But AIBU is fine?

Why wouldn't it be? There's no ambiguity with AIBU as it isn't used for multiple longhands.

It annoys me and always has done (especially ddog and dcat. I'll take it as read you love your pet. Stop being so performative. It's not like the cat's going to read it over your shoulder and say " oh I see. DD, DS, DH, DMIL and just "cat" . Well it's obvious where I stand in this family") but as others have pointed out its not just exclusive to MN. Plus it's been a thing since pre history. It's not going to stop. I just roll my eyes a bit and concentrate on the rest of the post.

Fair enough.

I don’t find it particularly hard to work out from context whether someone is talking about a general practitioner or a grandparent.

Grandparents don’t normally have waiting lists or misdiagnose illlnesses etc and you don’t usually need advice about which set of doctors to visit on Christmas morning or whatever.

Someone once said on one of these threads that they thought STBXH meant stupid bastard ex husband and that’s what I always think of whenever I see that one ever since 😄

To me it'd always "son of a bitch ex husband" even though the letters don't even match. Probably why I quite like that one.

Not this again 😆

I love DDog (because pets are always worthy of being ‘dear’!) and use it any chance I get on here

No it's fine. Though I draw the line at DDog.

Just FIL would be fine. It's the D everything that is infuriating.

It's fine for DH DD DS etc.
It's not needed for FIL and MIL, everyone knows what these mean without the D.
Ddog drives me mad! Never seen Dpuppy though - ridiculous 😂

I like them too. And when I see things like Dhamster, it's makes me smile.

Well before I knew any better I thought LTB meant "learn to breathe" which very often made perfect sense!

Lol. I like that too 😄

I'm fine with DF, DD etc, but I can't follow when there's a Friend 1, Friend 2, Friend 3, etc etc,. I prefer made up names for this scenario.